Don’t do these 5 things If you are bullied by your colleagues in the workplace
In the company, many people bully others and fear others. People with this “problem” never feel uneasy about their conscience. Instead, they feel that this is their “magic weapon” to settle down and live in peace, and they want to use it as their “ trump card “ at any time.
Whether you are a “newcomer” who has just joined the company or a “veteran” who has been on the battlefield for a long time, you have to compete with these people all the time.
If you are weak, he will be strong; if you are strong, he will be weak. After getting along for a long time, you will find that if you want to get rid of the label of “a doormat”, you should stop doing these things.
Don’t tell your family about your grievances.
When an adult is wronged outside, the most immature behavior is to go home and tell his parents or lover, or even sigh in front of his children.
They will all think: “You are incompetent.” They want to give you advice and ask you to “retaliate” harshly, but they are afraid that if they break up, your situation will be even more difficult. I want you to learn to be patient and accumulate strong strength, and then take “revenge with one stone”, but I feel that you are useless.
When you can predict that your family will feel “heartbroken and helpless” about you being bullied, you should never cause trouble to them again, to save the whole family from being unhappy.
Don’t “complain” to your boss.
Those who are bullied are often the most aggrieved and the most reasonable. The more they think about it, the more angry they become. Some people will lose their temper and go to their boss’s office to cry.
You are filled with righteous indignation, but your boss can only make peace with you because they don’t want to offend anyone. Although they will pretend to be patient and listen to your grievances, that’s all. When you finish speaking, they will say a few innocuous words and send you away in a hurry.
As for your hope that he can “justice” and speak for you, that’s nonsense. The boss always believes that “it’s better to do less than to do more.” He won’t be like a “head teacher” who insists on judging right from wrong, and the final bowl of water will be the same.
What’s more serious is that if you see you being bullied all year round, your boss will look down on you from the bottom of his heart and feel that you are not tough enough and have no courage.
Even if I originally planned to promote you to a junior boss, I will be worried that you can’t compete with your colleagues. In the end, not only will you not be promoted, but maybe you will be joined by other colleagues in saying, “This won’t work, that won’t work.”
Don’t expect other colleagues to help.
When a colleague bullies you, other colleagues are probably watching the fun. If you want to ask them for help, it is just another “laughing stock”.
Some people don’t mind making things bigger, so they try their best to encourage you to have a fierce quarrel with the person who bullied you, “in front of you, with gongs and drums.” But in fact, you don’t know that maybe the person who gave you the advice has also been angry with that person, and he just treated you as a “chess piece” and vented his anger.
Some people may sympathize with you on the surface, but they may also harshly criticize the person who bullied you. But more often than not, you want to know why others bully you.
Some people may sympathize with you on the surface, but they may also harshly criticize the person who bullied you. But more often than not, you want to know why others bully you.
Once you feel cared for and someone is finally on your side, you can speak freely and tell the whole story. This person who sympathizes with you will have a complete grasp of your “industry”.
Once he determines that you are a “soft persimmon” who dares to get angry but dare not speak out, he might join in bullying you next time.
People in the company, on the surface, are all friendly and kind, but secretly they all have their camps. You don’t know who is with whom. Once you find the wrong person, it’s like “taking it upon yourself.” “It’s humiliating” and the situation becomes even more unbearable.
Don’t swallow your anger, look for opportunities to fight back.
A good person will be bullied by others, and a good horse will be ridden by others. The reason why your colleagues bully you is because they know that you will only swallow your anger and will not fight back.
The more tolerant you are, the more aggressive he becomes and becomes unscrupulous after challenging your bottom line again and again.
A person who “sends the army out without a righteous cause” will always feel uncomfortable. He also knows that he is in the wrong. As long as you are a little stronger, he will give in.
Therefore, you can’t tolerate it for a long time. When someone has insulted your self-esteem, you don’t have to be merciful and tear it up.
Of course, you don’t need to raise your voice when you are justified. You have to show the posture and aura of a “duelist”, speak righteously and clearly, and do not get angry or assertive.
Don’t condemn yourself.
After some people are bullied by their colleagues, all they want to do is “keep things in peace”, completely ignoring the fact that they have been wronged, for fear that if they “denounce” the other party, they will be criticized.
But this is your weakness. Just like many debtors, they are often thick-skinned and will not pay back the money. However, debt collectors are always cautious for fear of angering the other party. If someone is acting rogue, no Pay back the money.
The more you examine yourself and condemn yourself, the more arrogant and arrogant your bullies will become. Only on the other hand, you must know how to find the right opportunity to speak up for yourself, so that your colleagues who are watching can see your strong side, and slowly, they will feel that you are also a person who is “not easy to mess with.”
In the workplace, only by handling interpersonal relationships well can one be happy at work.
You must not be too showy about your personality, let alone be timid and afraid of getting into trouble; you must be neither humble nor arrogant and deliver results in a down-to-earth manner; only then can you remain invincible.
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