Use love for each other to repair marriages, use forgiveness to heal broken marriages

2bebetter
6 min readMar 17, 2024

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Use love for each other to repair marriages, use forgiveness to heal broken marriages

To forgive others is to forgive yourself, and the world is brighter when you take a step back, let alone a couple who wants to stay together until they grow old.

From the moment we walked hand in hand into the palace of marriage, we understood that in the years to come, we must often use forgiveness to repair the “loopholes” in our marriage in order to achieve a harmonious and happy family life.

Someone once asked this question: What is the bottom line of marriage?

A woman who chose to cut the knot quickly and get divorced after a setback in her marriage said: “The bottom line of marriage is fidelity.”

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A woman who has been betrayed by her husband many times said: “The bottom line of marriage is my last bit of dignity as a wife.”

Another woman said: “There is no bottom line in marriage. If I have to find a bottom line, I think it is indelible family love.”

The woman who said this was an old woman in her sixties and a highly respected scientific researcher.

Her husband had countless romantic affairs when he was young, but what we see most now is the scene of two old people walking supporting each other under the shadow of the trees at dusk.

This female scientist is like a model of sticking to marriage, always shining in front of the impetuous and changeable people, telling people a truth: the loopholes in marriage need to be repaired with forgiveness.

Every marriage is like a ship sailed by both husband and wife. No matter how good a sailor is, there is no guarantee that it will not hit the rocks in a lifetime.

When the situation is calm, all women will say those cruel words sincerely: If something happens to him, I will not forgive him, I can only choose divorce.

However, when the ship really hits the rocks, many women will still choose to save it.

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Because they understand in their hearts that divorce is not the best choice to maintain dignity. If it is painful not to divorce, but it will still be painful after divorce, why not choose to repair the crisis?

There is such a couple whose relationship is relatively harmonious. The man managed to build half of his fortune through hard work, but unexpectedly suffered bankruptcy. At the same time, the marriage was also in crisis.

When the company crisis came, because he was too depressed, he became idle all day long and became addicted to alcohol.

His wife tried to persuade him many times, but he showed no sign of repentance, so his wife filed for divorce in anger.

But the couple has been married for fifteen years, and their children are no longer young. There are still many things between them that cannot be broken.

So the two agreed to temporarily separate for half a year and not interfere in each other’s lives.

Just like that, within a month, the two people suddenly began to miss the days together, and the sweet love and romantic life after marriage flooded into their minds.

After calming down, they began to examine themselves. They felt that the reason for the failure of their marriage was that they did not know how to forgive.

The wife felt that she cared and understood her husband too little, and she did not comfort him after he went bankrupt;

The man feels that he is too fragile and selfish, has not fulfilled his responsibilities as a man, and is not considerate of his wife’s mood.

Unexpectedly, after less than half a year of separation, the couple reconciled as before.

Sometimes, filing for divorce out of anger actually shows a negative attitude that is not tolerant.

At this time, it is best for both parties to “freeze” the divorce, give the marriage a period of repair, and rethink the marriage. In addition to recognizing their own mistakes, they will also review the good qualities of the other party, so that a kind of tolerance can slowly develop psychologically. , marriage can be reborn.

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And couples who have experienced a marital crisis will especially cherish the happiness of resurrection when they can reunite.

Therefore, when there are loopholes in our marriage, we might as well re-examine our marriage rationally.

Learn to tolerate each other. When there are emotional gaps between the two parties, most couples just keep complaining to each other and rarely tolerate and understand each other.

You know, if a slap doesn’t make a difference, friction will only occur if both people are at fault.

In addition to two people living a real life, marriage also has something called “responsibility”. Therefore, the best policy is to be less impulsive and resentful and try to use forgiveness to repair the “loopholes” in the marriage.

You must understand that forgiveness is the final bottom line of marriage. If the other party is often confused for a moment and does something that violates the wife or husband, then it is better to calm down first, review your own mistakes, and give the other party more tolerance and understanding. Then the marriage will have a chance to be successful. Preserved.

If both parties have no children, the divorce issue will become relatively simple. But with children, everything is different.

In a sense, family ties block your right to leave whenever you want.

Because as a mother and a father, you need a more tolerant heart, and you also need to temporarily suppress each other’s resentment for the sake of your children.

Especially men, although they are tired of the trivialities of marriage, they will not give up the family easily, because that family is the wealth that they have painstakingly managed with love for many years, and it also has the warmth and sweetness that they need, so men generally do not Will get divorced easily.

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If, in front of your sick bed, there is his affectionate protection;

If, when your life is unsatisfactory, you have his unfailing companionship;

If you still want to share every bit of happiness in life with him;

More importantly, if he always fights side by side with you on the boat of marriage, then why can’t we wait on the boat when our marriage is on the rocks?

We can mend the leaky boat with our love for each other.

That saying in the Bible is true: Love endures long.

To repair the “loopholes” in marriage is to use forgiveness to heal the broken marriage, and to repair the emotional gap with generosity.

Re-adjust the direction of marriage between right and wrong, between the dilemma of getting together and leaving, warm and help each other in the name of love, and let the marriage that was accidentally infected by the virus get back on the path of healthy growth.

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