How To Psychologically Attract Someone

5 min readJan 13, 2024

Have you ever found yourself wondering how to make someone you’re crushing on feel the same way about you? Attracting someone psychologically goes beyond just physical attraction. It involves understanding the intricate workings of human psychology to create a deeper connection. In this blog post, we’ll delve into six scientifically-backed strategies to psychologically attract someone and improve your chances of forming a meaningful romantic relationship.

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Revealing a Secret: The Power of Trust

I told my crush about my fear of public speaking on one of our first dates. Opening up made me feel vulnerable but brought us closer. He felt trusted and opened up in return. Our relationship grew much deeper by revealing secrets.

Trust is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Research by Catherine A. Catrell, Stephen L. Neumark, and Norman P. Lee highlighted the importance of trustworthiness in relationships. People value trustworthiness and trustingness, as they indicate an individual’s commitment and reliability. To build trust early on, consider revealing a small secret to the person you’re interested in. This not only brings you closer but also demonstrates your ability to keep a secret.

The Matching Hypothesis: Similarity in Attraction

I used to go for people very different from me. But with my current partner, our shared values, sense of humor and introverted personalities connect us. Having core similarities makes conversations flow easily and feels comforting.

According to the matching hypothesis, people tend to form successful relationships with individuals who are similar in attractiveness and social value. Elaine Hatfield’s research in 1966 introduced this concept. While it’s essential to express your true feelings to someone you like, keep in mind that forming a romantic connection might be easier with someone who shares similarities with you. So, don’t discount the value of compatibility, both in looks and personality.

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