Carnegie was asked: “How to get along with those who are full of shortcomings”? His answer is thought-provoking
Do you often find others annoying? Do you often feel disgusted and negative towards people?
Your supervisor speaks well, your co-workers are selfish, your partner has unpleasant habits, your friends don’t behave well, and even a store clerk can annoy you. Look at people with high standards and only focus on their shortcomings.
Doing this will not make you look very picky or noble, but will put you in a sea of misery.
A wise man only looks at the positive part
Carnegie was once asked, “How do you get along with people who are full of flaws?”
He replied: “ It’s very simple. Just focus on their strengths and try to forget their weaknesses.”
Life is a choice. Whatever you choose, you will see. Wise people choose to look at people’s merits, so their world is full of good people.
Viewing the world from this perspective, the person who benefits the most is himself, because he does not have negative thoughts and does not get caught up in cause and effect, and he will attract good luck to himself.
Looking at other people’s shortcomings is setting up many obstacles for yourself because you will be unhappy wherever you go, always angry and complaining.
Ignore the shortcomings of others, and the world will be beautiful everywhere and attract more beauty.
We all hope that others will forget our shortcomings and only remember the advantages, forget what we did wrong and only remember what we did right. Then, we must treat others this way, and others will treat us this way.
If you meet a friend, family member or partner and keep bringing up old grudges, the other person will repeat their past negative behavior just as you wish.
It’s hard for him to feel guilty and treat you better, and unless he has some agenda for you, doing so will attract more negative reoccurrences.
A wise man is pleasing to everyone
Why does a wise man not find fault with others? Because he knows that everyone has difficulties. It is easy to misunderstand others if you hate others casually, and break the relationship because of unnecessary things.
You don’t know what others have gone through or what they think, so why rush to a conclusion? You don’t have to judge others at all.
Just like someone would stay away from you because you are too private and feel that you are not in touch with you. How could he know that you have been betrayed many times and never want to tell the secret again?
You had the intention to treat him as a close friend, to be with him for a lifetime, and to treat him with sincerity, but he broke off the relationship with you just because you didn’t share your privacy.
This kind of people are too careless, and they often miss out on friends who are worthy of deep friendship.
This is just an example. Small misunderstandings like this are everywhere in interpersonal relationships. A wise man is knowledgeable and knowledgeable, but never judges, because he knows that there are too many things in the world that he does not understand.
So he didn’t dare to make random conclusions. People in the world are so ignorant. They always make judgments when they see a shadow. For example, “Rich people donate money to avoid taxes.” However, he doesn’t know that no matter how he avoids it, he will have to pay a lot more money. How can he say that he only wants to avoid taxes??
If the other person is determined to contribute to society, such comments will make him simply stop donating in the future, which is only a loss to society.
Since he will not label people at will, a wise man rarely dislikes anyone. If the other person does something strange, he will treat it with consideration. This is an expression of love and will bring good luck to himself.
Most people will become impatient if you insist on insisting on the business even though you know you don’t want to buy it.
Even if a wise man doesn’t want to listen, he will refuse politely without feeling disgusted. He will also consider the other person’s feelings when speaking because he understands that this is just the other person’s job. He is just doing his job and does not want to disturb you.
Only when your perspective changes can you see the truth.
To hate others casually is a sign of a lack of heart. It also shows that a person lacks knowledge and needs to broaden his mind and scope.
If you know how to look at people’s strengths, you will rarely have annoying people in your life.
Respect others more, don’t always stand on the opposite side of others, and know how to respect, not because the other person is noble, but because you have self-cultivation.
If you only respect your boss and customers, it is not called self-cultivation, it may even be creating karma. Why?
Many people appear to be respectful to those who are interested in them, but secretly they hate and despise the other person. This is all karma and negative thoughts, which will only lead to bad retribution because their intentions are not good.
If someone doesn’t get what you want, it doesn’t mean that they are bad. Instead, it may mean that you have some shortcomings. For example, if someone doesn’t reply to your message, you will feel angry.
This cannot be entirely attributed to the other party’s rudeness. Instead, we need to examine why we care so much about trivial matters. Is it because you want to be taken seriously? Why do others not mind but you do?
Maybe the other person has been patient enough to reply to you several times, but this time he just doesn’t want to tolerate it anymore. You ignored his previous patience and only remembered that he didn’t reply in the end.
It doesn’t mean anything if he doesn’t reply. If the other person is avoidant, they don’t like talking about trivial matters together every day.
But if you need him, he will spare a lot of time to spend time with you. Does this mean he doesn’t treat you as a friend?
Don’t hate others easily, because you may make mistakes. Even if the other person is hateful, your disgust will only be detrimental to you. Wise people will not do this.
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