“Crocodile Effect”: Children who grow up to be successful have parents who can stop losses in time
Some economists made a hypothesis based on observations from various aspects.
A crocodile bites a person’s foot. If the person turns around and slaps the crocodile with his hands, the crocodile will bite his foot and hand.
The best way to escape is to give up one foot, don’t do anything, and don’t have any hope of luck.
This is the famous “crocodile effect”. The basic principle is that people should know how to stop losses in time to avoid getting into greater trouble and pain.
Along the way in life, there will be many “crocodiles”, visible or invisible.
As parents, we will also encounter many “crocodiles” in the process of educating our children, for example, children’s academic performance drops, they make mistakes, they become tired of studying, fall in love early, etc.
Using different methods to deal with the “crocodile” in children will bring about very different results. If you can stop the loss in time, the family will be sunny and the children will have a promising future when they grow up.
1. If parents cannot stop the losses, their children will make one mistake after another.
There were two girls in the village, Marie and Heby.
They were very close friends and they even stole half a pound of rice from others and made delicious rice balls to eat until they were full.
A middle-aged woman next door noticed something and quickly told the parents of both parties.
When Marie returned home, she saw her father was as angry as a bull and hid in fear. But she still couldn’t escape her father’s beating and her mother’s scolding.
Marie’s foot was injured and it hurt a lot, but no one cared. The other brothers and sisters saw this and thought it was what they deserved, and they also spoke in a mocking tone.
From then on, Marie could not hold her head up in the village. She had no interest in doing anything, so she went to work after graduating from junior high school and married someone far away.
Analyzing Marie’s family, we can find that if we don’t know how to stop loss after making a mistake, it will lead to continuous mistakes. As the saying goes in the countryside: “If you don’t mend a small hole, it will become a big hole of one foot and five centimeters.”
Parents with a bad temper cannot raise emotionally stable children.
When a person gets angry, he is like a devil.
The devil does not follow rules and does not consider other people’s feelings. He is used to looking down on others and is domineering.
The child has no chance to explain or calm down, and can only let his parents scold him. Over time, the child’s rebellious behavior emerges.
“The more you scold me, the more I refuse to accept it.” When parents and children are in a stalemate, the children will also become impulsive and ignore the consequences.
How many children have their lives ruined by an impulse? This is not what the children want, but what their parents slowly guide them to do.
Even if the child has not made a big mistake, in daily life, he is always angry, retorting, glaring, and making all kinds of accusations, he will definitely not get good connections, and his work will not go smoothly.
Parents who are entangled in wrong things cannot raise children to be self-aware.
When a child makes a mistake, his parents will focus on it and nag him repeatedly. This is undoubtedly opening the child’s wounds and checking them repeatedly.
If the wound is opened too many times, it will not heal, so the child will continue to suffer. When the child grows up, he will want to escape from home, which is also the instinct of seeking benefits and avoiding harm.
If you don’t have confidence in anything you do, no matter what you do, it’s wrong. If your child has this kind of cognition, then just give up. The future is worrying.
As a psychologist said,
“You give your child pain, but you expect to gain gratitude from him; you give your child shadows, but you expect him to be positive and optimistic forever. This is impossible.”
2. Parents stop losses in time and children face challenges head-on.
Next, let’s talk about Heby ’s experience.
When she returned home and saw her angry father, she was so scared that she hid aside and didn’t dare to sit at the table to eat.
The father suppressed his anger and said, “Eat. This rice is borrowed from our neighbor. No one should waste it.”
If a family is poor, it is shameful to waste food; if a family is poor, if someone creates trouble, it will undoubtedly make the family worse off.
After the meal, Heby came to her senses and knelt to admit her mistake.
The father said earnestly: “Poverty is not your fault, but doing bad things because of poverty is wrong. If you can’t stand the hunger, tell Dad.”
After hearing their father’s words, all the children present burst into tears and felt their father’s full love.
Later, Heby studied hard. Although she did not achieve much, her marriage was smooth and she was hardworking. She gradually became rich. She also knew how to be filial to her family.
There is a saying that goes: “If a child’s life is broken, parents need to bring repair agents.”
Everyone is a sage, and adults make mistakes, let alone children.
Calm parents are the “peace of mind” in their children’s lives.
Any mistakes, when they come to the parents, will have ways to deal with them and stably resolve the conflicts so that the children will not be timid and cowardly.
It seems that parents can always say “I’m here” at critical moments.
If you can communicate with your heart, your child will be able to learn from his mistakes. Mistakes are like soil, nourishing the child’s life and making it flourish.
Parents with a big picture are the “lighthouses” on their children’s life journey.
No matter how many unexpected events there are, the overall direction remains unchanged, so we can become more courageous and resilient.
“If you are going in the wrong direction, stopping is moving forward”, this is the truth given by parents, and it is also an opportunity parents give their children to change and correct themselves.
For example, if a child’s academic performance has declined, and the parents take timely care of the child so that the child does not regress in the next exam, that is progress and is worth encouraging. The next time, that is also progress.
Parents who know how to take responsibility for themselves are the beginning of their children taking responsibility.
A promising child knows how to seek for himself. Examining oneself three times a day is the best daily self-education.
Because we have to take responsibility and reflect, we can avoid many mistakes and stop in time when we make small mistakes.
“When one prospers, all prosper; when one suffers, all suffer.”
Parents and children are a family and they also make each other successful. When the children are young, parents can properly support them; when the children grow up, they can happily give back to their parents. This is the best outcome.
We all hope for smooth sailing, but the wind does not come from one direction. There are winds from the east, south, west, and north. Going against the wind is inevitable. When the wind is favorable, encourage more and work harder; when the wind is against you, make more adjustments and make circuitous progress.
Understand the crocodile effect and be a parent who can stop losses. This will help your children avoid taking detours and find a smooth path.
Of course, being promising does not mean making a lot of money or reading a lot of books, but children do not go astray, live with positive energy, actively start a family and build a career, and lead a good family tradition.
Parents should think like this: the child is wrong, but he is not bad, so that’s okay.
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