Complaining is equivalent to walking barefoot on a gravel road, while optimism is a pair of solid shoes.
Complaining is equivalent to walking barefoot on a gravel road, while optimism is a pair of solid shoes.
There are too many people in this world, too little love, suffering is unbearable, and money is hard to make.
Many people feel that life is tiring, so complaining becomes the most convenient way to vent their anger.
But in addition to the immediate short-term benefits, complaining often not only fails to solve the problem, but also worsens it.
If you become addicted to complaining, you will not only be annoyed by others, but you will also be impatient all day long.
In daily life, we often see people who are dissatisfied with almost everything, as if they were royal ladies in their previous lives and cannot accept their current ordinary life.
There was a couple who had conflicts every day after getting married, and finally went to see the famous psychologist Ericson.
After listening to the endless complaints from both parties, Lao Ai said: “Is the purpose of your marriage in the first place just to complain about these endless quarrels?”
The couple were speechless after hearing this. It is said that they fell in love with each other again later.
There is a kind of person who is “lenient to himself and strict to others”, and everything is the fault of others. In fact, this is the performance of a narcissist, because everything is self-centered, so anything that is not good for him is the object of his complaints. .
Complaining is a self-defense mechanism in human nature, and it is indeed difficult to completely cut it off.
If you feel that you can’t stop complaining at all, then you should at least remind yourself when you complain that this complaint is just a temporary way to vent your anger and can be used as an anesthetic for the soul, but it is by no means a salvation for the soul.
The first thing a truly enlightened person needs to achieve is to stop complaining.
In the face of all misunderstandings, attacks, slanders, praises, and praises, enlightened people can bear it calmly with an open heart.
The ancients said, “There is no cloud on the mountain, and there is a moon in the heart of the waves.” This is called “not afraid of the red dust covering your eyes, and the moon wheel passing through the swamp water without leaving a trace.”
It may seem almost impossible to stop complaining, but in fact everyone understands that it is a simple thing that everyone can do.
As the old saying goes, “The straight heart is the dojo.” If you can never complain at all and always shoulder your responsibilities, then your life will be very extraordinary.
It is difficult to find a successful person who will complain, complain, and be restless about his environment, even though he may have overcome huge obstacles to achieve his success.
On the contrary, we often see failed people constantly complaining about the bad environment and social injustice because they lack happiness and prosperity.
The real question is: Which comes first — attitude or success? The answer is that in all situations, a victorious, positive attitude leads to lifelong prosperity.
Don’t complain “I can’t do it” and you will have a more positive view of yourself.
All it takes is a simple decision to stop yourself from falling into the old habit of complaining. It can be difficult — even ridiculous — at first. Habits are hard to change, but in this case, they are worth the effort.
When excuses or complaints come to mind, swipe them away as gently as you would a fly on a picnic. Don’t worry too much. You’ll soon get used to the wonderful feeling of living without complaints, and as you Success comes with a new winning attitude.
People who complain are not necessarily unkind, but they are often unpopular; people who complain think that they have experienced the greatest difficulties in the world, and they forget that the people who listen to them complain have also experienced it, but their feelings are different. It is like a cigarette burn. Like a balloon, it deflates others and yourself.
There are several worthless behaviors in the world, such as selling a boat in the desert, collecting fish sticks, and complaining.
To put it mildly, complaining is human nature.
“Living in Chang’an is not easy.” Shouldn’t others be allowed to talk about the depression?
However, the undesirable thing about complaining is that if you complain, you are pouring water into your shoes, making it harder to walk.
Difficulties are one thing, complaints are another.
People who complain think they are strong, but society is too unfair.
It’s like saying that people all over the world conspired to destroy his success.
This may reverse the cause-and-effect relationship.
Complaining is different from openly admitting your failure.
Those who dare to admit failure will win the respect of others, just like seeing a scarred and calm warrior, like a hero;
Complaining is a coward who fails to admit failure even though he or she is clearly wounded, or dresses up his wounds as flowers when he is clearly wounded;
People originally sympathize with the weak, but because those who complain become angry and frustrated, they do not get sympathy from others.
British Airways once dealt with an incident involving passenger complaints.
On a flight from London, a wealthy middle-aged woman was arranged to sit next to a black man. When she found out, she was very dissatisfied. She immediately called the flight attendant and complained loudly: “I paid I paid to enjoy this comfortable flight, but you arranged for me to sit here. I can’t bear to sit in this place, please change my seat!”
“I’m sorry, ma’am.” The flight attendant replied, “Today’s flight is full, but for your needs, I can go check for you to see if there are any vacancies.”
A few minutes later, the flight attendant returned with good news.
“Madam, I’m sorry, the economy class is already full. I also reported this special situation to the captain. Currently, there is only one vacancy left in the first class…o” The middle-aged woman looked around proudly. Passengers stood up to move to first class.
Without waiting for the woman to speak, the flight attendant continued: “We have never encountered a situation like this to upgrade a passenger to first class, but I have obtained permission from the captain. He believes that a passenger must be upgraded to first class.” It was so unconscionable to sit with someone she hated.
At this time, the flight attendant smiled and said to the black man: “Sir, if you don’t mind, we have prepared a first-class seat for you. Please move over.”
The surrounding passengers stood up and applauded enthusiastically, and the middle-aged woman lowered her head in shame.
After complaining, people who complain are not only not relaxed, but also often in a worse mood. Instead of reducing the number of stones in their arms, they actually increase.
As the saying goes, letting go is happiness, including letting go of complaints, because it is the heaviest thing in your heart and the most worthless thing.
The reason why people are attracted to those optimistic people is because they are attracted to their detachment and ease;
Optimistic people have the confidence, courage and belief that life requires;
While they benefit themselves, they also infect others;
People like to associate with optimistic, open-minded, tenacious, and calm people, and they will feel that difficulties are never obstacles in life, but a foil for courage;
Being with optimistic people makes you optimistic.
Many people have complained of the annoyances of their situation, and then, finding no avail, have kept silent;
Complaints are equivalent to walking barefoot on a gravel road, while optimism is a pair of solid shoes;
Complaining loses not only courage, but also friends;
Everyone is afraid of people who are full of complaints, fearing that they will also be infected;
Life will become difficult if you lose your courage and friends;
So the complainers keep complaining, they don’t know,
There are many simple skills in life that can turn danger into safety, and shutting up is one of them.
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