Really smart people keep silent about their three personal secrets.

2bebetter
4 min readApr 12, 2024

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There has always been a big gap between people. These gaps are not only reflected in economic conditions but also in how people behave in the world.

Some people have high emotional intelligence and know how to keep certain things secret, while some people are just the opposite. They have no sense of self-protection and always spread their privacy to others at will. As a result, they get themselves into trouble.

Really smart people never talk about their three personal secrets, but people with low emotional intelligence talk about them and talk about them to everyone. As time goes by, the days will only get worse.

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1: Don’t talk about your income

Regarding money issues, everyone must know how to keep secrets. Regardless of whether you have money or not, disclosing your family background at will is a sign of irresponsibility for yourself and extremely low emotional intelligence.

If you have a lot of income and a strong family background, what good will it do to you if you tell others? No, it will only make others jealous or jealous, and may even lead to trouble.

For example, if someone deliberately asks you to borrow money, deliberately asks you to partner in a business or invest in a certain project, etc., if you are too vain and cannot tolerate flattery from others, you will be easily fooled, and then disaster will come.

On the other hand, if your income is very low and your family background is very thin, there is no benefit in telling others.

On the one hand, if others cannot help you and your difficulties and predicaments cannot be improved in any way, since there is no use in talking about it, it is better not to talk about it; on the other hand, if you meet a snobbish person, he may criticize you because of your poverty. And if you look down on you, you will only become less confident in future interpersonal interactions.

Please remember that money is always sensitive, and talking about money casually is a taboo in interpersonal relationships.

If you don’t want to cause trouble for yourself, it’s best not to tell others about your income or family resources at will. This is high emotional intelligence.

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Two: Don’t talk about your own family’s private affairs

Every family has its own troubles and difficulties. There is no need to tell outsiders about these troubles and difficulties, because outsiders cannot understand them and they will only think about the problem from their own perspective. , cannot empathize with you at all, and cannot provide you with any help.

On the contrary, it may cause them to see your family’s jokes behind your back, and even treat them as conversation topics and spread them at will. At this time, your family’s entire reputation will be affected.

Some things are more dangerous when more people know about them.

Family scandals should not be made public. Really smart people keep silent about their family’s private affairs. This will show that you have low emotional intelligence and will also create many hidden dangers in the future.

In order not to damage the relationship between family members and to maintain the harmony and stability of the entire family, be sure to be cautious in your words and deeds.

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Three: Don’t talk about past emotional experiences

Some things have passed, and it is meaningless to mention them again. It will only increase worries and sadness. And you never know what kind of impact it will have on you by casually bringing up the past.

As the saying goes, the speaker has no intention but the listener has the intention.

When you brought up your past emotional experiences, you originally just wanted to express your emotions, but the person listening has not experienced these and doesn’t know much about you, so he cannot understand your mental journey and your current state of mind. Have these things about you spread? How should you end it?

Perhaps you were in love or married at that time and had a happy family. When your partner and your family knew about your past relationship experiences, what would they think of you?

It’s not worth the gain to lose if your originally peaceful life is broken like this. It’s better not to mention your past emotional experiences. This is a kind of protection for yourself and your family.

In life, you must always remember to be cautious in your words and deeds.

Regarding your privacy, it’s best to keep silent, because you don’t know when it will happen, laying hidden dangers for the future. Even if you trust someone again, there is no guarantee that they will not betray you or betray you in their lifetime.

With so much uncertainty about the future, it’s best to keep certain things tight-lipped to stay safe.

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