Dangerous Attractions: 7 Warning Signs of Falling for the Wrong Person

5 min readJul 3, 2023

Falling for The Wrong Person Comes in “7 Reasons”

We want to express our gratitude for the tremendous support and love you’ve shown us. Your ongoing support has been instrumental in making psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, and that’s truly amazing. So, give yourselves a pat on the back. Today, we’re going to delve into a topic that many of you might resonate with — falling for the wrong person. If you find yourself stuck in relationships that cause more harm than good, we’re here to shed light on seven likely reasons behind this pattern.

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Reason 1: Portraying Yourself as Someone You’re Not

In the online world of dating, platforms like Tinder and Bumble have made it increasingly easy to present ourselves as someone else. You might feel the need to mold your identity to fit in or believe that certain aspects of your true self won’t be attractive to others. For instance, you might love playing video games but fear it won’t be appealing to potential partners. In such cases, people tend to switch out their genuine hobbies for something they perceive as more appealing, such as going to the gym. However, disguising your true self can lead to mismatched connections.

Reason 2: Building a Fantasy Before Meeting

When you have limited information about someone from their online dating profile, it’s natural to fill in the gaps with your imagination. This tendency often leads to overthinking and clinging to false ideas about the person you’re yet to meet. The anticipation of the first meeting can create unrealistic expectations, setting the stage for heartbreak. To avoid this, it’s crucial to see your potential partner for who they truly are, rather than the version you’ve fabricated in your mind.

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Reason 3: Believing You’re Unworthy of Love

Humans are complex beings, and our past experiences or relationships can significantly impact our self-perception. If you harbor negative thoughts…




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