It’s not easy to meet someone worthy of love, so don’t always think about how to transform the other person
I’m afraid we have been able to turn around since the day we stumbled around learning to walk, but this simple action has now been forgotten by us.
A person walks stubbornly on the road, moving forward regardless of everything, always thinking in his heart that walking on is better than turning around.
Even if he is close to the cliff and taking another step will endanger his life, he still refuses to look back.
Turning around is not incompetence and retreat, but a wise manifestation of understanding the current affairs;
Turning around does not mean surrender, but the beginning of another kind of victory;
Turning around is not a simple action, but the wisdom to win a better life for yourself.
This is like a couple, when a dispute arises, they learn to turn around and learn how to get along, and they also master the best way to manage their marriage.
Someone once said: A deaf husband and a blind wife are the least likely marriage combination to cause conflicts.
Because in most marriages and families, women prefer to nag, and after a long time, men get tired of it.
Happy couples also argue, because they care about each other and want to go further, so they have new problems that constantly need to be solved.
It’s just that happy couples have relatively high emotional intelligence. They know how to hold up the “no-fight card” at critical moments, turn around at the right time, and compromise wisely.
After two people with different personalities form a family, if they try to completely transform each other, they will only suffer losses in the end. Therefore, marriage is an art of “turning around”.
Yanny’s husband is a man who knows how to take care of himself. He always wears eye-catching clothes when he goes out every day.
When Yanny’s friends saw him, they all said, “Look at how neatly your husband cleans up. He doesn’t look like a 40-year-old man at all. He must be neat and tidy at home, right?”
In fact, Yun knew that her husband was just good at dressing up. He had many unsatisfactory qualities that outsiders couldn’t see at all. For example, he was very picky about food, and others couldn’t eat the things he didn’t like.
He doesn’t eat potatoes or cucumbers, but Ke Yun and his children prefer to eat these two.
Yanny’s also thought about completely reforming her husband, but she found that this had become his deep-rooted habit and there was really no way to change it.
So, she chose to compromise and turn around.
In addition, my husband does not pay attention to the details of life and always likes to put things randomly.
When he comes home from get off work, he will put his clothes and bags beside the bed and sofa. Yun also wanted to persuade him to get rid of this problem, but he also forgot about it, so Yun had to follow behind to clean up.
Of course, Yanny also had things that dissatisfied him. For example, after Yanny cooked, the kitchen was in a mess, and her husband followed Yun to clean it up.
It is precisely because of their tolerance and compromise with some small shortcomings in each other’s lives that they have a happy and happy life.
If a husband and wife have never quarreled, it is actually a very dangerous thing. Of course, it is not a good thing to always quarrel.
A happy marriage has its own rules of the game, the most important of which are two: First, try to reduce conflicts as much as possible, and if conflicts are inevitable, learn to compromise and turn around;
The second is not to try to be the winner. There is no victory or defeat between husband and wife. Either both sides win or both lose.
A successful career woman once said: “Actually, ‘turning around’ in marriage is very important.”
Such words came from such a strong woman, which made people feel shocked.
She explained: “Turn around is not a sign of cowardice and weakness, but a more detached way. The art of compromise is a subject that many people should reflect on.”
Knowing yourself and changing yourself is actually more important than forcing the other person to make changes for you.
This is a wise approach because it contains the positive element of tolerance.
Therefore, when disputes and conflicts arise, one party needs to first reflect on himself and realize his mistakes.
After one party compromises, the other party will slowly change when they see the other party’s changes and will not continue to be entangled.
Therefore, learning to turn around in a dispute is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of tolerance.
In real life, couples have to face many trivial things every day. Only by facing them calmly, learning to compromise and tolerate, and maintaining necessary emotional communication can the marriage be bright.
A happy marriage should be a win-win enterprise for both parties. It requires two people to nourish each other with love, comfort with the warmth of family affection, and more importantly, be tolerant with a broad mind.
No one will willingly succumb to someone, including the one they love, because the other person is not your vassal, and the other person is there to love, not to be transformed.
If every couple pays attention to the art of “turning around”, there will be more and more harmonious voices in the family.
Only if a woman is generous can she “tame” a successful husband;
Only when a man is tolerant can he cultivate a gentle and virtuous wife.
Love should maintain a detached attitude, turn around when it’s time to turn around, and give the other person a breathing space and a relaxed and free love.
Generosity and generosity are the cornerstones of a happy marriage. Marriage cannot be perfect every day, but as long as both parties work hard to live a good life, it is enough.
It’s not easy to meet someone worthy of love, so don’t always think about how to control or transform the other person.
A happy marriage should be a win-win enterprise for both parties. It requires two people to nourish with love, comfort with the warmth of family affection, and more importantly, tolerate with a broad mind.
If every couple pays attention to the art of “turning around”, there will be more and more harmonious voices in the family.
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