I can treat you to a thousand-dollar meal,
I can also invite you to drink two thousand dollars of wine,
But the hundred dollars you owe me have to be repaid,
This is the rule.
I can treat you to a thousand-dollar meal,
I can also invite you to drink two thousand dollars of wine,
But the hundred dollars you owe me have to be repaid,
This is the rule.
No matter how poor a person is, he can’t fool the friends around him.
No matter how difficult it is, don’t say anything.
Never lose the trust of others in you,
because others trust you,
It’s your value in the eyes of others.
The road in life is still long, don’t narrow the road,
If you do a good job, everything will be there.
Never overdraw the trust of the people around you,
More sincerity, less routine.
When someone mentions your name one day,
At least let others say: This person is okay!
The same goes for doing business! I can earn your cost, or not earn a dime from you, but I will never pay for work! By the same token, this is the rule!
If you want me to borrow ten dollars, you will pay me back tomorrow. You don’t mention it the next day. I will take care of you at night. You have to say: Hey, this person is really stingy, isn’t it ten dollars, he can really count. Then tell me the same to others. In the end, I spent money, you took advantage, you lied to me without credit, and I became a villain.
This is a very interesting “The Logic of Borrowing a Knife to Kill”, and it is very common. No matter how you are a person, if someone has helped you, you must know how to be grateful. One by one, dedicated to “good friends” who do not know right and wrong.
Some people always like to look at people through the cracks in the door, “it’s easy to look down on people”
I lend you 50,000, and he lends you 100,000. You will think that he is more interesting than me. But you don’t know that he has a million, and I have all my possessions — only fifty thousand!
I give you one candy, you see me giving him two, and you have an opinion on me, but you don’t know that he also gave me two candies, and you gave me nothing!
Helping is love, and not helping is the duty, cherish those who treat you well!
When you have no money, you can give up your diligence, and the money will come. Heaven rewards hard work.
When you have money, you can give up your money, and people will come. Wealth and people gather.
When you give up love when someone is there, a career comes. Fraternity leads the crowd.
When the career is successful and the wisdom is given up, joy will come. Virtue in the world.
If you don’t give up, you won’t get it! Remember, the world is round, how you treat others, others treat you as you do.
What are the types of people who do not repay the loan?
If you borrow money, you don’t plan to pay it back at all, and you don’t want to pay it back if you have money to eat, drink, and play. This kind of person can basically confirm that they will break up with each other in the future, and their character is too bad.
After borrowing money, he really has no money to pay back. He may be in debt of hundreds of thousands, so he only knows how to hide and never asks to pay back the money. You may be embarrassed to ask again after ten or eight calls. This kind of person can only admit that he is unlucky because at this time you will feel that you are a bit like a grandson, he has become a grandfather, and you have to wait for him to turn over that day to see if he can pay you back.
After borrowing money to do business, the business fails, and I really can’t pay it back, but I will find a way to tell it and ask if I can pay it back when I have money. This kind of person is still possible because when there is no downturn, at least his character is good and his attitude is right.
But no matter what, borrowing money must have its own principles:
Do not borrow money for business, after all, business is risky;
Don’t borrow a down payment to buy a house, everyone wants to make a down payment;
If you are sick and have no money to see a doctor, you need to borrow money. Life is the most important thing.
What kind of mentality do people who don’t pay back the money have
There is still no accurate answer to the psychology of non-repayment of borrowed money, and even the books of psychologists and behaviorists have not recorded this phenomenon.
Demand type, this kind of person is really because of the difficulties in life, borrowing money is the last resort, or it is really impossible to pay back the money, and they do not want to repay the old account and add a new one. But he is trying his best to save money and find a way to pay it back, but it takes a little longer. As long as he is given time, he will definitely pay it back. People like this can be forgiven and understood if they don’t pay back the loan. Everyone has difficult times.
Rogue type, this kind of person is not short of money, he likes to borrow money, because he has borrowed money from countless people, so he is not short of money. His so-called borrowing is: “It’s just borrowing from you, who said it’s going to pay you back, think about it too much!” People who don’t repay the loan can only use “hehe” to deal with it. His face is not something that can be developed in a day or two. He may have developed it since he was a child. He lied to his parents at home and to his friends when he was out. For him, can credit be a meal? Cheating is king in the end. What big truths you tell him, he doesn’t care at all.
The spoiled type, also known as the dependent type, people have a mentality about the money they lent. Many times they are embarrassed to ask for it, or they want it, but their attitude is not strong enough, so many times they do not pay back the money they owe. People who are also indulgent and coddled make them rely on this feeling of being “used”. He thinks that if he doesn’t pay you back, you won’t care too much. To a large extent, he has taken advantage of your weakness. If this is not repaid, a vicious circle of dependence arises. So to deal with this kind of person, we can’t be coddled, and when necessary, we have to show our “determination that it will never end if we don’t come back”!
My personal experience
In my early years, I often heard friends and classmates say: “I found that your friends are quite interesting, I really envy you.”
but I still
I really care about a character when making friends, but which friends are worthy of deep friendship, and which ones are tasteless, sometimes I really can’t judge through a few summaries.
Lending money to a friend
In October last year, a friend said that he had an emergency and asked me to borrow 10,000 dollars. He said that he would pay back his credit card and pay me back in November (this friend’s monthly salary is about 20K). Because I was in a hurry to buy a house at the end of the year, I first lent him 5,000 dollars to help him. Thinking and waiting for him to return it to me in November, so I can catch up with it at the beginning of the year.
I had thinner skin and asked him for it in December, yes, he said that the company owed the salary and would not pay it to me, and I had to wait for the salary to be paid to me. I kindly reminded him to resolve it through legal arbitration and help him think of it;
In January the beginning of the year, I asked him to ask for it again. He said that I had given it a year ago, but it was all used. Now I am on a business trip, and I will give it to me after the travel expenses are reimbursed in two days. Gather some for me in two days, he said yes.
Then? Then came March.
I started to hate myself a bit last month, and I thought he was a loyal and honest friend. Due to the epidemic situation after the year, I can’t get much money for my work, so I asked him again to explain the situation and pointed out that I really need it now. You can give me a part of it, pay my salary in April at the latest, and then pay me back. He asked me for a bank account. , and then there is no audio. I really hate this guy for whatever reason.
Although the money is not much, knowing that I need it, I will not pay it back. It can be seen how can such a person be called a friend.
Tomorrow, April 8, I will call him directly to ask for it. If I don’t pay it back, I will go to their company and dormitory to find him. I must ask for this money, wait for my news!
Borrowing money from friends
Friends who have read my blog know that I mentioned a past when I wrote the blog “I have heard a lot of truth, but I still can’t live my life (a programmer with inner taste)”:
Five years ago, when I was in my sophomore year, I stopped asking my family for living expenses and started working part-time to earn living and internet expenses.
Time: summer vacation, Saturdays and weekends, when there is no class when skipping class;
Jobs: handing out flyers, house sales, tutoring, substitute teachers in remedial classes, waiters in the food court, food passers at banquets, cashier/outfield/duty manager of a fish internet cafe, etc.; Colorful, in fact, terribly tiring (famous case: the limitations of the struggle of the poor).
I remember closing the plate in the food city during the summer vacation of freshman year. At that time, Huabei borrowing was not popular, and neither would we. Before the holiday, I spent all my living expenses, and my family didn’t give them any money, so I had to find a way myself.
A roommate and I started working hard for two months. At that time, we had a total of 120 dollars. The manager said that we would give it together after working for two months (1800 dollars/month).
Taste diary:
In the morning, eat a fried dough stick + millet porridge + free pickles, 2 fast money potato shredded burritos + hot water at noon, buy four steamed buns to eat together in the evening, and fry a 6 dollars fried three silk or tofu skin (more Putting vegetables in water can dip the steamed buns), it’s so delicious (people who understand it);
That’s 7–10 dollars a day. Living in the waiter’s dormitory (free)
We have one day off every weekend, and we will go out to find a part-time job on that day. This is the most important day of the week, which means whether we will be able to eat enough next week.
One week, I didn’t find work on the weekends, and my body couldn’t take it anymore. I slept in the dormitory for a whole day on the weekends.
The first loan:
I didn’t ask anyone to borrow money, but at that time I couldn’t do anything. I asked a few friends and they didn’t have any money. Later, I found the boss of my friend’s dormitory (Zhao Zhiqiang, the oldest boss, who is not the boss~ I often surf the Internet together, but I also have no money. ) borrowed money and asked him for 300 dollars. He briefly explained the situation. I didn’t expect him to transfer 550 dollars to me. He said, “I don’t need it at home anyway, it’s fine”; “Charcoal in the Snow”.
I have been thinking about this matter until now. After becoming a programmer, I dragged him into the pit many times, but he said that he lived comfortably in his hometown and was good at taking care of the elderly, and he was not forcing him. But I know that if one day he encounters difficulties, I will help him!
A fat man with a dream, thank you
On the balcony that night, my roommate asked me: “Do you think this period will be the worst time in our life?” I said yes, and it will also be the bottom of my heart when I try to make money in the future. Look, 5 years from now, we’ll all be different.
Since then, my roommates and I have gotten so much better, and we can still have meat occasionally.
After receiving the salary, I first returned the 550 dollars to the boss, and then I took my first pot of gold and bought a “sweaty electric car (not second-hand)”;
I was probably happiest when I rode my bike back to school.
Now, five years have passed.
Borrowing comprehension
Borrowing your money is someone else’s friendship, but it’s not because you have no morals. When I was a student, the money borrowed was a small amount of money. When it was spent to pay for tuition, it may be big money when you step into society and encounter it again.
Before borrowing money, you must know enough about this person. If you have any doubts about how to deal with others, don’t borrow them. The best excuse is that you are short of money. Generally, others will not say anything.
There are basically few friends who are sincere and interested, and real friends can help if they can. The premise is that money will never affect your normal life, and the money will not be used in the short term. Be prepared to give it away, If you don’t plan to pay him back, you have to have this kind of mentality. If you lend the money again, it will be hard to get it back, and in the end, your friend will naturally have nothing to do, and the gain will outweigh the loss.
I once read a piece of content, “Trust is like a rope between people. Once it is broken, it cannot be easily connected back.” Others may trick you, but treating others with sincerity is different because you can’t care how others treat you. That’s not the point. What matters is how you treat others. There is a saying This is what he said, “A man’s trust is like his own credit card.” When your trust breaks, it means that others can no longer trust you. Everyone knows that connections are very important to a person, but the quality of integrity is the most important key to affecting your connections.
