Raising one’s attitude and not catering to everything is the true sobriety of an adult.
In life, we often have such confusions:
Why do I put others first in everything, but others don’t appreciate me?
Why did my partner leave me in the end after I paid so much for him?
The truth often sounds cruel, but it is precisely because of your infinite connivance that you allow the other party to hurt you again and again.
When there is no cost for making mistakes and there is no price to pay for harm, then your efforts will not be cherished.
Many people in this world are unpredictable and difficult to reconcile. We don’t have to compromise ourselves to help others.
In any relationship, it is most important to have a good sense of proportion and never be the cheap person.
Not all efforts can be rewarded with a smile
Whether facing relatives, friends, or lovers, she is always accustomed to putting herself in a low position, meeting the needs of others first, and taking care of other people’s emotions in everything.
But in the end, he failed to win a good home for himself and instead lived more and more tiredly.
I very much agree with this sentence: “ If you base your self-worth on the recognition of others, others will be able to use this recognition to squeeze you. “
Every humble attempt to please will only amplify and intensify our sense of lack and helplessness, ultimately trapping you in a vicious cycle.
Those who are overly eager for recognition will not get the attention of others, but will only get the arrogance and disdain of others.
Life is too short to live up to everyone’s expectations.
Learn to be cool and indifferent, and you will find that the world will treat you gently.
If you are too tolerant, you will only be treated as a soft persimmon.
In any relationship, if we swallow our anger, we run the risk of being humiliated.
In the countless times you have accommodated and tolerated others, there are hidden arrows that others stabbed into your heart.
Only by being more stubborn and learning to be a “not easy to mess with” person will you not be manipulated by others in your future life.
Writer Mader said: “ You don’t have to stab people, but you must have thorns on your body. “
In life, you are always embarrassed to refuse other people’s requests and help.
Over time, you will be labeled as being submissive and being manipulated by others.
When others continue to bully you, learning to fall out does not mean being ruthless to others, but it is armor to protect yourself.
Being born as a human being requires not only the good character of being friendly to others but also the courage to say no boldly.
Only by putting away your good intentions and having thorns in your body can you win the respect of others.
To be born as a human being, one must have the courage to be hated
“Only the bottom class is confident in solving this matter. We must have the rationality to be hated.”
In interpersonal communication, no matter how good you are, you cannot be liked by everyone.
The more you pay attention to the cold words around you, the more you will fall into the whirlpool of self-blame and get further and further away from happiness.
You know, we should actually care more about how to live our own lives than what others think of us.
i shared a story about my best friend.
When she first became a supervisor, there was a time when she was particularly disliked by her employees.
The reason is that she made some good suggestions at work, but after they started to be implemented, it would naturally increase the workload of some older employees.
Therefore, those old employees expressed dissatisfaction with her openly and secretly. They did the work she arranged perfunctorily and didn’t pay attention at all.
Although her relationship with the old employees became increasingly tense, and she often heard them criticizing her behind her back, she still insisted on implementing her plan.
After a few months, her new plan was showing great results. As the performance of older employees has improved, their wages have also risen, and the originally rigid situation has gradually undergone some changes.
Some old employees began to take the initiative to please her, get close to her, and learn from her, and the relationship between colleagues gradually began to ease.
Everyone has more or less experienced moments of being doubted, denied, or even beaten in their life.
Although there are many fetters on the road of life, if you want to obtain true happiness and freedom, you must have the courage to be hated by others.
At no time should you give up the choice of your life to others.
Only by not being afraid of other people’s eyes or being disliked can you live a unique and brilliant life.
“When making soup, you need to pay attention to the heat. If the heat is not enough, it will be difficult to adjust. If the heat is too high, things will be scorched.”
The same goes for getting along with others. Any long-term relationship cannot be separated from the word “moderate”.
If you constantly worry about what other people are thinking and therefore scrutinize yourself, you will end up in an endless cycle.
Raising one’s attitude and not catering to everything is the true sobriety of an adult.
When we live out our attitude, others will look at us differently, and respect and love will pour in.
In the second half of life, I hope you and I can build our bottom-level self-confidence and have a high-quality life.
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