After working for 10 years, I have learned 10 workplace principles, each of which is gained through lessons learned.

2bebetter
6 min readApr 23, 2024

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As a senior with 10 years of workplace experience, the editor has taken countless detours and suffered countless losses!

Today I have summarized 10 workplace skills, each of which can only be understood after learning a lesson!

Without further ado, let’s get to the point!

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1. “Small favors” between colleagues are really useful.

In fact, if you want to have good interpersonal relationships, you don’t need to have superb social skills.

Many times, your kind smile;

A little help;

A piece of chocolate handed to a colleague when he is tired after working overtime;

When a colleague comes to talk to you about something, he will eat a bag of snacks from you…

The philosophy of interpersonal relationships is actually not profound.

Most of the time it just requires you to put yourself in someone else’s shoes:

If the other person does this to me, will I also have a good impression of them?

The answer is out.

Many people learn how to “answer calls” and how to do things, but it is actually too troublesome and may not be of any use.

Ordinary people's interpersonal relationships are built by countless inconspicuous “little favors”.

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2. What can bring several people together is not only common Benefits but also common enemies.

If you have just joined a new company, don’t rush to “stand in line” or “join a team”. You can first observe:

Who is the most disliked person in this company?

Then, apart from him, they are probably all “interest alliances”.

Many times, you don’t need to express your position specifically, as long as you don’t be the “least popular” person.

3. Don’t meddle too much in the private affairs of colleagues in the company, and don’t stretch your hands too far.

The sign of a person’s maturity is: in the past, people around him would give advice when they made mistakes;

Now: Respect the blessings and just don’t stop at my door.

Anyway, most companies nowadays are short-lived. If you work in the same company this year, you may be a stranger next year.

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4. Don’t talk about your heart easily. There is a high chance that your heart-to-heart talk will only become a topic for others to talk about after dinner.

Always remember: the “colleague” relationship is essentially competitive, unless you have no ambition.

When many new employees first start working, to have a harmonious relationship with their colleagues, they will reveal their personal affairs to get closer.

But the result is that others are using your private affairs as a meal for dinner.

5. With a salary of several thousand, don’t worry about the “boss”’s business.

In the company, whatever the boss says is right, and the company is not yours anyway.

No matter how ridiculous the instructions he gives, just follow them and the salary will be yours.

As for the future of the company and what happens in the future, that is the boss’s business, not something that people with a monthly salary of several thousand should consider.

If you really have the heart or have the same ability, it won’t be too late to consider starting your own company.

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6. Don’t feel sorry for others easily. Others may have a better life than you.

The most useless emotion in the world is: cheap sympathy.

Everyone’s social personality is different:

Some people like to show their brightest and happiest side in front of outsiders, but in reality, their life is a piece of cake;

Some people like to show their brightest and happiest side in front of outsiders, but in reality, their life is a piece of cake;

Some people prefer to talk about their embarrassment, embarrassment, and misfortune. In fact, their lives are not bad, they just don’t want to show off.

There once was a female colleague who often told her colleagues that her relationship with her husband was indifferent, her husband’s salary was very low, and her marriage was very unhappy.

In fact, the family goes on family trips every month and lives a happy and prosperous life.

Her husband’s salary is indeed not high, but after work, he also runs a side business that earns more than 100,000 dollars a year, which is higher than most people.

And those who sympathized with her when she cried about poverty and complained turned into clowns when they saw her family’s happiness.

She doesn’t need your sympathy at all, okay?

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7. Don’t say too many polite words. If you want to achieve your goals, you must bring benefits to others.

It may be due to the persistent propaganda of success masters from all walks of life that many people in the workplace have a wrong understanding, that is:

Things like career failure, failure to get promotions and salary increases, bad relationships with colleagues, bosses not liking you, etc. are all caused by your poor eloquence and clumsy tongue.

As long as you have good social skills, you can be invincible in the workplace.

This is simply not the case.

The workplace is all about interests. No matter how clever you are, if you don’t benefit others, they won’t cooperate with you.

Therefore, there is no need to say too many polite words and social rhetoric. As long as you are polite and polite, no one will reject you because “you can’t speak or get into trouble.”

More importantly, it is the exchange of interests. If you can bring benefits and benefits to the other party, things will progress to the next step.

8. No job is permanent.

Regarding job stability, young people will say: “It would be nice to join a large and sizable company.”

The older generation will say: “Just enter a state-owned enterprise, public institution, etc., and get a job, and that will be fine.”

In reality, there is no such thing as “just…”.

Life is long, and anything can happen and change in a few decades.

Today’s stability may be tomorrow’s overthrow. If it seems unreliable now, if you look at it ten years later, you will only regret yourself for not having a choice at the time.

Compared with a certain “job position”, what is more important is a skill and the ability to be based on society. This is more reliable.

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9. 80% of your life is useless social interaction.

You won’t feel too big after discarding it, it will only feel more refreshing.

Utilitarian communication will only make people feel tired.

Almost most colleagues will not have any interactions with each other after resigning, so there is no need to bother and maintain them.

Just leave your sincerity to your two or three close friends.

10. Most of the time, principles are not worth mentioning in the face of (enough) interests.

Therefore, do not underestimate human nature, nor overestimate it.

Facing human nature and understanding the choices an ordinary person is most likely to make when faced with a choice may save you a lot of unnecessary expectations.

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Which of the above 10 workplace philosophies have you experienced? Which principle do you feel most deeply about?

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