In this fast-paced, high-pressure society, the life of a “worker” is always full of challenges. However, there is a philosophy of life that is quietly popular — “live for yourself”. As the Internet golden sentence says: “Life is not just about the present, but also about poetry and the distance.” Everyone has an island in his heart, which carries the yearning and pursuit for a better life.
In a sense, each of us is an island, drifting in the ocean of life, lonely and strong. As the British novelist Maugham described in “The Moon and Sixpence”: “Each of us lives alone in the world, imprisoned in an iron tower, and can only communicate with others through some symbols, but the meaning of these symbols is vague and worthless.” In this complex interpersonal relationship, we often feel that we cannot be truly understood, and we cannot pass on our spiritual treasures to others.
However, the reality of life forces us to face various choices. To integrate into the collective, we have to smooth out our edges, compromise with reality, and do things we don’t want to do. Just like those who have to choose marriage because of external pressure, they may have dreamed of pursuing true love, but in the end, they choose to marry the right one. This kind of helplessness and regret is something that many people have experienced.
However, when people reach middle age, facing all kinds of unsatisfactory and helpless lives, we should learn to be better to ourselves. Especially those women with pensions, after experiencing the baptism of marriage and family, they understand their inner needs better. They no longer desire love and family like they did when they were young, but hope to focus on themselves and live their lives well.
Aunt Luisa is a typical example. She has lived alone for many years. Since her husband passed away, she has never thought about remarrying. Although she was a little uncomfortable at first, as time went by, she gradually found that living alone was more comfortable. She no longer needed to change herself to please her husband, nor did she need to sacrifice her happiness for the sake of her family. She began to understand how to live for herself and pursue inner peace and happiness.
Although Aunt Luisa’s pension is not generous, she knows how to plan and enjoy life. She doesn’t buy herself a lot of expensive clothes or jewelry, but she travels regularly to broaden her horizons. She has her hobbies and likes reading, drinking tea, and dancing with her sisters. Although her life is simple, it is full of fun and satisfaction.
In contrast, many men may choose to remarry after their wives die. They are used to being taken care of and feel that remarriage can save them a lot of trouble and make them more comfortable. But Aunt Luisa is different. She believes that marriage is not the beginning of happiness, but the continuation of another kind of misfortune. She would rather choose to live alone than sacrifice her happiness for marriage.
Life is your own. Whether you are single or remarried, we should live as happily and joyfully as possible. A woman who knows how to love herself will make her life fulfilling and joyful no matter what situation she is in. As Aunt Luisa said, “I have money, friends, and my hobbies. Why should I remarry and be someone else’s free babysitter?” Let us all learn to live for ourselves, cherish every minute and every second, and live our own wonderful lives!
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