There is no need to help the Ungrateful people who often have these three characteristics.

2bebetter
4 min readApr 9, 2024

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it is said: “The kindness of a drop of water should be repaid with a spring of water.”

Why should we “repay each other with springs of water”?

Because in our most difficult times, even a drop of kindness will be of great help to us, we should repay it with a spring of water.

If a person does not have a grateful heart, then there will be fewer and fewer people to help him, and his future path will become narrower and narrower.

Ungrateful people often have the following three characteristics that you should pay attention to.

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A person with clever words and charming words

Some people, when you agree to help them or are in the process of helping them, will do everything they can to flatter you, and their words of intimacy and gratitude will make you feel like you have helped the right person.

However, in fact, people who are verbally grateful to you and say sweet words will often not remember your kindness.

In their view, their “smart words” are enough to “pay” for your efforts, so why should they use actual actions to repay you?

The more a person likes to be “extremely” grateful in words, the less grateful he will be in action.

Just like in love, the more love is expressed in words, the less love is often expressed in action.

When you believe their rhetoric and think that they are full of gratitude to you, when you are in trouble, you go to them for help. As a result, what you get in return is often their cold rejection.

Although some people are dull, they may even be timid when asking you for help. After you help them, they may just say a few words of gratitude and that’s the end of it.

Perhaps, you will mistakenly think that they do not have a strong sense of gratitude.

Indeed, they do not have the “eloquence” to express their gratitude with beautiful words, but they will use their actual actions to express their gratitude.

When you are desperate and go to them with the mentality of giving it a try, they will often go all out to help you tide over the difficulties.

At this time, you realize that those people who talk so much about gratitude are often ungrateful;

And those who are few words will express their gratitude with their actual actions.

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A person who takes advantage of others

Some people ask for your help when they are in difficulty. If you readily agree to their request, they will appear grateful on the surface, but at the same time, they will also further treat you. “Request”.

If you agree, they will seize this opportunity and keep asking for it; if you refuse, they will say that you are “hypocritical”, or “not a friend enough” or “not affectionate”.

Although these people have no morals, what they are best at is using “morality” to attack moral people.

The “Ethics” of the world has become a means for them to constantly “rob” others.

Using “ethics” to do immoral things is the greatest insult to “morality”.

“Being virtuous does not mean losing virtue; it is because there is no virtue.”

This kind of person, while making extravagant efforts and constantly asking for more, at the same time swears to “repay you with a spring of water”.

Don’t worry, most of these people are ungrateful people.

No matter how much you give, you will not get their heartfelt “gratitude”. On the contrary, the more you pay, the more stupid and deceptive you become in their minds.

Not only will your efforts not be rewarded, but you will be ridiculed and insulted in return.

This became the story of “The Farmer and the Snake”.

For such people, putting away your kindness is the best way to protect yourself.

A mean and critical person

There is a saying: “Eating fruit for nothing is still sour.”

Some people want to ask for help from others, but they have a very high attitude. They always like to “find faults” in other people’s efforts to belittle others’ efforts.

If you refuse to help out of anger, they will say you are “small-minded”; if you offer help, they will continue to “pick on you”.

Such people are self-centered and think that they are superior to others and that others should help them and serve them.

For such people, put away your kindness.

For such people, the more you help them, the higher their status will be and the less they will respect you.

If you expect such people to be grateful, your expectations will often be disappointed.

Only when they are isolated and helpless and have suffered so much, can they let go of their false “sense of superiority” and learn to respect others and repay others’ kindness.

Kindness is the most precious quality of a person. Although it is free, it is not cheap.

Only when kindness is used on people who “repay kindness” is the best destination for kindness.

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