He finally married the girl written in his memo. After eight years of long-distance love cultivation, many people have been sighing and lamenting, “Why do all my relationships end in vain?”
Do you still remember the contents of the memo? Every sentence in it seems like a love message. But after savoring it carefully, you can understand why their long-distance love affair was successful, while ours disappeared in youth.
Falling in love is simple to say. It is nothing more than two people attracting each other and falling in love to a certain extent.
But in the river of love, there are too few feelings that will not drown. Too many people don’t know how to maintain and enhance the relationship between the two parties, but blindly waste away their love for each other. In the end, both parties suffer and become alone again.
So, how can we maintain and enhance the relationship between the two parties?
1. Feelings without trust will never go far
It seems easy to trust each other, but how many couples fail in “trust”. In love, we always tell each other how much we trust him, but once something trivial happens, we start to question the other person.
Is this what we call trust? Some even many people like to browse each other’s mobile phones and even delete other members of the opposite sex from their partner’s WeChat. This approach is undoubtedly extinguishing your love.
If you want to go further with him, please trust him. If he wants to go, you can’t stop him no matter what.
2. Give each other a sense of security, no matter how powerful he is
No matter how powerful a person is, he is still an insecure child in the face of love. We all know that a sense of security should be given to ourselves, but in a relationship, isn’t it normal for the other person’s inadvertent actions to make us feel panicked?
Of course, being too nervous and always afraid of losing the other person will put the other person in a troubled and exhausted situation, which is not conducive to the development of the relationship. We need to give ourselves a sense of security, and we also need to give each other a sense of security, because this is more reassuring than saying I love you ten thousand times.
3. Even if you are an “old married couple”, freshness is still necessary.
After being together for many years, does it mean nothing new? The longer you stay together, the more you need irregular freshness.
Young lovers who have just been together always look at each other with a pair of “colored” eyes and can capture every advantage in each other. To them, these are all new. For people who have been in love for many years, they need to create freshness even more because they are so familiar with each other.
Freshness is the preservative of love. We only need to spend a little thought to enhance our feelings for each other. For example, traveling to a strange city together, eating in different restaurants, occasionally preparing small gifts for each other, learning a new skill, etc. are enough to make your life happier and more interesting.
4. Discover each other’s bright spots and often praise them
In life, we all feel very happy when we hear others praise us. So, in a relationship, why should we be stingy with our praise when facing the person we love?
I know that some people are not good at words and don’t know how to praise each other. But we can take our time, try to express our emotions and praise the other person so that both parties will be happy and it will help the relationship heat up.
Everyone has their shining points. As long as we observe, we will be able to discover the excellent side of each other. And when we find out, I hope you can muster up the courage to praise the other person. Maybe this is the moment he has been waiting for a long time.
Finally, if you want to maintain a relationship, keep it warm and maintain a constant temperature, you cannot rely solely on the efforts of one party, because love is mutual. On this road of life, if we want to go further together, we must understand each other, consider each other, and accompany each other, so that happiness will always surround us.
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