Please give up your “smartness”, because a marriage that is more “confused” will be happier

2bebetter
5 min readMar 18, 2024

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Thomas once said: “Before you get married, you should open your eyes and look carefully; after you get married, you should turn a blind eye.”

The so-called “turn one eye, close one eye” generally means “pretending to be confused”.

“Pretending to be confused” is a state and a “little trick” used by smart people to run a family.

In fact, “pretending to be confused” does not mean that a person is submissive and resigned to letting his lover do whatever he wants. “Pretending to be confused” means that you need to change your way of thinking.

People who care about others may get a moment of satisfaction, and people who are unreasonable and unforgiving may get a moment of vanity. However, along with satisfaction and glory, there may be hidden dangers. Pretending to be confused at the right time may lead to surprises.

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It is not easy for people who are too smart to be happy, because this kind of person sees everything too clearly, and everything is not simple in his eyes.

If a person always thinks about things too complicatedly, then he must be unhappy.

The woman’s conditions are very good, she has looks, status, and is very smart .

But she had been married several times, but none of them lasted long. Now she is in her forties but still single .

Whenever her husband promised her: “The house problem will be solved soon.”

She will go deep into her husband’s work unit to investigate. After verification, she will criticize her husband very angrily and say, “The work unit didn’t even consider you when allocating houses!”

When her husband promised her: “There’s a good chance I’ll be promoted.”

She went into her husband’s office again to find someone to inquire about, and finally retorted: “Don’t have any illusions, you are not included in this year’s promotions.”

So her husbands walked away .

Because she was too serious and sober, she never got a happy marriage.

Pretending to be confused can avoid many conflicts.

In life, conflicts between husband and wife generally do not have any major issues of principle. If you can handle things between you with a rare and confused mentality, you can create happiness for each other.

When a husband and wife live together, there are not so many things in principle, they are all trivial things. Just relax your mind and all problems will be solved.

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If you are a smart person, then in real life, if you learn to pretend to be stupid, you can achieve happiness to the end.

A truly smart person will never act smart when he should be pretending to be confused, and will not investigate everything clearly.

As long as you grasp the general direction of the family, don’t deviate from the normal track, and try to pretend to be confused about small things, maybe you will fall in love with this way of life, because this way is very close to happiness.

The other party in the marriage is your lover, and there is no need to monitor the other party like a prisoner.

Everything must be reversed. If people stay under high-intensity pressure for a long time, they will inevitably develop a rebellious and rebellious mentality.

If you are too smart, too wise, and too perceptive, you may end up hurting not only your body, but also your soul and even your marriage.

Just imagine, facing a smile that knows everything but doesn’t reveal anything, or a scowl that takes everything seriously and blames and complains all day long, which one do you prefer?

A woman who pretends to be confused in marriage will not let go of the trivial things in life. If her husband doesn’t come home on time one day, she won’t endlessly track down where he went and who he was with.

When her husband is chatting and drinking with friends, she will not scold him in front of everyone and make him lose face in front of his friends.

The husband accidentally told a lie. Even if he knew it, he would not expose him mercilessly and make him feel ashamed. Of course, issues of principle must not be ambiguous.

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A man who pretends to be ignorant will hand over financial power to his wife without hesitation, and will not care about why his wife always runs to her natal family and how many valuable things she has given to her natal family.

When I saw my wife wearing all kinds of brand-name clothes on her body, even though she was very reluctant in my heart and thought she was a waste, I still praised her for her beauty, personality and taste.

And whether he is willing or not, his eyes will show admiration.

When he listens to his wife complaining that her figure is no longer slim in order to help him have children, he will use sincere expressions to let her understand that in his eyes, his wife is just right and plump, and she is a woman who will always be beautiful in his eyes.

Pretending to be confused can make each other feel the other’s tolerance and affection.

In such a relaxed and free atmosphere, the other person will appreciate your tolerance and understanding from the heart. Then you will not only be life partners, but also become friends, confidants, and allies.

Pretending to be confused is a state of mind and an act of smart people to maintain family happiness.

Pretending to be confused is also a sign of self-confidence. It is a sign of having the courage to give the other person freedom and space while firmly believing in your own charm.

So, please give up your “smartness”, because a marriage that is more “confused” will be happier.

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