People who “take the initiative” in love “don’t do it by being strong”, that’s just bluffing! There is a misunderstanding!

7 min readJan 2, 2024

If you can take the initiative in a relationship, it means you are in control of the direction of the relationship.

You can be together when you want to be together, near when you want to be near, far when you want to be far, and you will be more dominant in the relationship.

The other person will also cooperate with you, please you, and give priority to your feelings and ideas.

But what does it mean to take the initiative? And under what circumstances does one party get the initiative?

It is easy to think that the stronger party has the initiative, but this is not always the case.

Many women are very aggressive and criticize their husbands and control them every day.

But in fact, it is precisely because they are unable to take the initiative that they keep criticizing each other when they feel unhappy.

Of course, some are more powerful and rich, so they are overbearing and use their power to suppress each other, which is not the scope of our discussion today.

That is not the scope of our discussion today. What we are going to discuss is a more positive way of taking the initiative, which is also the direction we should work on in our relationship, so that we will not fall into a passive situation where we are always being led by the other party.

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What’s the real way to take the initiative?

I always say that when your value is high enough, your partner will naturally cater to you, and he will stick to you and never leave you.

If you have the qualities that he wants, and you can give him the feeling or substance that he needs, then he will value you very much, put you first, and listen to you in everything.




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