A good attitude can achieve more self-worth, while a negative attitude can hinder the realization of self-worth
A good attitude can achieve more self-worth, while a negative attitude can hinder the realization of self-worth.
In the 1920s, some experts in the United States were commissioned by Chicago Western Electric Power Company to conduct a study on “Factors Affecting Production Efficiency” at the Hawthorne Factory. The results showed that the most important factor affecting production efficiency was people’s social and psychological satisfaction and The relationships that develop at work, not just the physical environment of the job and wages and benefits.
In other words, when an individual’s work gets the attention of society, people will respond with a positive attitude, thus improving labor efficiency. This social phenomenon is called the “Hawthorne Effect.”
A good mentality can realize more self-worth, on the contrary, a negative mentality will hinder the realization of self-worth.
Therefore, some people say that a positive attitude creates life, while a negative attitude consumes life.
A positive attitude is the source of success, the sunshine and warmth of life, while a negative attitude is the beginning of failure and the invisible killer of life.
Inner depression is the enemy in life. What should you do if you encounter something unsatisfactory?
One of the best ways is to learn to vent.
There is a Korean folktale called “The Emperor Has Donkey Ears”.
It is said that the emperor with donkey ears only let the barber know his secret, and ordered the barber to swear not to reveal the secret.
As time went by, the barber felt uncomfortable keeping this secret in his heart, which almost drove him crazy.
Then, he did not dare to tell this secret to outsiders. If he told it, he would not only break his promise, but also attract death.
Later, he finally came up with a two-pronged solution: dig a big hole in the ground, and yell at the hole a few times every day: “The emperor has grown a pair of donkey ears!” After he vented his anger, he became mentally balanced.
When it comes to “catharsis,” people think of it as a derogatory term.
But in medicine, “catharsis” is a neutral term, even a complimentary term.
Because we encounter some unpleasant things every day, this causes a lot of psychological pressure on people.
Psychological stress is an unfavorable factor that causes people to get sick. If there is excessive stress, psychological balance will be lost.
Therefore, we must be good at releasing psychological pressure in a timely manner, which is called “catharsis” in medicine.
There are generally two ways to vent normally, one is to vent through the mouth, and the other is to vent at hand.
There are two types of verbal venting. One is talking to oneself. For example, someone is angry with his boss and does not dare to get angry with him, so he has to buy a bottle of wine and drink it by himself while cursing . Don’t look at his poor image. , but his general direction is correct. After scolding, the anger has dissipated, and nothing will happen if he covers his head and sleeps again. However, don’t drink too much, otherwise, the anger will be released and alcohol poisoning will occur. Not cost-effective.
The second is to talk to others. When you are “full of anger”, you might as well find someone close to you, someone who understands you, and pour out all the resentment in your stomach, so that you can get relief.
But you must choose the right person, because someone who doesn’t understand you cannot listen to your “complaints”. After all, listening to other people’s complaints is not a pleasant thing. If he listens to you while doing other things, he will Being absent-minded will actually make you angrier. Moreover, people who don’t understand you will often contradict you and say things like “Well, you really shouldn’t be like that…” which simply adds fuel to the fire and makes you angry. Furious to death.
Catharsis at hand can also be divided into two types. One is to vent in words. After you are angry with someone or something , use the pen in your hand to “write” as quickly as possible to write it down, or write a fiercely worded letter to scold the other person, but please remember that this You can only write letters but not send them.
Lincoln, the 16th President of the United States, often used this method to vent his anger.
When he was angry with others outside, he wrote a letter scolding the other person when he got home. The next day, his family wanted to send a letter for him, but he refused: “When I wrote the letter, I had already vented my anger, why bother to send it?” Go out and cause trouble!” Lincoln also passed on this “secret” to his subordinates.
One day, Secretary of War Stanton came to Lincoln’s office and said angrily that a major general had used insulting words to accuse him of favoring some people. Lincoln suggested that Stanton write a harsh letter in response to the guy. “You can give him a good scolding,” said Lincoln.
Stanton immediately wrote a fiery letter and showed it to the president.
“That’s right, that’s right,” Lincoln cheered loudly, “That’s what I want! Teach him a lesson. That’s great, Stanton.”
But when Stanton folded the letter and put it in the envelope, Lincoln stopped him and asked, “What do you want to do?”
“Send it.” Stanton was a little confused.
“Don’t be ridiculous,” Lincoln said loudly. “You can’t send this letter. Throw it into the stove. This is how I handle all letters written when I’m angry. This letter is well written. When you wrote it, you were already I feel better now that I have relieved myself, so please burn it and write a second letter.”
The second type of catharsis at hand is through creative catharsis, which is the highest state of catharsis.
Another form of catharsis is physical catharsis.
If there is certain destructive behavior such as throwing pots, bowls, and objects, etc., active prevention and guidance should be provided.
From a mental health perspective, venting is an extremely effective way to eliminate anger in your heart. Venting can reduce mental fatigue, make you relaxed and happy, and help you devote yourself to future work energetically.
Please don’t “store” psychological stress in your heart, otherwise it will accumulate more and more, and then it will explode and you will be in trouble.
When faced with dissatisfaction, we must learn to vent, then calm down, treat it with a peaceful attitude, and tolerate it with a tolerant attitude.
There is a lyrics: “It’s a lifetime no matter how you live it!” Life must go on no matter what.
In short, by choosing a method that suits you and effectively relieves your emotions based on these perspectives, you will be able to control your emotions instead of letting them control you .
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