Signs of people who lack love: calculating, argumentative, and often saying unpleasant things
People who lack love often behave like childish people. Sometimes they don’t know how to admit their mistakes, they like to quarrel, and sometimes they act coquettishly and willfully.
It is because the inner child has never grown up, so we have these seemingly childlike behaviors.
By learning to identify, you can better understand yourself and the people around you. Only by finding the source of the problem can you know how to solve it.
Even if you can’t solve it, you no longer feel like “Why am I like this?” “My personality is bad!” “My life is bad” and so on.
1. Enjoy calculating
People who lack love always care about who does more housework. Last time I paid you 100, but this time you pay me 50.
You will also feel sad when your colleagues go to pick up the lunch boxes they ordered, but they don’t pick up yours.
The source of care is the fear of being treated badly. Parents of people who lack love are usually stingy and don’t want to spend resources on their children. Some people don’t want to spend money, and some people don’t want to spend time.
They would rather spend their energy elsewhere than on their children.
Therefore, people who lack love will especially care about how much others have paid for them. If they pay more, they will feel that others have taken advantage of them, “They are all taking advantage of me!”
Such thinking habits will make them very hard.
2. Likes to fight and speak severely
People who lack love have grown up listening to cruel words, and their parents always speak coldly, harshly, and harshly to them.
Growing up in such an environment, I naturally learned this way of speaking.
Because they are afraid of being criticized and belittled, they always listen defensively. As soon as the other person speaks, they think the worst and are deeply afraid that others will blame themselves or laugh at themselves.
For example, if you ask him not to eat too much, so as not to hold on, he will think that you think he is fat.
People often feel that getting along with them is very tiring, and they are always arguing, angry, and misunderstanding.
Getting along with others eventually turns into a tense state of criticizing and blaming each other.
3. Unwilling to review oneself
People who lack love have grown up being demanding. If they are not loved, they always feel that they are not good enough.
Under such a premise, those who have low self-esteem often use their arrogant personality to get along with others.
Once you examine yourself, don’t you admit that you are not good? That would trigger his black hole, so he could only “protect” himself forcefully and excuse himself.
The result of being unwilling to admit his fault is that the relationship will break down. If he is the source of the problem and does not want to admit it, the problem will only continue to exist.
People who are with him are forced to endure it again and again, and eventually give up.
4. Pessimistic complaints
People who are not loved feel that their fate has been bad since childhood. Otherwise, how could they be born into such a family? So I developed the habit of being pessimistic.
They always feel that things will get worse. When he falls, no one will comfort him or encourage him, only step on him.
Therefore, it is difficult for them to have confidence in the future. They always feel that bad things will happen to them. They have poor abilities and can only bear and cannot change.
They often say, “I knew I wouldn’t get good things”, “I knew I would fail in the end!” “My life is so bad!” and so on.
When you are happy, you are afraid of losing it, but when you are unhappy, you feel at ease.
Such strong negative beliefs attract bad things to come, and you keep complaining when bad things happen.
He often dislikes the people and things around him and constantly complains and dislikes criticism.
Seeing problems is not about self-pity but about change.
People who lack love have many negative reactions, which are all caused by the subconscious mind. Your emotions are not your emotions, so there is no need to equate them with you.
Whether you care, feel uncomfortable, or be negative has nothing to do with you. Look at them separately from yourself.
Once you understand this, come to love yourself! Eat healthy food, exercise more, read, and do anything that is of substantial benefit to you, instead of just spending money to pamper yourself, which is fake love for yourself.
Stop criticizing yourself, stop being demanding of others, get rid of the habit of quarreling, calm down, and listen rationally to what the other person has to say.
For example, if someone is in poor health and wishes you good health and hopes that you will not suffer from his disease, someone who lacks love may say that you are cursing me for being the same as you.
They are so inexplicable. Such habits will only make them suffer more, so they must change.
Smile more and sigh less. The world is so beautiful. As long as you cross this hurdle, everything will be different.
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