The toughest words in a man’s mouth are “I’ll take care of you”! When you hear “Our family doesn’t need your salary”, please reply to him decisively.
Women’s awareness is on the rise nowadays, and a few women earn more than men.
However, it is a pity that many women still have the concept that the man is the breadwinner. If the man is willing to support the family and can afford to do so, it does not matter if both of them accept it.
However, it has been proved that things are often not as rosy as women think, and the number of truly happy people is very small.
When a man says, “We don’t need your salary,” how do you get back to him?
The worst thing a man can say is “I’ll take care of you.
The most cruel words a man can say is “I’ll take care of you” .
The phrase “I’ll support you” sounds so nice, as if it’s an oath that you’ll never have to suffer in the workplace again! I’ll take care of you for the rest of your life.
As long as I’m here, you don’t have to worry about food or clothes, you don’t have to suffer from your coworkers or supervisors, and you don’t have to bow down to customers, so you can just stay home and be my little princess.
You can go shopping every day, or just play around at home, it doesn’t matter, my husband will take care of you anyway! Why else would I make money? Isn’t it for you to spend it?
Stop!
This is just your fantasy. Men don’t think this way from the moment they say these words.
What he’s thinking is that:
a woman is supposed to stay home and take care of the family! If she goes to work, who’s going to do the housework? Who’s going to take care of the kids?
She doesn’t make much money and can’t do much for the family,
so she should just stay home to take care of my parents, and the kids, and do the household chores, so what’s the point of going out to show her face?
After getting married, she has to be responsible for her family. She is no longer a single woman, and I am also responsible! Don’t I have to work hard to earn money?
In terms of reasoning, there is nothing wrong for men to think this way. After forming a family, there are responsibilities that each of us has to bear, and it is the woman who is too naive to think that she can rest on her laurels.
If your value is much higher than that of the man, for example, he is a man with an ordinary income, and you are a beautiful woman like a fairy, then he may hold you as you think.
That is, he wants to keep you at home as a queen, as long as he can have you, he will feel very happy.
Even so, you also have the day of old age, he will not necessarily always love you.
Besides, what happens to you when a man says he’ll take care of you but doesn’t marry you?
You feel that you don’t need to suffer in the workplace anymore, and you don’t want to look for a job, but he just won’t get married, and the so-called “support you” is not realized, so what should you do?
So when a man says “I’ll support you”, please answer him, “I’m glad you have this heart, but I still want to keep my job.
If we get married, I won’t stop working on my career, and that’s something we have to agree on.
What we’re talking about is just what men and women think when they hear and say these words, but what happens in practice?
The actual “I’ll take care of you”
The first thing to say is that I have also seen gentle and elegant men who, after marrying their beautiful wives, really fulfill the women’s fantasies by letting her buy brand-name bags and taking her abroad from time to time.
She just needs to bring up the children at home, every day to catch up with the drama on the good, and earn money are her.
However, there are really not many such examples,
and it is more common to see that men do make a lot of money, but the amount of money they give to the family is pitifully small, and women cannot even buy enough food to buy a normal meal.
Every time he asks for money, he has to make things difficult, and eventually, the woman becomes that old mother who only has money in her eyes and only asks for money every day, without realizing that the woman has given up the opportunity to look after her family, and this is the agreement between the two of them.
If the man does not earn much, it is even more terrible, he earns a little bit of salary but also thinks you can support a large family.
In this case, it’s wrong for you to buy a can of sunscreen with your money! And don’t even think about having a snack. The list goes on and on.
He’ll lose respect for you, and he’ll criticize you for everything you say and do.
What’s even more dramatic is that I have seen several men say things like, “I’ve been tempted to make a move on you a few times.
It’s outrageous! It’s like you’re thanking him for not doing it,
and he admitted that he wanted to, and could he seem to think he is?
So by this point, don’t you find the phrase “I’ll take care of you” horrible?
You can’t have a bad personality and you can’t think about spending money, or else a lot of people will say that you don’t care about your husband’s hard work, that you’re naive, and that you don’t know what you’re doing.
A woman was chatting with her husband and told him she wanted to go to Finland for Christmas, and he immediately got angry and said she didn’t know how expensive it was.
At night, when the baby cried and woke up her husband, he immediately got angry with her, saying that she did it on purpose after being scolded.
The most terrible thing is that people blamed the woman for not even being able to talk about her dream. She did not say that she had to go.
They think that if a woman doesn’t make any money herself, she doesn’t understand how much pressure her husband is under, and if she says something like that, she will make her husband feel sorry for himself for not being able to take her abroad.
I don’t see how a man can blame himself,
but I do see that he has no patience with his wife.
It was only then that the woman realized that
she had been advised not to become a housewife, but she had not listened.
Human nature can’t be tested. If you let him feed you, you have to obey him and listen to him, and if you don’t do a good job, his mindset will start to change.
But why do we have to live as if we can only obey our husbands?
When you make this decision, you really need to think it through.
Even if you earn less, at least you have money in your hands, and you are accumulating social experience, which is all gone once you give up.
Even those men who usually don’t value money so much, after raising a woman, their mentality has changed, and all they talk about is :
I have a job, you don’t, and you don’t go to make money.
It seems that everyone is not accustomed to their hard work, but there are people at home who do not have to work leisure like,
when love turns into affection, it is not so romantic.
Work is always not as good as when he saw you do not have to work, only he alone to bear, not to mention that you also play willful, or see other women outside very good at making money, the mentality will change.
Giving up the opportunity to make money is to devalue yourself,
at least you have to study how to invest, to help him enlarge his money, he will naturally look at you differently.
I’ve seen some men indignantly say that women are looking for long-term meal tickets, said as :
if they are very aggrieved, they have not thought about how hard it is for women to eat this meal.
I also know that there are a few women who intentionally do not go to work and do not do housework at home, adding a lot of pressure on their husbands who are serious about earning money, but that’s a minority after all.
How many men would put up with a wife like that? It’s hard for a woman to be that arrogant.
In the end, when he says he wants to keep you, he never means to keep you at home as a princess, so don’t misunderstand.
Every time I see a woman helplessly saying how much her husband does not respect her, how much she is aggrieved but can not afford a divorce, I feel very helpless for them, if it really comes to this.
You can only find ways to make money, to create their own value, some people go to the car as a driver or go to food delivery, earn not much, but at least there is income, and the situation will begin to change.
This is one of the reasons why many people refuse to get married. If marriage doesn’t make us better off, then why get married?
I also said at the beginning, that there are indeed people who are willing to support their wives, but that is a minority, I never said that marriage is not good, but you choose the wrong person is really bad!
The best situation is that you have money, or earn more than your husband, but he takes the initiative and willingly supports you.
The meaning of “being supported” is completely different! That is really like you to pay, rather than forced to bear the responsibility.
This situation is also very rare, most men at this time will want you to contribute more to the household, who asked you to earn more? That’s why it’s the best-case scenario because it’s so rare.
