The greatest self-discipline for adults is to learn energy management
Tony Schwartz, author of Harvard Business Review, told a story.
His friend Wanna is a senior partner of a well-known accounting firm.
To deal with the complicated work, he had to work 12 to 14 hours a day and often felt exhausted.
After understanding his situation, Schwartz offered a piece of advice: You should manage energy, not time.
For example, do what you have to do and delegate other things to others;
For another example, adjust your work habits and handle the most important things when you are most energetic to ensure work efficiency.
Wanna did as he was told, and after a while, his energy was noticeably better than before.
I have read this sentence, you must protect your energy and don’t waste even a little bit on anything that will not be rewarded.
We have to face complex social relationships every day and all kinds of difficulties in life.
Learning to manage energy and focus on important things is the greatest self-discipline for adults.
01. No interaction
Don’t take care of things if you don’t want to do it yourself, and don’t force yourself to speak if you don’t want to speculate.
There are only three things in this world: your own business, other people’s business, and God’s business.
We have no control over God’s affairs. We must take care of our own affairs and don’t mess with other people’s affairs.
Blogger was nosy when she was young, and she wanted to get involved in other people’s affairs.
At that time, a colleague in the unit bought a new house and was preparing to decorate it.
After she learned about it, she put down her work and couldn’t wait to teach her colleagues the experience:
“Listen to me, put wooden floors in the living room, not tiles. Don’t make the kitchen open…”
She explained to her colleagues how to decorate in detail, and had to make up for the work she missed during the day after get off work.
After a while, when she asked about the results of the decoration, her colleague told her that after the decoration was completed, we still chose ceramic tiles and an open kitchen.
She suddenly felt like a basin of cold water was poured from head to toe. It turned out that all her efforts were in vain.
As a human being, you should not meddle in other people’s business, but take care of yourself.
Meddling in other people’s business not only wastes one’s own energy, but also easily offends others, causing a lot of harm but no benefit.
Read more ancient books to broaden your horizons, and meddle less to nourish your spirit.
People’s energy is limited. Instead of spending it on other people’s business, it is better to focus your time and energy on improving yourself.
Recovering your energy, living your own life, and not meddling in other people’s business is true maturity.
02. Don’t bother
In life, you will inevitably encounter annoying people and annoying things.
Comparing it will only make you fall into the mud of bad emotions and waste your energy.
When faced with bad people and bad things, the smartest way to live is not to dwell on them.
American writer Harper Lee once had a very good friend-Kait.
When Harper Lee was writing novels, he would share his creative ideas with Kayit and seek his opinions.
After her novel “To Kill a Mockingbird” was successfully published, Kait enthusiastically helped her promote it everywhere.
“To Kill a Mockingbird” was critically acclaimed around the world, and Harper Lee instantly became famous and became the most popular author in the United States.
“To Kill a Mockingbird” was critically acclaimed around the world, and Harper Lee instantly became famous and became the most popular author in the United States.
At this time, Kait began to distort his psychology and claimed to the media that he was the real author of the book.
After much publicity in the media, Kait quickly became famous, and Harper Lee was also attacked by many readers.
But Harper Lee did not make any excuse, but chose to return to his hometown town and live a semi-hermit life.
She began the conception and creation of the novel “Watching Heart” without being affected by this incident at all.
After “Watching Heart” was published, it became a bestseller again, and Harper Lee received the Medal of Freedom from President George W. Bush.
Everything in this world has a cost, and it is your own time that is involved in bad things.
a famous business consultant mentioned the concept of “time cost” in “5-Minute Business School”.
If you waste your time on those crappy things, you’ll only end up with a crotchless life.
From today on, spend your energy on self-cultivation, strengthen your body, enrich your mind, and laugh off bad things that happen to you.
03. No worries
Masao Yoshida, a Ph.D. in psychology from the University of Tokyo, experimented.
He invited 100 volunteers with similar conditions, divided them into two groups, and assigned them the same task.
His requirement for the first group was to consider the method, process, and possible contingencies of how things are done.
The requirement for the second group is: Just do it.
The result of the experiment was that the first group took twice as long as the second group, but the completion quality was far inferior to the second group.
Masao Yoshida therefore concluded that overthinking about everything will make your performance worse.
In life, many people have this experience:
I had to attend a work report the next day, and I couldn’t sleep the night before, worrying that I wouldn’t perform well;
When meeting the boss in the corridor, he did not take the initiative to say hello, fearing that the boss would be resentful and cause stumbling blocks for him in the future;
I sent a message to my lover and didn’t get a timely reply, so I started thinking wildly…
This kind of internal friction is like two villains living in your heart, constantly pulling and fighting, consuming your mental energy.
Norwegian psychologist Nordsk served in the army at the age of 21.
Late one night, the officers gathered urgently to conduct military exercises.
He hurried onto the court, and just as he leaned over to tie his shoelaces, the drill began.
From that moment on, he was obsessed with one question: Are my shoelaces tied?
While running, he was thinking, he just tied it casually, what if it got loose?
When he picked up the weapon and prepared to fight, he was thinking again, could it have become loose and make me trip?
In this way, the more he thought about it, the more anxious he became. He was unable to concentrate on the exercise, and was shot in his left leg.
However, the funny thing is that the shoelace is tied perfectly from beginning to end.
American psychologist Baumeister once proposed a famous theory called “ ego depletion .”
A person seems to have done nothing, but in fact every choice and entanglement he makes is a loss of psychological energy.
Every minute you spend internally is one less minute you spend solving problems.
Take action and you will find that all the preset difficulties will fall apart in the process of doing things.
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As Nietzsche said: One important thing in life is to tap and manage your own energy.
Managing energy is managing life.
After all, life is long, and you can live a beautiful life only if you have enough energy.
