The three amazing laws of the strong: Crab Law, Mushroom Law, and Flea Law

2bebetter
7 min readApr 14, 2024

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No man is an island, standing alone.

Everyone wants to live a strong life.

In fact, only a handful of people live to be strong.

It is not easy to become a strong person, but you can observe some characteristics of strong people and then work hard to cultivate these characteristics.

Little by little, step by step, get closer to the strong and slowly become a truly strong person.

Understand these three laws and learn to think and act like a strong person.

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01. crab law

If you put only one crab in the bamboo basket, the lid must be closed, otherwise it will crawl out.

But if you put a few more in, you don’t have to put the lid back on.

Because when a crab climbs to the mouth of the basket, the other crabs will drag it down, and so on, and no crab can successfully climb out.

This is the famous “Crab Law”:

“If I’m unhappy, I want to see other people unhappy too;

If I can’t climb up, I also want to hold on to others so that others can’t climb up either. “

In the final analysis, the greatest stupidity of human nature is to embarrass each other and not see the good of others.

“If you are at the bottom, it is easy to fall into a mutual harm mode. Everyone steps on me and I step on you. Since we spend a lot of energy hurting each other and have no energy to improve, no one can escape. In the end, the collective Falling into a state of collapse.”

In other words, the lower the level of people, the more they like to tear each other down.

The higher the level of people, the more they know how to appreciate and help each other.

In 2002, in the world boxing championship, the two sides faced each other, one was 35-year-old Kafila, and the other was 28-year-old Barrera.

In the first 6 rounds, the two were evenly matched in strength, but in the 7th round, the older Kafila obviously began to lose strength and was hit in the head continuously by Barrera, causing his nose and face to be bruised and swollen.

During the break, Varela took the initiative to go over and apologize to Kafila, and wiped the blood on Kafila’s face with a towel.

Then the two continued to fight, and Kafila was knocked to the ground again by Barrera.

At this moment, as the referee started counting, Barrera walked over and pulled Kafila up.

In the end, Kafila lost to Barrera 108:110.

The audience flocked to Barrera and presented him with flowers to pay tribute, but Barrera pushed through the crowd, walked towards the neglected Kafila, and handed him the flowers.

Kafila not only congratulated Barrera, but also raised Barrera’s hand above his head in salute to the audience.

Barrera said after the game: “He is my opponent, but not my enemy. Without the strong Kafila, there would be no strong me.”

The poet John Donne said: “No man is an island, standing alone.”

Really strong people know how to appreciate others and build bridges for each other. While helping others, they also help themselves.

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02. Mushroom Law

Newcomers who have just entered the workplace always imagine that their leaders will notice their talents and efforts.

But the reality is that the vast majority of newcomers sit in the corner and repeat the work of running errands and doing chores over and over again.

The leader will not pay much attention to you, and you may even receive unwarranted accusations and criticism occasionally.

Being placed in a dark corner without being taken seriously, being doused with manure just like growing mushrooms, accepting all kinds of unwarranted criticism and accusations, and being in the process of self-destruction for a long time, this phenomenon is called “

Mushrooms grow in a dark land in the early stages. If you give up the hope of growth in the early stage, you can only live in silence forever.

If you can keep growing upward and are not afraid of hardships and tribulations, you will eventually be able to break through this darkness and see the light.

Everyone has to go through such a journey when growing up, and that time of fighting alone in the dark is the most difficult to endure.

I really like the saying in Jieyou Grocery Store: “It’s easy to give up, but it will be cool to persevere.”

If you survive, you will be able to stand out; if you cannot survive, you will be buried.

There is a girl’s very inspiring story.

This girl started out as a receptionist in the company, but her serious and down-to-earth performance at work impressed many colleagues.

If a colleague has to go on a business trip, she will prepare the railway schedule in advance;

In the hot summer, she would take the initiative to arrange for some cold drinks to be brought into the coffee bar so that her colleagues could cool off;

When visiting customers have questions, she will help answer them when the company’s customer service is busy…

Although she does trivial tasks, she has no complaints and strives to do her job to the best of her ability.

Because of her outstanding performance at the front desk, she was promoted to head of the administrative department after more than a year.

During her several years in charge of the administrative department, she led the team to implement every task and did an excellent job.

Later, the leader gave her more opportunities to show her talents.

That’s why, as the business expanded, she became a partner and worked her way up to senior vice president.

This girl is now the Chief People Officer (CPO) of Alibaba Group and the chairman of Cainiao Network.

No matter how outstanding a talent is, they all start from the simplest things and grow up along the way.

Everyone must go through a “mushroom period” in the growth process of life.

Before breaking the ground, the only thing you can do is not to give up, persevere, and do your best.

As long as you can endure loneliness, you will always have your own highlight moment.

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03. flea law

A psychologist once conducted a very interesting experiment.

Under normal circumstances, fleas can jump to a height 400 times their own height.

If you put a glass cover on the flea at this time, the flea will hit the top of the glass cover.

After several times in a row, the flea lowers its jumping height and only jumps to the top of the hood at most.

As the height of the glass cover continues to be lowered, the jumping height of fleas will also become lower and lower.

In the end, after removing the glass cover, you will find that the fleas can no longer jump higher.

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“Flea’s Law” tells us a very simple truth:

In life, many people will choose to shrink when they encounter difficulties, and some people like to stay in their comfort zone and dare not try and challenge unknown things.

In the end, you will become numb and dull like a “flea”.

Dong Qing once said: “The meaning of life is to explore rather than stick to it. We should never lose the courage to move forward at any time.”

Yes, in this life, no matter how old you are, you should not draw a line as a prison.

Although the process is full of pain, in the end, you will definitely meet a better version of yourself.

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I saw a very interesting metaphor:

“A strong person is like a big tree, which buries its roots deep in the ground, grows upward, and uses its dense leaves to provide shade to others.

The strong are like eagles, leaving their figures in the sky, overlooking the earth, and using their powerful wings to welcome the storms of life. “

May you learn to take root downwards, grow upwards, and embrace a larger world with a larger pattern like a strong person.

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