The best state of life: being unable to fall in love with others
The more someone you see, the less you see someone.
Many people often lament: Why can’t I always meet someone I like very much?
It is a state of life that you have never met someone you like very much.
As the saying goes, “A wise man never falls in love.” A truly mature and complete person will no longer be lacking in his heart and often has no needs. He can be self-sufficient and enjoy himself.
And those people you like very much are often what you lack and yearn for most in your heart, so you are particularly excited and want to get them.
However, the more you care about something, the easier it is to control you.
Everyone likes things that are out of their reach. The people you like very much are often things you need to step on to reach, and many people can even reach them without stepping on them. In fact, she is just like you, pursuing something that is beyond her reach.
Even if she is lonely, moved, and moved by your enthusiasm, she stays with you.
You will fall into it soon, but she is not satisfied with you deep down after all. Once the affection starts to fail, she will get tired of you and start torturing you in different directions until you are willing to leave.
Remember this sentence: The person you like very much often comes to collect debts. You may have owed her a lot in your previous life, so she comes to torture you in this life.
People are always tortured and controlled by the people and things they like and care about.
There should be no abode but the mind should be born.
The more someone you see, the less you see someone.
The more you like someone, the less clearly you can see them because they live in your heart. What you see of her at this time is her that has been beautified by your heart, and is no longer the real her.
In other words: Only when you no longer have any worries in your heart can you see the truth of the world clearly.
Once a person has perfected his practice, he will never meet someone he likes very much. Such a person will only love himself because he finds that the most beautiful encounter in life is meeting a better self.
Throughout our lives, we are looking for a person who has a soul similar to our own.
In the end, I found that the only one who could fit me was myself.
A truly mature person can handle his sorrows and joys, and this is the most rare freedom in life.
The highest state of life is to fall in love with yourself. When a person truly falls in love with herself, she will never be able to fall in love with anyone else again, because the state of loving herself is so beautiful.
If you want to fall in love with yourself, you must first truly understand yourself. Understand your own specialness, strengths, and mission; understand your own desires, desires, and even shortcomings and limitations.
The second thing is to be good to yourself, please yourself every second, improve yourself every moment, and live for yourself every day.
For example, don’t let outsiders’ comments disturb you, don’t pay for other people’s mistakes, and don’t let others intrude into your life.
At this time, there is no one else in the world, so you will completely focus on yourself and care about yourself.
So you make peace with yourself, and because of this neutralizing reaction, you become very peaceful, without emotions, pride, jealousy, judgment, or grievances.
At this time, you are completely outside the world, but you can integrate into it at any time. Pull away at any time and appear at any time. Tathagata is motionless when he appears, relaxed and relaxed when he leaves, and Tathagata is just as gone as he came.
At this time, you can be in love at any time and fall in love with any beautiful thing. Sometimes it is an interesting soul, sometimes it is a beautiful scenery, sometimes it is a delicious meal, even just a smile or a look.
This feeling is wonderful, and every moment of life is heart-pounding.
At this time, others cannot judge you, and others cannot attack you, because you are invisible, traceless, and invulnerable.
Fall in love with yourself. When you truly fall in love with yourself, live in the present every moment and enjoy the beauty every minute. This is also a state of life.
The following poem is called “When I Started to Love Myself”, written by the world-famous genius comedy filmmaker Chaplin. This is a poem he wrote on his 70th birthday:
No matter who you end up with, you will meet yourself in the end, a more complete and perfect self, because you will eventually find what is missing and inadequate within you.
Life is a practice, and we must have the courage to face ourselves. The highest state of spiritual practice is inner harmony and lack of everything.
Everyone must complete a self-cultivation before they can enjoy the beauty of this world.
Otherwise, your fate will remain the same no matter how many partners you change.
So, love yourself. If you love yourself, you will become purer and your value will be more prominent. Making ourselves always full of value is the most important thing in our lives.
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