A happy marriage is when each party gives each other these three things
Happy marriages are all alike, and every unhappy marriage is unhappy in its way.
The older you get, the more you will understand that a happy marriage is about giving each other these three things.
01. Stand firmly on your lover’s side and be the person who supports them.
In real life, if you meet someone willing to support you, then cherish it.
Like one of my colleagues, her husband had a scandalous extramarital affair when he was young, and the two were about to divorce. But later, due to strong opposition from both parents, they had to continue their marriage.
A few years later, they seemed to have buried the hatchet and had a second child. Their life had gone from “falling apart” to “happy and harmonious”. When asked why, a colleague said that in the final analysis, it was because her husband was firmly on her side. Once If there is anything that cannot be dealt with, or if there is something that her parents cannot make up their minds about or cannot settle, her husband will find a way to “fix it.”
It was his husband’s responsible behavior as a man and the head of the family that made his colleagues choose to forgive and be open-minded.
Therefore, a happy marriage should perhaps pay more attention to the “overall situation” and see whether both men and women keep “home” in their hearts. Even if they go astray, they know how to turn back in time. Both parties can choose to stop the loss in time and let love and help each other resume. Haunting the whole family.
02. Provide sufficient companionship to make people feel not alone.
“A young couple stays with each other all the time.” A happy marriage lies in long-term companionship.
This companionship does not necessarily mean being together every day but is more about heart-to-heart proximity, understanding, and mutual support.
Just like the protagonists in the book, their love has gone through wars, separations, staying together, and the torment of illness. However, in the long years, they fell in love with each other at first sight, because they believed that each other would be the same for thousands of years. lovers, so they have been holding on.
The letters they wrote to each other during those turbulent years; and the constant care they gave each other during those days when they were tortured by illness were all their persistence in love and marriage.
It is a great blessing in life for you and me, the most ordinary people, to get married.
You have to believe that the person you dislike so much now was once the person you couldn’t help but turn up the corner of your mouth whenever you think of him, the person who made your eyes overflow with “little stars”.
Companionship lies in the daily greetings. When both parties are tired, ask, “What do you want to eat? I will buy it and I will cook it for you.” Perhaps, no matter how much fatigue you have, you will be less tired.
Companionship lies in knowing and cherishing each other and relying on each other. When the other person is sad, a hug, a kiss, and the words “I understand” are enough to bring full positive energy.
Companionship means staying together forever. Along the way, tomorrow or accident, I don’t know which one will come first, success or failure, and I don’t know which one will come unexpectedly.
But as long as you look back, the person who has accompanied you through your youth and has grown old before you know it is always there. This is happiness.
03. Like a good mentor, lead the other person to grow together.
A happy marriage lies in “moving forward together” and “flying together”.
A happy marriage is not about “you are responsible for making money to support the family, and I am responsible for being beautiful”, but about “you are excellent, and I am not bad either.” It is about “we always look in the same direction.”
Supported by this belief, in a happy marriage, neither spouse will be stingy in serving as the other’s life coach.
When a husband is accustomed to treating his wife as a child and a student, he will teach his wife all the experience and lessons he has learned throughout his life without hesitation, hoping that she will become “more and more independent”, just like Like an old father, behind that kind of expectation, that kind of patience and tolerance, there are deep concerns and worries.
When a wife, like taking care of a baby, takes the trouble to teach her careless husband how to live a careful life and how to arrange food, clothing, housing, and transportation, even though she chatters endlessly, she is still full of care and worry.
Yes, it is a kind of luck and happiness to have each other accompany you in this life. But one day, someone will have to go first.
Therefore, when there is only one person left alive in the world, if one party has learned all the skills to survive and live, then he will not be so lonely.
If your lover is always your life coach, you might as well be a “good student” and master everything he gives, because that is love.
In this life, love yourself well and love the person who loves you well.
A happy marriage will not happen out of thin air. It must be managed with heart, affection, and love.
Try to give love and care to the other person, and try to accept the love from the other person. In this way, you will always be happy.
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