Stabilize yourself with emotional and mental balance

2bebetter
7 min readMay 1, 2024

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After a person experiences ups and downs in this life, he will find that stability and satisfaction in life lie in stabilizing oneself first.

Instead of constantly consuming yourself and consuming yourself, it is better to stop losses in time, return to the calmness and determination of life, calm down, calm down, and stabilize yourself, only then can everything be stabilized.

Only by stabilizing everything can happiness, beauty, and contentment be truly stabilized.

Things change with the heart, and the environment is created by the heart. The quality of life and the height of life all depend on whether we can stabilize our emotions and mentality.

Only by holding on, holding on, and getting through it can you be stable, as the writer Ha Jin said:

“The difference between people in the end is each obstacle. Whether you can get through it or not, you will be different after it.”

I deeply believe that in this life, people will always experience ups and downs in life, with both troughs and peaks. Only when you are at the troughs can you hold on, hold back, hold on, and be stable. At the peaks, you can always know how to stabilize yourself. , life can emit a different light.

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1. Emotionally stable

In psychology, there is an effect called the “twelve-second effect”, which means:

“There are only 12 seconds for a person to be angry due to something. After this time, people will return to their former calm. Unfortunately, most people will be controlled by these 12 seconds and say or do things they regret.”

Most people, in most emotional moments, become irritable, impulsive, and wanton because they fail to restrain themselves and control their temper.

In the end, because of the slightest thing, but because of the failure to stabilize his emotions, he finally lost control of his emotions and caused an even greater tragedy.

The biggest enemy we have to face on the road of life is our own bad emotions.

Emotionally unstable, everything is in vain.

Psychologist Festinger once made a very famous conclusion:

“10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.”

For example, some people will go home and think a lot because of a stranger’s sneer or ridicule. Then the more they think about it, the more they feel that what the other person said is right. Everything about them is a problem and a flaw.

In the end, some distracting thoughts and even resentments arose, and then they belittled themselves, hated themselves, and even failed to control their emotions. The whole person began to feel wrong and even ended up giving up on themselves.

No matter how perfect or impeccable a person is, to put it bluntly, such a person will also encounter all kinds of troubles, pressure, pain, etc.

However, only if a person can stabilize his emotions, figure out the reasons for things, and know how to enlighten himself, can he not be led astray by outsiders and external things.

There is this passage in “Life of Capital”:

“At any time, a person should not make all actions subject to his emotions, but should control his emotions in turn.”

A truly mature person, no matter what kind of things or problems he encounters, will always tolerate both negative and affirmative voices in his mind.

Only by allowing yourself to be sufficiently understanding and tolerant, without using colored glasses to make extreme affirmations or denials, can you avoid developing negative emotions or being countered by emotions.

Really powerful people are those who know how to put themselves in someone else’s shoes, and who also know how to quietly change and adapt themselves.

They have their judgment and opinions. At the same time, they also know how to change in time and be spiritually flexible.

I like this sentence very much:

“One should not be a slave to one’s emotions, but should in turn control them. No matter how bad the situation is, you should try to dominate your environment and save yourself from the darkness.”

Everyone, as long as they can control their emotions more and more easily, will be able to achieve more and more results and more and more blessings.

As John Milton said:

“A man who can control his emotions, desires, and fears is better than a king.”

Therefore, to make ourselves live a better life and to make the people around us live a happier life, each of us should take the initiative to cultivate our moral character, manage our own emotions, stabilize our emotions, to stabilize our living conditions and lives. happiness in it.

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2. Keep your mind stable

Once a person’s emotions are in a stable state for a long time, his mentality will inevitably become more and more stable and better.

Smart people and contented people all know that no matter how the world changes, as long as their mentality is open-minded enough, they know how to look at the world with a pure heart and cherish the current life with joy.

Then, in the face of the ups and downs of life, we can still maintain a normal mind and live our own lives relaxed.

“When you are lucky, think about the bad luck and don’t be too proud;

When you are unlucky, think of luck, and don’t be downcast.

Always keep your mind balanced and your emotions always stable. This is also the way to live longer. “

Only when your emotions and mentality are stable can you live a happy and satisfied life, and then you can live a healthy and long life.

On the contrary, if your mood has been unstable and your mentality has been unable to stabilize, your heart will be like being burned in a steamer. Naturally, you will not be able to live a comfortable life, and your body will suffer accordingly.

After experiencing pain, confusion, suffering, and bitterness, you should learn to look down on life, see through people’s hearts, think about it and stabilize your mentality on time.

In this way, in a calm, open-minded, and tolerant state of mind, come lightly and leave calmly.

“There are no things much ado about.”

Only a good attitude can bring you enough wisdom and blessings.

In life, only when the mentality is good can the state of mind be good; only when the state of mind is good can the body be good.

A person with a bad mentality will feel tired, annoyed, and miserable even if he is walking downhill. Even if he is in the bright light, he will feel as if he is stuck in a quagmire.

However, if a person with a good mentality is given some sunshine, he will be full of energy and full of hope.

Dickens said:

“A sound mind is more powerful than a hundred pearls of wisdom.”

It can be seen that a good attitude can lead to a good life.

Because at low points, a good attitude can still generate energy, withstand pressure, heal quietly, and calmly face every storm, change, and impermanence experienced in life.

I very much agree with what the famous psychologist Maslow said:

“When your mentality changes, your attitude changes; when your attitude changes, your habits change;

When habits change, your personality changes; when your personality changes, your life changes. “

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3. steady yourself

If a person is emotionally stable and mentally stable, then his happy life will also be stable.

Goethe said:

“Human happiness lies entirely in the happiness of the heart.”

Indeed, emotions come from the heart, and mentality grows in the heart. If the heart is calm and the heart is stable, everything will be stable.

The ancients said:

“Knowing that there is stillness can lead to concentration, concentration can lead to tranquility, tranquility can lead to tranquility, tranquility can lead to worry, and worry can lead to gain.”

Only by stabilizing your emotions, acting with a sense of proportion, and having a good mood can you stabilize your aura and people’s hearts, so that you can communicate harmoniously and happily.

At the same time, you can only maintain a sense of calm and calm wisdom in dealing with everything you encounter by stabilizing your mentality.

In this way, control your emotions, manage your mentality, and stabilize yourself.

Anthony Robbins once said:

“The secret of success is to know how to control the forces of pain and pleasure without being countered by them.

If you can do this, you can take control of your life. “

I hope you learn to stabilize your emotions and mentality soon, and then control your own rhythm and pace of life, stabilize your life, and gain a better self.

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