Charlie Munger once shared in his speech:
“My secret to longevity is not to think too well of human nature. Human nature has many flaws. If you are full of resentment and disgust, it is equivalent to punishing yourself.”
The darkness of human nature is like a black hole, condensing huge dark energy.
Competing blindly with it will only continue to erode our hearts and make us exhausted physically and mentally.
The wiser a person is, the more he can accept the complexity of human nature. They will not use other people’s mistakes to inflict internal damage on themselves.
The most rare sobriety for an adult is not to compete with human nature.
1. Stop showing off and don’t expect others to bless you
“Many people cannot see others living a good life. If others have what they don’t have, they will feel resentful.”
When you are prosperous, don’t expect others to bless you, and don’t show off your achievements to others at will.
Because the dazzling light emitted by you can not only hurt others easily, but also bring disaster to yourself.
A netizen once shared such a story.
Her friend Anna quit her job a few years ago and returned to her hometown to open a bakery.
Since she had been away from home for many years and didn’t know much about local development, Anna decided to learn from her friend Diana, who she had learned baking with.
Unexpectedly, after listening to Anna’s idea, Diana suggested that Anna go to city A next door to develop.
And told Anna that she could introduce acquaintances to help Anna find a suitable store.
After some consideration, Anna finally declined Diana’s suggestion.
After a while, Anna opened a small bakery through her efforts.
Because of the novel taste and exquisite ingredients, the bakery business is becoming more and more popular.
When the business was on track, Anna ran to tell Diana the good news and share her joy.
But unexpectedly, soon there were rumors that Anna’s newly developed cooking meal kits copied the creative concept of an old local bakery.
And that old bakery is Diana’s shop.
But the time when those plagiarized breads were put on the shelves was a few days later than the time when Anna’s new products were put on the shelves.
When a mutual friend of theirs told Anna that this incident was done by Diana, Anna couldn’t help but feel chilled.
“No matter how close your relationship is with each other, don’t show off to each other. Once you start to show off yourself, it will make the other person feel uncomfortable and even cause jealousy.”
In this world, there are only a few people who sincerely wish you well, except for your closest relatives.
Promoting oneself when others are not satisfied will not only arouse the disgust and resentment of others but also bring some unnecessary trouble to oneself.
Those who are truly smart know how to restrain their sharpness, hide it but not reveal it, and gain it without showing it.
Only by learning to be low-key and humble can we live a shining life in our world.
2. Be compassionate and don’t expect others to be grateful to you
“When there is no reward for your efforts when gentleness is not treated well, please restrain your indifferent affection and be a ruthless person.”
In life, there are always some “adult giant babies” who turn a blind eye to your efforts and even try to take advantage of you.
The more we accommodate, the more confident they become; the more patient we are, the more they advance.
Whenever you are too enthusiastic when getting along with others, you will only end up getting burned.
The director William once had a friend named James.
Due to the financial crisis, he was forced to lose his job. When he was desperate, he hoped that William could help him find a job.
At that time, William was directing and filming a police film.
The crew happened to be short of a support staff member, so William invited James to take up this position.
Since then, James has served as crew support for several films directed by William.
Once, when a new movie was about to start filming, Li Jingxiang approached William and hoped to give him a role.
William considered that James had no acting experience, so he advised him to rearrange other jobs for him if he felt that the logistics were not suitable.
Unexpectedly, James was furious at William in front of the entire cast:
“The salary for doing logistics is too low. Are you just asking for food? If you don’t help, forget it. Don’t pretend to be a good person!”
As soon as he finished speaking, James walked away.
After that, he spread rumors about William everywhere, saying that William was a snob who only valued money and did not recognize friends.
After that, he spread rumors about William everywhere, saying that William was a snob who only valued money and did not recognize friends.
After failing to meet his request just once, James turned his back on him.
Not only did he completely forget about William’s previous kindness to him, but he also repaid kindness with hatred and maliciously spread rumors.
“Friends should ask for small things and favors, but excessive demands and excessive demands are the quickest way to deliberately lose friends.”
Not everyone in this world deserves our sincere treatment.
Giving unconditionally will not only fail to feed a selfish and cold heart, but will also allow the other party to take advantage of the opportunity to stab you.
For those who are ungrateful and demanding, stay away when it’s time to stay away and turn your back when it’s time to turn against them.
Only by grasping a good sense of proportion and establishing a good sense of boundaries can we have the energy to manage our lives well.
3. Practice self-healing, don’t wait for others to save you
“What are some enlightening truths about life?”
“Don’t believe that others will be your salvation, live your life as your savior.”
In life, we always encounter some surprises.
When you are down and out, instead of expecting others to hold an umbrella for you, it is better to live under your roof.
Marquez said: “The essence of life is to live alone and not to have too many expectations of others.”
Human nature seeks advantages and avoids disadvantages. Never overestimate the relationship between you and anyone.
No one can be our permanent supporter. When you are at a low point, don’t imagine that someone will help you.
To completely free yourself from the turmoil of life, you can only learn to be your ferryman.
When we let go of dependence and learn to walk forward with a lantern in the darkness, we can usher in our dawn.
“Understanding human nature is not to make you indifferent or hesitant, but to remind you to think positively about life and have greater courage to face the world.”
Throughout your life, your attitude towards human nature determines the height of your life.
In reality, many people are trapped in the evil nature of human nature and live in a victim mode, stagnating.
The greatest maturity of a person is nothing more than seeing the darkness of human nature and not being easily coerced by it.
Only by suppressing the desire to show off and accumulating strength alone can you relax and be relaxed;
Put aside your compassion and treat others with caution, and you will be comfortable and calm;
Only by cultivating your self-healing power and learning how to survive on your own can you be fearless.
In the days to come, I hope you and I can gain insight into human nature, know the world without being worldly, and live wisely and soberly.
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