The best way for a person to transit: develop a high-energy physique

2bebetter
7 min readApr 20, 2024

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When studying, everyone competes for IQ; when working, everyone competes for emotional intelligence;

It was only in the second half of life that I discovered that energy is more important than IQ and emotional IQ.

People with low energy are often passive and lazy, unable to withstand pressure and frustration, and are unable to get back up when encountering any difficulties, making it difficult for them to continue to achieve success.

High-energy people, on the other hand, are full of vitality and will not easily back down when encountering problems. Instead, they take the initiative to break through difficulties and keep improving in life.

I think so.

Life is not a 100-meter race, but a marathon. Those who win in the end are often those with energy.

To keep yourself in good condition, you need to develop a “high-energy physique.”

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1. It’s not that you’re unlucky, it’s that your energy is too low

“Psychological energy is the driving force of personality. It drives a person to complete various psychological activities.”

When a person’s psychological energy is too low, he will feel unable to do anything with energy, be trapped in a depressed mood, and lose the motivation to move forward.

Netizen Landy once complained about her experience :

After graduation, she found a good job in a large company. She thought she would continue to do so safely.

Unexpectedly, the company’s performance dropped significantly in the past few years, layoffs began one after another, and her department was also in danger.

Faced with pressure, Xiaoling was anxious and complaining all day long. She was also lazy at work, procrastinating but never putting in the effort.

As a result, she was among the first batch of layoffs.

Ironically, not long after she left her job, the industry began to pick up, and her colleagues who had persisted were promoted.

In Landy’s opinion, she just had bad luck. But if you analyze it carefully, you will find that this is actually the influence of inner energy.

Our psychological energy is like the battery of a mobile phone, it will be depleted and will return to zero.

When encountering problems, if all energy is used for internal consumption, there will be no energy to change, and life will inevitably enter a negative cycle.

There are often two types of people around us:

A person who has good abilities in all aspects, but likes to complain negatively, and as a result, life gets worse and worse;

One may seem ordinary, but can always face various problems positively and attract good luck and connections.

The difference behind this is the level of psychological energy.

“High Energy Postures” states:

People with low energy show threat perception. They adopt a defensive posture towards everything around them and constantly give themselves negative hints. As a result, they languish in self-pity;

People with high energy show their ability to perceive opportunities. They will give themselves positive hints so that they can better face challenges and seize opportunities.

In life, it is inevitable to face pressure and difficulties head-on.

If you get confused at the slightest disturbance, you can only consume yourself in negative emotions.

The more you are in a trough, the more you need to manage your energy, don’t worry in advance, and don’t worry in advance.

Adjust your mentality and believe that difficulties are only temporary, and then you will have the courage to face them and break through them.

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2. To manage your own energy is to manage your life

“In the final analysis, when people encounter difficult situations and have trouble getting through it, it’s because of a lack of energy.”

Many times, what traps a person is not external problems, but an inner feeling of powerlessness. Only by managing your inner energy well can you have the energy to face the difficulties in the world.

Amy, a professor at Harvard University, suffered a serious car accident during her sophomore year. Although she survived, she was told that her brain was severely damaged.

From then on, it took her a long time to understand the teacher’s lectures and it took a lot of effort to express her thoughts.

But Amy did not give up. She began to study psychology hard and study the impact of behavior on people.

She discovered that as long as she makes reasonable adjustments, she can stimulate personal energy and change her life.

Therefore, she began to try some high-energy postures to rebuild her inner existence by adjusting her posture and cognition.

The continuous changes in her cognition also made her condition better and better, and she finally successfully completed her studies.

When Candy, a well-known career consultant, just graduated, he was troubled by his introverted personality.

At that time, she was working in a publishing company and often needed to communicate and negotiate with clients.

But because she is not good at communication, she is often pointed at and scolded as “useless” by some arrogant and domineering customers.

Once, a client told her boss that she was not suitable for the job.

Faced with everyone’s doubts, Candy fell into serious internal conflict: doubting himself while constantly trying to prove himself.

During that time, she often felt exhausted and miserable.

Fortunately, with the help of her friends, she realized that although she couldn’t change her personality, she could play to her strengths of sincerity and empathy.

As a result, she no longer allowed her mood to be influenced by others, but devoted all her energy to improving herself, and also summed up a set of “Negotiation Skills for Introverts”.

I agree with the saying: “What is more important than time management is energy management.”

In the face of external disturbances, we must learn to return the focus to ourselves: take care of our emotions and avoid internal friction and self-confirmation.

Only by continuing to enrich yourself and cultivate yourself can you nourish your heart and gain endless energy.

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3. Really powerful people have high-energy physiques

Psychologist Hawkins once proposed an “energy level theory”. He pointed out:

Each of us has a corresponding energy level. The higher the energy level, the more good luck and things we can attract.

If a person wants to maintain a positive state, he must reduce consumption and do more things to recharge himself.

① Reduce “negative cues” and adopt “positive cues”

Someone asked Curry: I always feel unhappy, what should I do?

Curry replied: Laughing every day gives yourself a hint: I am happy and happy.

Think about it, have you ever felt like this:

When I’m in a bad state, I feel like I’m worthless and full of anxiety about the future. In the face of challenges, hesitant and hesitant;

When you are in good condition, your whole body feels full of strength, everything is under control, and you are more willing to face challenges.

This is the influence of psychological suggestion.

All our actions originate from our inner “thoughts”. Only by believing that we can cope with problems can we solve them.

By giving yourself more positive hints and learning to think positively, you can reduce internal friction and increase your energy.

② Change the “low energy posture” to a “high energy posture”

Cognitive psychologist Amy Cady once conducted an experiment:

She asked the experimenters to assume either a tense, limp, low-energy posture or a relaxed, open, high-energy posture for about two minutes. Then put them to the test.

She found that open, powerful, high-energy postures would lead to more positive changes in the body’s hormones and psychology of the experimenters.

The physical state determines our mental state. A good gesture will bring positive energy to your emotions.

In life, we must actively maintain awareness of the body and consciously put ourselves in “high-energy postures”, such as raising our heads and chest and placing our hands on our hips.

By adjusting your posture, you can quickly improve your mental strength and reduce anxiety.

③ Stop overthinking and bring yourself back to the present moment

Many people have had this experience:

I had to give a speech, but before I even prepared, I began to worry about “What if something goes wrong?”, and something went wrong.

I have to meet a client, but before I even meet, I start worrying about “What if this person is difficult to get along with?”, and the result is really not smooth.

Why is this so?

Because just thinking about not doing it is the most energy-consuming. When psychological energy is too low, we will become decadent and lazy and prone to making mistakes.

And when you focus on the process of things: if you want to give a speech, prepare the speech carefully; if you want to meet with a customer, carefully remember the customer’s needs and preferences.

Only by using energy for action instead of random thoughts can your life enter an upward positive cycle.

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I’ve heard this saying:

“Energy is the inner spirit of a person. What kind of energy you have is what kind of life you have. Only by filling yourself with energy can you win steadily.”

The so-called good luck is nothing more than using your energy on the right things to gain a better version of yourself day after day, thereby attracting more good things.

When you manage your energy well, learn to relax your mind.

Don’t lose yourself in the sounds of the outside world, don’t consume yourself in excessive thinking.

Do what you can, and everything you want will follow.

In the new year, let’s be high-energy people together.

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