no matter how good the relationship is, try to talk as little as possible about your “four things” in chatting with others
Things you can’t accept. Many people have their own “bottom line”, but this is not an untouchable bottom line.
If you want to do something but cannot accept criticism or suggestions from others, it will make the other person think that you have a bad attitude, and it may even affect the relationship between you.
Things you don’t want others to know.
Many people have this feeling when chatting with others!
You always like to share your most private things, but this behavior can easily cause the other party to have a negative impression of you.
Because after others know your secret, they will think you are very unreliable, and they may even label you as a “gossip lover”.
1. Talk less about your past
Everyone has some past, and some things may be happy.
Some things may be sad, but no matter what, these are our own experiences and are the most precious treasures in life.
When chatting with others, we must know how to keep our own bottom line and not always talk about the past.
If you always talk about the past, it will give people the impression that you are carefree or unreliable.
Others will not respect you because of what you have had. Instead, they will think that you are superficial and have no substance.
After all, everyone has a past. Some people can remember it for a lifetime, while some people can only remember things from a few months, years, or even a few months ago.
So, don’t always talk about the past, otherwise, you will only put yourself in an embarrassing situation.
2. Talk less about your privacy
Privacy is something that everyone has.
If you often share your privacy when chatting, it will make the other party think that you are a person who likes to “gossip”.
As the relationship between you gets closer, you will find that the other person does not regard you as a friend at all.
Because he will never respect you, never trust you, let alone share his privacy with you.
3. Talk less about other people’s gossip
As the saying goes: “Those who talk about right and wrong are right and wrong.”
If you often like to discuss other people’s rights and wrongs, then you can easily become a “right and wrong person”.
Because when other people’s rights and wrongs are spread, it will bring them a lot of trouble, and even cause unnecessary trouble to themselves.
Therefore, smart people will know how to talk less about others, because these words are a kind of harm to them.
You know, no one is truly perfect in this world.
Therefore, when you regard yourself as a perfect person, you can easily become “bad” in the eyes of others.
Therefore, when getting along with others, if you want to have good interpersonal relationships, you must talk less about your “four things.”
After all, as long as you don’t talk nonsense, don’t act nonsense, don’t listen to nonsense, and don’t gossip about others, then you will definitely gain a harmonious and beautiful friendship.
4. Say less about your financial situation
In this life, no matter whether you are poor or rich, don’t show off everywhere.
Because this will not bring you any benefits, but will also make others jealous.
On the contrary, if you hide your financial situation too deeply, it will cause you some trouble.
As the saying goes: “Wealth should not be exposed.” People who take money too seriously will often cause unnecessary trouble.
Really smart people often know: “Don’t talk about yourself.”
They understand that when chatting with others, do not talk about some “negative” topics about yourself. This will affect the relationship between you and even make the other party have a bad impression of you.
If you don’t want others to know something, don’t tell them.
After all, just because you don’t say it doesn’t mean that the other person doesn’t have such thoughts.
If you feel that the relationship between two people is okay, then share it with the other person at the appropriate time.
But if you feel that the relationship between two people has “soured”, then don’t say these things to him again.
Because since others don’t want to hear it, there’s no need for you to say it anymore.
When you start “not talking about yourself”, you will find: “No matter how good the relationship is, it won’t work”!
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