The real maturity of adults is from these 5 “lost” beginning

2bebetter
7 min readDec 15, 2020

It’s almost New Year’s Eve again, we all want to add one year old, at least the virtual age is so.

The increase in age and maturity are often two different things, some people are 40 or 50 years old or a giant baby, while some people, in their twenties, has been very mature, behavior and action, speech and mannerisms, treatment of people in all aspects, can become a role model.

I have confusion is: why most people, always smooth as mature, high emotional intelligence as know how to play games.

People seem to be happy to study human relationships, but behind the scenes, they are one thing and another, and then they lament the hypocrisy of others and the meaninglessness of socializing.

I don’t know what your surroundings are like, but I look closely at the people around me and find that there are very few people who are willing to analyze themselves and study themselves.

They are more willing to exchange glasses and brag in the drinking place than to think alone, especially during New Year’s Eve.

And then put on a very mature look, always give others “advice”, but basically will not listen to what others say — this phenomenon is actually not only not called mature, even called stupid.

The real maturity, or essentially know how to deal with their own relationship with themselves — this is the fundamental of your relationship with everything.

From this point of view, the real maturity of people is from these five “losses” to start.

1. Loss of “hope”

Most of our pain comes from disappointment, disappointment in others.

The source of disappointment is an expectation, and the nature of expectation is the demand and control of others.

For example, expecting someone to be nice to you, expecting someone to warm you, expecting someone to help you, in many cases, will bring you disappointment. Because in the end, you will find that you can rarely count on others.

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