Surprise is a little spark in marriage, which can make the relationship set off brilliant fireworks and illuminate life.

2bebetter
6 min readMar 23, 2024

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Surprise is a little spark in marriage, which can make the relationship set off brilliant fireworks and illuminate life.

Surprise is a little spark in marriage, which can make the relationship set off brilliant fireworks and illuminate life.

Couples who manage their marriage carefully need to create surprises for each other every now and then.

Predicting the future is a kind of joy, but the joy of the future is another kind of joy. Therefore, never solidify what happiness looks like. Happiness lies in presupposition and creation. It is precisely because of the ever-changing nature that life will have surprises.

Married life is the same, it needs a little unexpected surprises to embellish it, so that it can survive the changes for a long time. For example: suddenly appearing in your lover’s office and bringing your lover’s favorite iced milk tea; telling your lover that you have the wrong flight, calling at the door. Calling to tell someone you miss them, then pushing the door open…these surprises are the best gifts for each other.

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“The fairy tale gives us the feeling that the frog turns into a prince, which is romance; the lesson that marriage teaches us is that the prince turns into a frog again, which is reality.”

Life is like this. The intense affection before marriage

In order to improve this problem, many smart couples have come up with a wise move called “creating surprises”, because surprises are the best way to make “little waves” appear in “stagnant water”.

In your free time, you can put aside the troubles of trivial matters, go for an outing in the countryside together as a couple, relax your body and mind , and eliminate the fatigue of life.

In this relaxed state, it is common practice to look for the best moments to create unexpected surprises.

The best way is to “separate” occasionally. The couple can stay apart for a few days and repair the misaligned feelings while missing each other. You can suddenly make a phone call in the middle of the night to greet the other person, hide under the quilt and tell the other person your thoughts…

This little surprise can add some fun to a marriage lacking passion and sublimate the relationship between each other.

Of course, the way to truly make your marriage continue to surprise you has to be discovered in the details of life where you get along day and night. This requires you to be a thoughtful person.

To be a caring person means to be good at discovering techniques to improve emotions in ordinary days, and to create surprises for the other person at the right time.

For example, if your husband is so busy with work that he forgets your wedding anniversary, your wife can prepare everything quietly. When your husband suddenly comes home, he sees the candlelight dinner you carefully prepared and the faint atmosphere. Candlelight, he felt infinite warmth and gratitude in his heart;

Valentine’s Day is here, and when the husband comes home, he brings flowers to his wife. This surprise will also make her heart warm as spring.

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Sometimes, you can also buy a gift that the other person has been looking forward to for a long time without their knowledge. This will allow the other person to experience the harmony and love of the family in an unspeakable surprise, and can also make the marriage happy and long-lasting.

If you are eager to get a surprise from the other person, tell the other person your thoughts frankly and don’t hide your needs.

Many women complain that their husbands don’t understand their needs and are willing to give them everything before marriage, but after marriage they become increasingly incapable of creating surprises.

In fact, the truth is very simple. Before marriage, in order to please you and gain your favor, a man will naturally find ways to use romance to trap you.

After marriage, you are already his, and love has turned into family affection and habits. Men will feel that there is no need to do what they did before. More importantly, after marriage, men will spend most of their time at work and In terms of making money, they think that if they love you, they should give you a better material life.

Therefore, women must understand men. At this time, do not complain, just tell your husband what you need. If he loves you, he will definitely meet your needs.

Therefore, a thoughtful wife must learn to stimulate a man’s romantic cells and cultivate his ability to create surprises.

In fact, men also need an interesting family life, but they are careless and do not know how to create it, or they are too occupied with work to think about it.

At this time, as long as the wife can take the lead in creating surprises and passion, a harmonious family life is not far away.

The man and woman have been married for six years. By this time, the relationship between husband and wife should have become dull. However, instead of cooling down, their relationship has become more and more emotional. The woman said that the secret of their happiness is to often create various surprises for each other to let out the dull marriage life. Wonderful light.

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While chatting after dinner one day, my husband accidentally said: “My razor is broken and it’s time to replace it.”

In fact, the husband just said it casually, and this unintentional remark has been remembered by the thoughtful woman.

On their wedding anniversary, she bought her husband a razor and placed it on the bathroom sink.

When the husband went to the bathroom to brush his teeth in the morning, he accidentally saw the razor on the counter. This unexpected surprise made him excited and moved. The husband yelled and rushed into the living room, picked up the woman, and slapped her face heavily. Kissed her, and at that moment, the woman really felt so happy!

Women usually like to collect stuffed toys.

One time she came home and saw a note from her husband: I bought you a lot of stuffed animals and I hid them in different places at home. Do you want to know what they are? Go find it quickly.

So, the overjoyed woman began to rummage through the house for toys, and ah — she really found a lot of toys: the rogue rabbit in the cupboard, the garden baby behind the photo album, Snoopy under the TV cabinet…

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Every time she found a toy, she would squeal with surprise.

Think about it, what a happy thing this is!

It is these little surprises that add warmth and romance to a marriage, promote the harmonious relationship between husband and wife, and make the home a haven of mutual attachment.

It’s not just love that we need surprises, marriage needs surprises even more so, even if it’s just a little bit.

Surprise is a bouquet of flowers blooming in married life. It can make ordinary life rich and colorful, allowing each other’s hearts to find happiness and a happy ending in infinite interest.

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Surprise is a little spark in marriage, which can make the relationship set off brilliant fireworks and illuminate life.

Couples who manage their marriage carefully need to create surprises for each other every now and then.

Because married life needs a little surprise to embellish it, so that it can last a long time amid changes.

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