Just want to be ambiguous or really like you?
3 major signals will be verified in seconds and always complain to you = no chance of success
Recently a boy said to me: “I have been ambiguous with a girl for about 3 months, and we chat every day. It feels very good. But now it seems that after the ambiguous period, there is nothing to talk about, and the relationship seems to have changed.” I’ve become cold, and I’m a little bit at a loss now.”
Does she not like me now?
Ambiguity and liking can exist in the same chain. From developing a good impression of a person to entering a romantic relationship with her, there will inevitably be a period of ambiguity in the middle. But ambiguity and liking are fundamentally different and cannot be equated. In life, each of us will have several friends of the opposite sex. Sometimes, if a girl talks to you too much, you may also have some thoughts: “Is she interested in me?” Otherwise, why would you chat with me so often? 》
If a girl chats with you so often, is there a sign that she likes you? The answer is: “Yes!” 』
Hey~ Hey~ Don’t be so anxious and happy! Because if a girl often chats with you to get to know you, first of all, she can be sure that she “likes” you. But is it possible that this kind of liking is the appreciation of friends or the kind of liking for the opposite sex? This remains to be further verified. Because there are too many boys who always make mistakes in interpretation and blindly confess to girls, the outcome of this style is not very good.
So today we will talk about how to judge whether she is ambiguous with you or likes you through her various behaviors.
You can start from the following three points to verify it, and compare it with your actual situation:
1. Is the chat language ambiguous?
Ambiguity is impossible in friendship, but in love, it is an essential catalyst. So, does she want to be a couple or friends? You have to learn to use the language in chat. But someone must ask again, how do I know what is ambiguous?
Don’t talk nonsense, I know, you need to give an example to understand. Then just give a simple demonstration
A normal conversation between friends usually goes like this:
Man: “Are you free this week? Do you have time to have a meal?”
Woman: “I’m free! There happens to be a new movie that I really want to watch. Why don’t you treat me to dinner and I’ll treat you to a movie?”
Man: “What kind of boys do you girls like?”
Woman: “Hmm…someone with good looks, life goals, and financial management skills, hahaha.”
But if a girl is interested in you, your chat may become like this:
Man: “Are you free this week? Do you have time to have a meal?”
Woman: “Okay! There’s a new movie coming out just now, and I just want you to watch it with me.”
Man: “What kind of boys do you girls like?”
Woman: “What are you doing? Do you have a girl you like? Who is it?”
Although being friends with a girl is a little different from being a brother, if you truly treat the other person as a friend, you will not consider too many gender differences when communicating, and you will not direct the topic to the other person. body. But if one party is unwilling to just be friends, the situation will be different.
Just like the example I gave above, if a girl always relates the topic to you, and always reveals “I think you are very good”, “I want you to accompany me”, “I like you like this” in and out of her words, “means that she sees you as more than just a friend! Of course, there are also hints about girls in this part, so you have to learn to interpret them too~
2. Her attitude when talking about emotional issues
Normally, you might talk to her about things and feel nothing at all, but once it involves emotional issues, things become interesting.
There may be a mystery hidden in every sentence. Do you understand? For example, when you talk about your ex, has her attitude changed significantly, has she become depressed? Are you eager to change the topic as you listen? So why doesn’t she want to hear it? Why was she so anxious to change the subject?
Because she is jealous, she likes you!
So listening to you recall past events with other girls makes me feel uncomfortable. Think about it for a moment, if you are listening to the girl you like talking about love memories with your ex, you must be very bored. However, if she doesn’t care at all when you tell these things today, it means that she is just listening to your story. But when she will inquire deeply and then ask further: “Which one is your most unforgettable? Why? What attracts you to her? Do you still like girls like this now?” If you are asked these questions, you should be wary. , she is rushing to be your girlfriend.
The strange thing is that she is extremely concerned and curious about your past, but she doesn’t mention a word about her past. Why? Aren’t you afraid that a little clue will be exposed and make you misunderstand that she still misses her ex? Isn’t this digging a hole for yourself? Girls will not leave you such a chance, they are very smart. But if she talks to you about her ex very calmly, and listens to you talk about your past, and she doesn’t have any trouble at all and even wants to laugh a little bit, then it is certain that she just treats you as a friend.
3. Take the initiative to talk about mate selection criteria
When girls take the initiative to chat with boys about emotional topics, it is easy to create ambiguity.
If she takes the initiative to reveal her mate selection standards to you, or asks you about your mate selection standards, then you can take a closer look and see if her mate selection standards are somewhat close to yours. For example: “Hey, you are single now, what are your criteria for choosing a mate?”, “What kind of girlfriend do you want to find? Tell me, maybe I can help you introduce her.”
But I haven’t seen her introduce you to you. This kind of asking without action is “I don’t have high requirements. Find someone who knows the basics and can talk to you. The height, fat, and thinness are about the same as you.” If a girl just Treating you as an ordinary friend, she won’t care much about your criteria for choosing a mate. Her criteria for choosing a mate have nothing to do with you, and she rarely even talks about emotional issues. Even when they start chatting, they are always straightforward, either pretending to hurt you or making suggestions for you.
For example: “Just like you, you sit at home all day and don’t go out, you are a homebody! When will you find someone like this?” Or “What kind of girl are you looking for? Let me see if there is anyone around me who matches You asked for it.” She will introduce it to you: “My friend has organized a party this weekend, and there seem to be a lot of girls. Come with me. I will be relieved if I marry you off as soon as possible.”
In heterosexual interactions, many boys and girls feel good about each other to a certain extent, but they do not know how to properly escalate the ambiguous relationship. They seem to be unable to tell the difference between east, west, and north, and how to express it without being rejected thousands of miles away. Being on top of AUO and not yet satisfied with your lover is the most unspeakable relationship. But also, the only way to develop into a couple is how to be ambiguous with girls.
If you want to maximize the success rate and make her willing to interact ambiguously with you and get closer, you need to first make sure that she understands all your advantages. For example, what is your quality of life, are you dedicated, motivated, diligent, and how popular are you with the opposite sex? These are all selling points that can get girls to chat ambiguously with you! The higher your selling point is compared to other suitors of a girl, the higher your success rate will be in developing an ambiguous relationship with the girl.
After all, girls are generally accustomed to expressing their feelings directly, so if she treats you as a friend, she will often come to complain about this and talk to you about that, and basically, you will not take the initiative to talk about it. The more topics there are, the less likely it is to develop an ambiguous relationship.
Even many boys and their friends of the opposite sex, talk about things when they have something to do, but they don’t have much contact with each other when they have nothing to do. But if there is a girl who often pays attention to your updates and always rushes out to comfort you when you are frustrated, it means that her feelings for you are higher than those of a friend.
So, you should think carefully about whether there is such a girl in your friend list of the opposite sex! She will often like your posts, and she will show up as soon as possible if you have any questions. If you like her too, don’t make her wait any longer~!
“Pursuing girls is a bold and careful job. If you want to take the relationship to the next level, of course, you have to get the secret of ambiguity.”
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