The language of praise is like a magician’s wand, which has miraculously changed the destiny of many people.
From children to old people with hanging buns, no one does not want to be praised and affirmed by others.
Appropriate praise and affirmation can stimulate a person’s potential, make his waist straighter and more energetic. I have never seen a couple quarrel because of genuine compliments to each other.
What should someone do if someone says he or she has no merit?
We admit that no one is perfect, but it is impossible to say that a person has no advantages.
Everything has two sides, it’s just that we are used to looking at other people’s shortcomings in our daily lives.
Mark Twain once said that hearing a decent compliment can make him intoxicated for two months.
In real life, everyone looks forward to the praise of others, because everyone hopes in their hearts that their efforts will be seen by others, and their achievements will be recognized by others.
Psychologists once conducted such an experiment: subjects were divided into four groups and completed tasks in four situations with different incentives.
The first group is the praise group, which will give praise and encouragement after each work;
The second group is the trained group, who are severely reprimanded after each work;
The third group is the neglected group. They are not evaluated and are only allowed to listen to the other two groups being praised and criticized;
The fourth group is the control group. They are isolated from the first three groups and are not evaluated.
The experimental results showed that the work performance of the first three groups was better than that of the control group. Compared with the reprimand group, the praise group was obviously better than the neglect group, and the performance of the praise group continued to rise. This experiment shows that timely evaluation of work results can strengthen work motivation and promote work.
Appropriate praise is obviously more effective than criticism, and criticism is more effective than no evaluation.
“Praise is like sunshine to the human soul, without which we cannot grow healthily.
However, most of us are only quick to avoid other people’s sarcastic remarks, but we are stingy in giving the sunshine of praise to others. “ said famous psychologist Jess Lehr.
In real life, everyone is born with the desire to be appreciated by others. Similarly, everyone is also afraid of being criticized.
Psychologist and philosopher William James said: “The strongest desire in human nature is the approval of others.”
A simple compliment can turn a student in the cowherding class into a chemist, and a shy international student can turn into a psychologist who is widely loved by young people.
The language of praise is like a magician’s wand, which has miraculously changed the destiny of many people.
Carnegie, an expert on interpersonal relationships, once said that liking to be recognized by others and feeling important are the main characteristics that distinguish humans from other lower-level animals.
If our ancestors did not have this important need, then human civilization would probably remain stagnant.
Young Steve Morris has bad eyesight but is gifted with keen ears.
One day, the teacher asked him to identify the location by listening to the sound and find the mouse that escaped from the school laboratory.
The teacher’s recognition of him opened up Morris’s new life.
In the 1970s, he became popular as “Stevie Wonder” and became a top pop singer and songwriter.
In daily life, praise can stimulate people’s inner self-esteem.
One day, Mrs. Jason hired a maid and asked her to start working officially the next Monday. During this period, she called the maid’s former employer and asked about the nanny’s personal situation. Unexpectedly, she received more negative comments than positive comments.
On Monday, the maid came, and Mrs. Jason said to her: “Liz, a few days ago, I called your former employer for advice. She told me that you are honest and reliable, and you are also good at cooking.” The food is good, and she is very attentive when taking care of her children. The only drawback is that she is a bit amateurish in housekeeping and always makes the house dirty.
I think her words are not entirely credible. It can be seen from your clothes that you are a very clean person. I believe this is your habit. You will definitely clean your home. I think we We’ll get along very happily. “
In fact, they really got along very happily. Liz really kept her home in order and spotless. She worked very hard and would rather work overtime than delay her work. Mrs. Jason saw it and was happy in her heart.
As long as you are willing to respect each other’s special talents and give high praise, everyone will show their own advantages to the fullest.
If you want people to know how to respect themselves and love themselves, then you should be the first to respect them.
If you want to correct a person’s shortcomings, you might as well praise some of the other person’s advantages first. Only then will he be willing to cater to your wishes and correct himself.
Success guru Napoleon Hill once said: “The deepest need of human nature is to desire the appreciation of others, so we must praise others more.”
In this world, whether it is a rich person, a poor person, a thief or a priest, as long as they hear others praising one of their own merits, they will definitely do their best to maintain their good reputation, for fear of letting themselves and others down.
In daily life, when faced with bad people and things, blaming and criticizing will only increase the other person’s resentment and dissatisfaction.
To improve a situation, try using complimentary language, which may do wonders.
Performance management consultant Mark once trained military officers for the U.S. Army Department. Among the military officers taking the class, a colonel was quite dissatisfied with the use of motivational techniques he taught.
About a week after the training session, the colonel was responsible for an important briefing, and because he did such a good job, his superior, a general, wanted to praise him.
The general found a piece of yellow construction paper, folded it into a beautiful card, wrote “Awesome!” on the outside and some words of encouragement on the inside. Then he summoned him, praised him in person, and handed over the card. Gave it to him.
The colonel took the card in his hand and read it. After reading it, he stood there stiffly for a while, and then walked out of the office without raising his head.
The general was a little confused and thought: “Did I do something wrong?”
The uneasy general followed the colonel out to take a look. What made him very happy was that the colonel went around every office and showed off his card to others.
The colonel later used this trick better than the general. He specially designed and printed a batch of cards for himself to praise others.
Praise can turn casual actions into lasting ones.
Many people are unaware of their own strengths, characteristics, and even many small advantages and specialties. Perhaps those advantages and specialties are still in their infancy. Once people discover them, they should recognize them immediately. This will remind the other party to strengthen their advantages. , strengthen the effect of specialties.
After repeated encouragement and praise, people’s accidental external behaviors will gradually turn into internal qualities, thus evolving into long-term behaviors.
There are many forms of praise, such as public praise, individual praise, praise delivered by others, etc.
The combination of multiple forms can greatly expand the role and scope of praise, thereby enhancing the effect of praise. However, the most critical question is whether we have this awareness.
It is human nature to turn a blind eye to habitual behaviors.
Praise can give courage to weak people,
Let the wanderer determine the direction,
Let the blind find their purpose,
Let people with low self-esteem find confidence,
Let the weak strengthen their will,
Let mature people strengthen themselves.
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