Here are 5 traps that have been harvesting the lives of ordinary people, and all poverty stems from these traps.
What you see may not always be true. The choices you make may not be the right ones.
There are many things that are just on the surface, and we don’t always see the truth behind them. If we believe too much in appearances, it is easy for us to make wrong choices, and if we make one wrong step, we will lose everything.
Especially in this complicated era, there are many ways of doing things, and all kinds of trends are emerging. In the end, what is right for you and what is not suitable for you, we need to identify one by one. Otherwise, it is easy to become a stepping stone for others.
The following five traps, harvested the life of ordinary people, poor and unfortunate are originated from this.
1. The “self-motivated” effort trap.
“I worked 3 jobs and over 80 hours a week thinking it would lead to success. But I was just burned out and spinning my wheels, not actually developing skills employers valued.”
Many people complain, “I’ve worked so hard, but I don’t get anything. It’s not fair. I’ve worked so hard, but I’ve accomplished nothing. It’s not worth it.
Is it really unfair, is it not worth it? Not really.
Many people’s efforts are superficial and ineffective, so even if they don’t sleep for 24 hours, they can’t get anything out of it, and maybe even their bodies are broken.
In the matter of “effort”, we have to understand one thing: Effort is just slave labor, which is of little value. If effort was useful, then the richest man in the world would not be Musk, but a donkey or a cow.
In everything we do, we should not have any idea of “touching ourselves”, but should do “useful work”.
Modern people who work hard are basically doing useless work, so they have nothing.
What is “useful work”? It’s the behavior that improves you all the time. If you find that your current efforts do not bring you any improvement, then you have made a wrong choice and are on the wrong path.
2. The trap of “blind inward curiosity”.
“All my friends were preparing for civil service exams after college. I studied for years before realizing I didn’t actually want a government job — I just followed the crowd blindly.”
Whenever we talk about inward curling, we think of young and middle-aged people on the subway, white-collar workers in offices, and delivery workers and couriers running around on the streets.
What is the nature of involution? A whole lot of people are competing for a small amount of resources, such as hundreds or thousands of people competing for a single position in the civil service examination. Is this really the way out?
The excessive anxiety of modern people is related to “ineffective internal scrolling”. This means that when everyone else goes to internal scrolling, they follow suit, and they are so blind that they don’t know what their own strengths and pursuits are.
If you are not suitable to be an official, but you want to be one, it is a question of whether you can pass the examination or not, and even if you pass the examination and become a member of the lower class, it is also a question of being assigned to a remote area. The rate of return is particularly low for those who follow the tide of the scrolls.
Before the internal scroll, may as well ask yourself what you are good at, what you like, rather than what others do, they follow. Such behavior is nothing more than “sheep” behavior and will only be harvested.
3. The human trap of “not constantly comparing”.
“I used to obsess over why my husband doesn’t make as much money as my friend’s spouse. Now I see that was an unhealthy comparison that made us both miserable.”
The wife says, “Why is it that other people’s husbands are so capable, earning 5,000 dollars a month, while my husband is such a loser, earning only 1,200 dollars a month?
Husband said: “How other people’s wives are so considerate and kind, gentle and beautiful, while my wife is just like a chattering yellow face, this marriage is not worth it!”
The wife is complaining about her husband’s faults and the husband is complaining about his wife’s faults.
Both of them have committed a human taboo, like to compare their own life, their own partner, with others.
When they win, they are happy; when they lose, they complain, as if the whole world owes them. To put it bluntly, isn’t this purely not sober?
Other people have other people’s lives, they have their own days, this is not the same as the wind horse and cattle, than what?
Instead of comparing, it is better to be satisfied, otherwise, the family will not stop quarreling.
4. “Caught up in the world” of reading traps.
“I spent years stressing about impressing my judgmental relatives. Once I started living for myself instead of others, I finally became happy and confident.”
A great master of psychology, said,
It is easy to break the thief in the mountain, but it is difficult to break the thief in the heart.
It is easy to defeat external enemies, such as one’s colleagues. However, it is more difficult to defeat the inner demons and break the fetters of the world.
In everything you do, you care too much about what others think, and you do everything to please others.
In this way, without the ability to “please yourself”, you will basically become a zombie and a puppet.
Why do worldly concepts and other people’s eyes become a kind of fetter? It is because people are “only in this mountain” and lack the wisdom to “see the true face of Mountain ”.
In life, there is no need to listen to what others say, nor is there any need to care about the world’s concepts.
It is the first time for everyone to be a human being, and there is no one who is more experienced than the other. The only way to live a life is to please yourself and live freely.
5. The thinking trap of “cognitive bias”.
“It’s embarrassing now, but in my youth I really believed women were less logical than men. As I educated myself, I realized how biased and outdated my thinking was.”
A famous person made the point that the biggest trap in the world is your thinking and cognition.
How the brain thinks, how it sees the world, and how deeply it understands the nature of this society will affect the person’s thinking, logic, and cognition.
Why is thinking and cognition the biggest trap? It’s the 1920s, and your thinking is still stuck in the 1990s, so if you can’t keep up with the times, you’ll be eliminated by reality, won’t you?
Nowadays, there are many people whose thinking and cognition are still stuck in the past decade or two, so it is very likely that they will be poor, and they will not be able to lead a good life, nor will they be able to educate their children well, and they will be trapped in the cycle of “poor”.
People should have the ability to learn throughout their lives and keep up with the times in order to get out of the circle of cognitive bias.
