A good marriage never emphasizes giving but comes from the cultivation of each other in three aspects
Some people say that giving is the key to a happy marriage. This is not the case. Overemphasis on giving will only put pressure on the other party and make the relationship breathless. Managing a good marriage relationship is not only a kind of cultivation but also a kind of wisdom.
The way people got along in the past tells us the truth. A high-quality marital relationship comes from the following three aspects of practice:
01. Cherish fate and know how to cherish each other.
What does it mean to cherish each other and how to implement it? In my opinion, it is companionship.
Companionship is the basis for promoting a relationship between two people. It is precisely in the process of companionship that couples can better understand each other’s current situation, observe each other’s emotional changes, and give corresponding emotional value on time.
It’s the time we invest in our partners that makes the difference between our relationships and our relationships with others.
The value of marriage is to manage it well and to know how to cherish the fate of each other. In this life, there is someone who can love us and take care of us. I think it is also the result of the exchange of sincerity between each other.
02. Understand each other and know how to support each other.
Mutual support is a “deposit” for the relationship, which makes the relationship between the couple have a “surplus” and can make the two people closer.
At the same time, be realistic when it comes to your relationship. Happy couples have realistic expectations and know that their relationship is about more than sunshine and color.
After experiencing the early stages of admiring each other and valuing each other better than themselves, the two know that their relationship will also have twists and turns. Realizing this, the two will support each other no matter what.
At the same time, we should also realize that it is not easy for each other. It is much easier to accept each other than to expect to change each other, and this will also greatly reduce the quarrels between you.
Instead of always complaining about the other person not doing housework, why not do it yourself? Although this may not solve the problem, if you let the other party see your efforts, the other party will understand you and help you share the burden.
I agree with one sentence: Cognition is an insurmountable gap between people.
A good relationship can only last for a long time if you are not tired of being together. Two people with different cognitions and different perspectives on things are destined to be unable to communicate and understand each other. He cannot understand your distress; you cannot empathize with his hesitation.
The cognitive gap will build a high wall between two people, and no matter how good the relationship is, it will be worn away. Only people with the same cognitive level can understand each other’s difficulties, support each other, and go further.
03. Understand each other’s differences and respect them.
Marriage is not about meeting the other person because of excellence, but becoming a better version of yourself because of meeting the other person. A good marriage must be mutually beneficial. A good marriage allows us to understand each other’s differences and work hard to bridge the gap, while maintaining respect and appreciation.
You have your copper branches and iron trunks, and I have the red flowers.
There are differences between the two parties in love. It’s not attachment, it’s not crushing, it’s not one-way worship. Good love encourages both parties to grow together.
If only one party is making progress and the other party keeps standing still, then one day the two parties will no longer be able to have in-depth communication, and the other party will no longer be their “confidant”.
The best form of love is to make progress together and take unknown risks together, just as Shu Ting wrote in “To Kapok”: If I love you, I will never be like a climbing flower that borrows your beautiful branches to show off…
“Good love is not something you meet, but something you develop.” It seems a little thin to rely on marriage alone to connect two people, but after getting to know each other, they understand each other’s differences and Only a marriage that can accept differences and face them together and improve them can be successful and happy.
My favorite blogger once wrote this sentence: My family of origin gave me three things: freedom to choose a career, freedom to marry, and freedom to have children. As a result, I have a healthy reborn family and am about to start an interesting and promising life.
Marriage is a practice, it is about seeing yourself and managing each other more completely in this relationship. Giving is not about caring about how much each other gives;
And a kind of free dedication and harvest of the fruits of love. It is also like a kind of magic that makes two independent and mature people want to cherish each other, support each other, and accompany each other patiently and respectfully.
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