Life requires compromise.
“Life is inherently full of shortcomings, and life requires compromise.”
When you reach a certain age, you will find that no one can have smooth sailing in this world, and there are many helpless things in life.
Many times, choosing to compromise is not to admit defeat, but to help each other.
The adult world, in the final analysis, is about half understanding and half forgetting.
1. half understood
I wonder if you have such experience.
As you grow older and more experienced, you no longer care about the people and things you dislike;
You slowly discover that there are compelling reasons behind a person you once couldn’t figure out, and you begin to understand his approach.
In this life, everyone has his helplessness and bitterness.
With more experience, we can be more empathetic and know how to think about problems from other people’s perspectives.
“People all have their own hard-to-recite scriptures, but it is difficult for people in different situations to understand the suffering of others.”
In this world, there are difficulties hidden behind all the elusive things.
For those you dislike, you can only truly understand them if you put on their shoes and walk around.
In an interview, Leo shared a period of his mental journey.
In the past, he had a particular aversion to superstition.
He was very disdainful of anyone who prayed to God and worshiped Buddha when something happened and wished he could hide far away.
It was only after he started his own business that he gradually understood how those people worked.
They believe this just for peace of mind, and it does not harm others or themselves.
So he began to change his mind. Although I don’t believe it, I try to understand and accept people who are different from me, and I have more and more friends around me.
Leo Tolstoy said: “You are not me, how can you know the path I have walked, the pain and joy in my heart.”
Some people love money as much as their lives and care about pennies just to pay for their parents’ sky-high surgery expenses;
Some people have domineering personalities and look like they are not to be trifled with because they are afraid that someone will bully their family members.
You see, in this world, everyone has their difficulties.
If you don’t know their story, don’t blame someone you don’t understand right now.
There is no real empathy in this world. All we can do is understand more and care less.
2. Forget about half of it
“A person who devotes all his energy to commenting on the rights and wrongs of small things will not have the energy to care about important things.”
If you have to worry about everything, you will be stuck in trivial matters throughout your life.
Not only is the heart tired, but over time, life will be affected by it.
Not getting entangled or competing in everything is what a mature person should do.
When the world’s top chief conductor Simon Rattle was young, he once had an opportunity to enter a top orchestra.
At that time, another person was competing with him for this spot.
The other party regards Rattle as his biggest competitor competes with him everywhere, and secretly slanders him behind his back.
Unexpectedly, Rattle voluntarily announced that he would give up the competition for a spot.
In the end, the spot naturally fell into the hands of another person.
Friends around him were very puzzled and said that he had suffered too much loss.
But Rattle said calmly, forget it, there is no need to affect yourself for the immediate gains and losses.
After graduation, he joined a small orchestra and continued to hone his basic skills, and finally became the chief conductor of the world’s top Berlin Philharmonic Orchestra.
Many times, telling yourself to forget it and taking a step back is not a sign of cowardice, but to enable yourself to go further.
In this life, people will more or less encounter bad people and bad things, so choosing to keep your head down is the wisest thing to do.
Fight to the end, even if you are exhausted, you will only end up paying for the other party.
When you laugh it off, no matter how bad people and things are, they are just a grain of dust in your life and are not worth mentioning.
Only by focusing on yourself and cultivating yourself quietly can the road of life become wider and wider.
There is a popular question on the Internet: “What is the best way for a person to live?”
I saw the best answer in Grandma Nanny.
Grandma Nanny believed in “not eating enough, not filing lawsuits, and not talking big words” throughout her life. She was used to it by everyone and didn’t take anything to heart.
In special times, wealthy people in the village are afraid of being classified as landlords.
There was a neighbor who had more than a dozen pieces of cloth at home. He was afraid of being discovered, so he begged his grandma to help hide them.
Although Grandma was unwilling, she still fulfilled the other party’s needs.
Unexpectedly, a few years later, to protect themselves, the family went out of their way to expose Grandma.
Grandma was so angry that she was shaking all over, but she didn’t say anything.
In autumn, when the fruits in the yard were ripe, Grandma sent a basket to their family as usual.
She said: “There is no need to bear grudges against her. It is enough for her to just hate herself. When a person betrays his conscience, it is almost like having a heart attack. He feels so depressed!”
Relying on this mentality, my grandma finally lived to be 99 years old.
When you reach a certain age, people become more transparent and no longer care about bad people and bad things.
This is not stupidity, but wisdom.
“I didn’t forgive anyone, I just let myself go.”
Sometimes, after things have passed and the situation has changed, instead of stalking others, it is better to let the other person live.
When a person learns not to dwell on others and let go of other people’s faults, he will free himself.
I once heard a saying: When a person reaches middle age, the best life is not to be stunning or prosperous, but to be far away from the hustle and bustle. Half be sober and do your best, and half try to be tolerant of others.
Living a good life depends on two words: compromise.
Be more understanding of others and say forget it to yourself.
Look away from everything and always have nothing in your heart, which is a good time in the world.
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