Regardless of whether you are a couple or a couple, the highest state of love actually only has two words.
There is a survey on the Internet:
What do you value most in marriage?
Some people say that economic conditions bear the brunt and determine whether each other’s feelings can withstand the trivialities of life;
Some people say that spiritual resonance is the most important. It means whether two people can resonate at the same frequency and get along for a long time…
It sounds like everyone has their own reasons until I see an answer that makes my head shake:
“No matter how beautiful a marriage looks, it won’t last long without mutual support.”
Deeply agree.
In marriage, economic conditions, emotional resonance, personality differences…
These are all variables. The determination of couples to accompany and support each other is the most important foundation.
The foundation of marriage is to work together and share weal and woe
I caught a movie in the past two days:
Denny, a young man born in the 1990s, awakened his wife Marie from a vegetative state with love.
One year after Marie gave birth to her daughter, the glioma recurred and her life hung on a thread.
This disease is very difficult to cure all over the world.
But Denny said firmly to his wife:
“Even if there is only one in 10,000 chance, I will save you.”
After two craniotomies, Denny exhausted all his savings and borrowed foreign debts, but his wife did not get better.
The doctor recommended extubation, but his relatives persuaded him to give up. His daughter kissed her mother goodbye, but Denny still firmly believed that his wife could survive.
After raising the money, he sent his wife to the hospital for treatment again. However, three months later, although her life was out of danger, she became a vegetative state.
So, Denny decided to awaken his wife with love:
He sings and dances in various ways in front of his wife’s bed every day, hoping that she will feel happy;
He cleans, feeds, massages, and tells his wife warm details about the past every day;
He personally takes care of his daughter every day, teaches her to talk to her mother, and lets his wife hear her daughter’s call…
The wife senses her husband’s persistence, and tears often appear in the corners of her eyes.
Finally, half a year later, Marie woke up to her husband’s call.
The first words she said after waking up were:
“Thanks,my husband.”
His wife’s recovery gave Denny greater hope, and he continued to help his wife with rehabilitation training every day.
Now, my wife can walk and talk on her own.
Under the short video posted by Denny, there is no comment in the comment area, thinking that this man is “acting”, “attention-grabbing”, and “sales to make money”.
I knew I couldn’t do it, even though there were thousands of people there, I went.
With his never-giving-up efforts, he gained a one-in-a-million chance of his wife waking up.
This dedication and belief allowed them to hold each other’s hands and usher in a living spring.
He also wrote for us, the best gesture of marriage: to share the wind, rain, and cold waves, and to help each other throughout our lives.
When two people are together, they should not just cry together, laugh together, or play and make trouble together.
Instead, we should support each other in ordinary times, hold each other’s umbrellas in the wind and rain, and face the ups and downs of life together.
The relationship between husband and wife is maintained not only by a contract but also by working together to overcome obstacles and obstacles.
Only when each other is the beam of light in each other’s gloomy life will the marriage last forever.
Love that cannot bear the trouble is full of ravines
a netizen shared the story of breaking up with her boyfriend:
My boyfriend comes from a well-off family, is handsome, and is very lovable. He prepares gifts for himself during festivals, and can make his parents laugh from ear to ear at the dinner table…
But during their long relationship, she found that her boyfriend couldn’t stand the trouble.
When the two of them encounter problems, the boyfriend will take it upon himself to solve the problem.
When it comes to marriage matters, her boyfriend listens to his parents’ advice in everything and even states that if he has children in the future, he must leave them to his parents to raise.
The girl didn’t dare to take risks and chose to break up.
A man who doesn’t take care of things will just turn around and be the shopkeeper when he gets married, while some women will suffer endless hardships and be tired.
A man who doesn’t take care of things will just turn around and be the shopkeeper when he gets married, while some women will suffer endless hardships and be tired.
In an episode of “ Love Battle”, Ms. Sonny cried aggrievedly that her husband was very considerate before marriage, but he changed into a different person after marriage.
Ms. Sonny was pregnant. Her husband thought it was tiring and stressful to make money alone, and he urged his wife to go to work without considering the danger of placenta previa.
After the child was born, the husband did not work hard to make money. He only thought about eating and drinking with his friends every day.
Even when his wife was sick, he said bluntly: If you are sick, you rest at home while I play with myself.
Ms. Sonny wants to save money to buy a house with her husband and have a home of her own, but her husband only wants to eat, drink, have fun, and use the money to buy a car.
Facing his frustrated wife, the husband said that he did not want a divorce and could not bear to part with such a good wife.
The on-site observer told him sharply:
A man like you who can’t afford anything will never find a wife after divorce.
For women, there is no perfect person in marriage, and it is not scary to be lazy, tired, or decadent occasionally.
The terrible thing is that the other party keeps evading responsibility, leaving him to fight alone.
Children need to worry about everything from eating and drinking to growing up and educating them, but he just wants to be a hands-off shopkeeper;
His parents were sick and needed care, but he simply disappeared and became full of complaints when he did the slightest thing;
The family encounters difficulties and needs someone to carry them, but he gets angry, complains, and shirks the blame…
Every time the other party fails to take responsibility or act, it will squeeze your energy and emotions.
Gradually, the house seems to be covered with dense nets, and the air is thin, making people feel suffocated.
Marriage is like a ship in the ocean.
If one party is always cowardly and evasive, and huddles in a corner when encountering wind and waves, then the boat of marriage will capsize to the bottom of the sea sooner or later.
A marriage that cannot bear the trouble will break up sooner or later.
Marriage is not about formality, love is the core
Women are generally more emotional and like to use the universal concept of perfect love to determine whether a marriage is happy.
“Her husband is sweet and generous, so she must be happy. My husband has no sense of ritual, doesn’t express love, or hug. He feels sad and pitiful.”
“I am the heroine in the marriage. When my husband hears about it, I submit to him, which makes me happy. But when she tries to figure out her husband’s thoughts and takes care of her husband and children, it is humble.”
When we use these criteria to measure our own or other people’s marriages, we forget:
There is no single standard for love and no fixed form for marriage.
A marriage that looks dazzling and sweet may have undercurrents surging behind it; a marriage that seems unbalanced and mismatched may have warmth and depth behind it.
Think of the words
“To look at a person, you must look at the lowest point of his character.”
When looking at a marriage, you should also look at the lowest point to see if the two can work together to shoulder the ups and downs of life.
Your husband may not listen to you, but when you are in trouble, he can stand up and help you out first;
Your husband is an honest and ordinary man who doesn’t make much money, but he can help out at home and outside…
No matter which mode of getting along, as long as each other’s hearts are together and love is flowing, the strongest fortress will be built.
Regardless of whether you are a couple or a couple, the highest state of love has only two words: unity.
Only by working together can we work together; only by being in the same boat can we help each other.
No matter how superior the material conditions are, how rich and comfortable life is, nothing can compare to two people agreeing, facing the ups and downs of life together, and sharing the ups and downs of life.
“The best way for a family to get along is to handle problems together.”
Our marriage may not be perfect, but it is the most reliable shore where we can rest.
When the storm comes, hold the other person’s hand;
When you feel depressed and trapped, lean on the other person’s shoulder.
Things in the world are unpredictable, and peace of mind is the place to go. Being together for the rest of your life, year after year, is the greatest happiness of marriage.
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