How will someone who pretends to love you very much treat you?

2bebetter
7 min readDec 29, 2023

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If a woman doesn’t meet someone who truly loves her, she will at most grow old alone, but if she meets someone who pretends to love her, it will be worse than growing old alone, and she may lose a large portion of her property and youth.

Women who lack love are especially susceptible to this kind of dramatized expression of love, so they are deceived and must be careful.

Shallow and superficial acts of love are meaningless, and this is one of the reasons why women often feel that men change a lot before and after marriage or before and after a relationship.

Understand how to distinguish, so as not to be confused by such false love, the actual good is good, the good is just unreal.

To write in front of is, this article does not say that you are very good people have ulterior motives, or poor men’s goods are false, it specializes in writing a certain type of exaggerated pay to deceive women to feel the people.

They know very well in their hearts that they are cheating you, on the surface of good to you, but in their hearts, they may hate you hundreds of times, for some purpose to pretend to love you very much.

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Dramatized Love

Loveless people grow up in families with a lot of emotions, parents are always impatient, arguing, and whispering, so they will think that a relationship with a lot of emotions is love.

Too plain an expression is not love, but the love given by a normal person is long and slow, not so much dramatized.

This is the case with secure attachments, which are the best way to get along with each other. They are stable and calm, and will not intentionally ignore you or cling to you.

To a woman who is not in love, it is boring. They just like the ups and downs of a relationship, which sounds silly, but if they are unaware of it, they will keep pursuing such an unstable relationship.

The person who will make you feel insecure is most likely the wrong person, and how can you be happy if you are obsessed with the wrong person?

So they either fall in love with someone who does not want to care about their escape attachment, or fall in love with an exaggerated show of love liar or emotional anxiety attachment, For these types of men, it is very difficult to give her happiness.

Today we are going to talk about the liar who exaggerates his love, they are very good at acting, and the way they show their love is always exaggerated but not necessarily.

For example, if you want to eat, he will help you to remove the chopsticks, you want to drink water, he will help you to screw the cap first, you want to eat fish, he will pick the thorns of a root, you want to go to the toilet, he will carry you over, do not have to walk.

He makes you feel like a goddess, is his master, and always meets you in a friendly manner, just like a servant.

You said you lacked something, and he immediately bought it (usually cheap small things), you said it was cold in your neighborhood, and he took a car from his house to send a jacket over, and immediately rushed back by car.

When you say you have a cold, he will take time off work to buy supplements, cook them at home, and then send them to your office for you to eat.

When a woman who lacks love sees this kind of exaggerated performance, she will feel that the other party must love me very much, and the harder the other party performs, the more she is touched.

They will feel that the other party is not at all like their indifferent parents who ignore their existence, to see themselves as very important, but ignored, such love is not necessary, it is all a show.

People will think that she has a good life and that the man loves her, but this is an ignorant opinion.

They don’t have to go to such lengths, it’s an abnormal behavior, and it’s not the same as deep love.

There is a more practical approach, that does not have to consume so much of their own and can give you more substantial benefits, but he preferred to choose that kind of look very exaggerated tired of the way.

What is the purpose? It is to make you feel, to get what he wants.

If you don’t do it because you don’t love him deeply, you’ll end up having a big problem with him.

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This kind of love often goes fast.

You can insist that he loves you so much that he’s doing these things, not like Shirasakura said.

Then you can wait and see, he will not be able to do it for long, because these behaviors are very consuming, and can not be sustained.

If he takes a vacation now and then, he’ll be fired soon.

This is not to be taken as a judgment of love or not, the person who will do this is often a big difference between the conditions and you, or he is very poor at the moment.

He will choose such an exaggerated way to you good, is to supplement their inadequate conditions, to achieve his purpose.

That means, once he has achieved his goal (e.g. dating or marrying, asking for money), he won’t give any more.

He knows very well that he doesn’t like you that much, but he is just trying to please you on purpose.

I’ve seen a liar, once the marriage contract is signed, immediately lie down on the chair, nothing to do, called all call can not move.

He said he could wake him up if you go to call him up to do things, he pretended not to hear and has been called not to wake up.

In the end, he would get up and do something with an irritated look on his face, and he would make a lot of noise when he did something rough like he was expressing his dissatisfaction to you.

This is the treatment you will get, their character may be worse than the average person's, but this rude side is his true colors.

If you don’t like his attitude, he will say that you are too sensitive and demanding, and there are many excuses.

It’s not that his love has become less, it’s that you’ve been treating fake love as real love from the very beginning, and that’s why.

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Normal love will not change so drastically, love in the theater is not real, if you meet in life, do not be surprised to meet Prince Charming.

You may just meet a horrible man with a big heart, and this kind of self-motivation won’t last long.

Fancy love is unrealistic and not from the heart.

How can you tell? You have to see if his consumption will give you long-term benefits. Or will it be a short-lived sensation?

For example, if he delivers three meals to you every day so that you have enough to eat, you will be very happy at the moment, but he is not doing his job, and he is using your money, so you will worry when you think of the future.

His errands, but in exchange for the qualifications to stay with you now, but want him to get ahead, that can not pretend, it is too difficult, he can not do and does not want to do.

But his progress is what you need the most so that you will have a long and stable future, you want to marry him, but he doesn’t care how insecure you are, at the moment let you feel good.

Moreover, if there is a person and you get along, no matter how you scold him, always piled up a smile, a little temperament is not there, is also anti-human nature.

All these abnormal things will eventually backfire, he is just holding back, not emotionless.

He endures naturally has his purpose, you should know that you meet not a very loving man, but a man who has something for you.

Every time I write this topic, there will be illogical people who say that Shirasakura is too demanding of poor men, how can this be too demanding?

How can this be too demanding? Genuine is only the basic condition, what they have today is to cheat, and a fake heart, this is completely intolerable, this is a character problem.

People can be poor, but not despicable characters, you believe, sooner or later to pay the price, his true colors will be very terrible.

It is not for you to doubt every man who is good to you, but you have to analyze carefully whether the exaggerated good is necessary. So that you won’t be deceived and pay the price because of unnecessary emotion.

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