How to make your lover love you more and more by knowing how to establish an inner connection
Loving someone is a very hard thing. Whether it is the love of parents or the love of a couple, people always tend to overlook a very important point: love means giving good things. This kind of love means that you give a lot more, but you don’t realize what the other person wants.
Since you want them to love you more and more, the most important thing is to know how to connect, to be honest with each other, to know what the other person needs, and to let the other person know what the complete self looks like. Some people are values to each other, some people have three views that are compatible with each other and are comfortable with each other, and some people understand each other and know how to avoid and connect.
Connection is the key to integrating into each other, and it is also the key to better love between both parties. If we want our lover to love us, please don’t learn to give blindly, but first learn to connect with your lover.
01. True love comes from connection
Only connected love is eternal. In other words, your presence in each other’s lives, whether it is daily sharing or confiding and comforting, will become a way of releasing stress and living conditions for each other. Over time, the relationship between the two people will become more and more stable. The distance will get closer and closer, and the feelings will only rise but not fall.
I have a best friend who has been in a relationship for 10 years. I thought that the everlasting “seven-year itch” would happen to her, but their relationship is still as sweet as the young couple who just fell in love.
Not long ago, when we went out for dinner together, I saw her boyfriend giving her a pair of hand-knitted plush slippers and then told my best friend that I knitted them stitch by stitch.
When we are together in private, we always tease you two for being so annoying. Your boyfriend is good to you, but she always insists: Relationships are never one-way, it’s just that you don’t see many things, you don’t know He had a bad temper when the work pressure was extremely high. He didn’t know that the two of us kept quarreling over finances when the work was not improving, and he didn’t realize that we would also have quarreled over trivial matters.
But after all, relationships are good and bad, sweet and salty, and everyone will have moments when their emotions explode. But if we can maintain communication and connect, the relationship will only become stronger and stronger.
When two people are together, you can understand my difficulty, and I can also feel your efforts. Communication and struggle together are the only ways to keep the relationship warm!
Just where you can’t see it, you will be surprised that a cute girl who doesn’t like to cook is willing to wash her hands and make soup for the person she loves. Inspirational women who are not obsessed with relationships will also argue and quarrel because of the person they like. But as long as two people know how to connect, tolerate, and understand each other, this kind of love will never disappear.
02. Connection requires letting go of criticism and comparison
The most taboo thing in relationships is probably comparison, “You don’t have so-and-so who is reasonable”, “You don’t have so-and-so who can speak and do favors”… There will be no identical people in this world, but your existence is always the same. Unique, no matter how you deal with people and things, you are also a cute little girl with your unique charm.
The reason why everyone is different is because everyone has their ideological theory and three standards of outlook. The emotional processing of two people must not be tainted with criticism and comparison. No one is qualified to criticize right and wrong from the moral high ground. What’s more, comparing yourself with irrelevant people?
There is no real empathy. Even if you slowly learn to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, it is still not you after all. What you consider is never comprehensive enough. Therefore, everyone must sincerely be grateful for the encounters in life. , and also grateful to each other for being so happy together.
When you learn to let go of criticism and comparison and let your relationship take its course, you will find that many things that cannot be forced will slowly develop toward good expectations, making your lover love you more and more, and feel that you are the dawn of his life. Full of uniqueness, wisdom, and atmosphere.
Face it with a smile and don’t complain. Leisurely, casual, casual, casual. What is destined to change your life is only when that flower blooms a hundred years later.
Just let nature take its course, keep your mind steady, don’t criticize, don’t compare, don’t be arrogant, and don’t be confused, life will go to a good place, and you will naturally get what you want.
03. How to connect, learn acceptance and compassion
Many people prefer to let nature take its course when it comes to relationships. Many happy relationships are created slowly and unintentionally. In addition to the clichés of “independence” and “improving oneself”, there is also “acceptance” and “compassion”. “, the “compassion” here is not like what Zhang Ailing said, “Because I understand, I am compassionate”, but more like “I am willing to use my warm heart to give you a healing hug. I can treat everything about you kindly, as long as we have each other.” Fall in love.”
Learn to connect, learn to accept each other’s shortcomings, and know that no one is perfect. Nowadays, the standard for young girls to choose a spouse is always “tall, handsome, rich, and clean with eight-pack abs”, but fantasy is not reality after all. If you want to have such a man, first of all, you must also meet the same standards of “beautiful and gentle, The house is clean and rich, and the person is self-disciplined and self-loving.”
These are always relative terms. Know how to accept it. When you think the other person is not good, you must look at yourself more, “What about myself? What are my shortcomings? Am I worthy of the other person’s efforts?” “
Learn acceptance and compassion, and you will find that the world is easy and everyone is good. Someone once said this to me, “I never resent anyone. Even if she leaves me, I still feel like myself at that time.” It’s also very problematic. She was very good, but we were not suitable for each other later. Even if we break up, it doesn’t mean that I will become a mortal enemy with her. “
If you want others to love you more and more, you must clearly understand that you know how to connect, from life, from thoughts, and future planning. One soul connects with another soul. People who have two souls attracting each other are destined to be together. It will fall apart.
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