Love, they say, is a complex emotion. It’s the rollercoaster of feelings that makes us humans do some of the most bewildering things. At times, two people find themselves drawn together, almost involuntarily. They can’t help but care for each other when they are together, and they feel an ache of longing when apart. But have you ever wondered why, during a date, a man tends to get closer to a woman, either intentionally or unintentionally? Let’s delve into this intricate topic.
1. Wanting to Protect You
I went on a few dates with a guy I met through mutual friends. When we first met up for dinner, he made sure to walk on the side closest to the street as we strolled to the restaurant. At one point, a car came whizzing by and splashed a huge puddle towards us. He quickly stepped in front of me, shielding me from getting soaked. Later in the evening when some rowdy, drunk guys approached us outside the restaurant, he put his arm around me in a protective stance.
His actions showed he felt an instinct to protect me, even though we barely knew each other. As we continued dating, he would do small things like waiting for me to get in my apartment safely before leaving for the night. Whenever we went somewhere new, he scoped out our surroundings, almost surveying for any potential threats. It was sweet that he felt such a strong urge to keep me safe. His protective instincts clearly kicked in once he started having feelings for me.
When a man encounters someone he’s genuinely fond of, his protective instincts kick in. This instinct is different from a woman’s, who, when she truly falls for someone, tends to have a strong sense of possession. Women often fantasize about being the one and only princess in their knight in shining armor’s life.
Similarly, when a man genuinely likes someone, he too experiences a strong urge to protect that person. A man can be protective of many people, but he won’t do it without reason. When he’s interested in a particular woman, he naturally wants to get closer to her, to better shield and safeguard her.
2. Appreciating Your Qualities
I started dating someone I met at an art gallery opening. I could tell he was really impressed when he heard I was one of the artists with work on display. As we walked around the exhibition together, he asked thoughtful questions about my artistic process and the inspirations behind my paintings. He seemed genuinely interested in learning more about my creative talents.
Throughout our first few dates, he often steered the conversation to discuss my artwork and artistic abilities. If we talked about movies, he would ask which films inspired my aesthetic style. When we talked about travel, he asked if I kept sketchbooks to document different places. He even suggested creative dates like going to a museum together.
I could tell he really admired my creativity and talent. He clearly wanted to get closer to me to foster that artistic connection we shared and appreciate my unique qualities as an artist. His admiration is a big part of what drew him to me initially.
We all admire those who radiate excellence, those who stand out from the crowd. It’s what we often refer to as “seeing the talented and wanting to be like them.” Being around remarkable individuals elevates our own qualities.
So, when a man encounters a woman with remarkable qualities, he is drawn to her. He wants to get close and learn more about what makes her so unique. Alternatively, he might realize that you share common interests and values, which makes him want to be closer to you to foster that connection.
3. Liking You
I had a crush on someone at work for the longest time. We were friendly but kept things professional. One day, he asked if I wanted to grab lunch together. During our lunch, he suggested seeing a movie that weekend and exchanging numbers to plan the details.
After that, he started finding more opportunities for us to interact at work — walking me to meetings near his office, inviting me to work happy hours, and chatting with me more often on our internal messaging system.
It became clear he was actively pursuing me once he admitted he had liked me for a while. Now that his feelings were out in the open, he clearly wanted to get closer to me and be a bigger part of my life. His attraction to me made him go out of his way to spend more time together. He wasn’t keeping his crush a secret anymore and instead openly acted on his feelings by getting nearer to me.
Liking someone is a unique and powerful feeling. When a man genuinely likes you, he is inclined to make an active effort to get closer to you and openly pursue you. While many women may harbor secret crushes without saying a word, men often tend to act on their feelings, as they possess a strong desire for conquest.
When a man is attracted to a woman, he wants to be near her because he has an extraordinary feeling for her. He pays attention to her every move, eventually becoming a part of her life. We all yearn to understand the person we like, and getting closer is an innate human instinct.
Why do men get closer to women, intentionally or not? The answer lies in the complexity of human emotions. Men feel the need to protect, appreciate, and express their affection when they genuinely like someone. It’s a deep-rooted instinct, often guided by powerful emotions, that drives them to get closer to the women who capture their hearts.
In the realm of love and attraction, actions speak louder than words. So, if you find a man drawing near, remember that he might be doing it for the purest of reasons — because he likes you and wants to be a part of your life.
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