Watch out! Evil folks are always looking to borrow three things from you — proceed with caution!
Really evil people often like to ask you for three things. Be careful.
Keigo Higashino once said in “White Night Journey”: “There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly: one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.”
The sun cannot be looked directly at because it is too dazzling and will hurt people’s eyes. The human heart cannot look directly at it, which is exactly the opposite.
The human heart is wrapped in layers of disguise, and no one can really see its true appearance except yourself.
People who take good care of you are kind from the bottom of their hearts or are hypocritical with ulterior motives.
Therefore, the saying that “people’s hearts are unpredictable” is really not nonsense, but a piece of good advice summed up by people in the world after personal experience.
You must not have the intention of harming others, and you must have the intention of guarding against others. If you want a smooth future, you must be wary of people who hide malicious intentions around you.
And those people with truly evil intentions often like to ask you about these three things, so be careful.
01. Inquire about your privacy and satisfy your selfish desires
From a psychological point of view, everyone has the desire to pry into other people’s privacy and eager to obtain more information from others.
But for most people, they understand that this is not a polite thing to do, so they will probably restrain themselves.
However, in the eyes of some people with particularly extreme hobbies, they do not feel that doing so crosses the line, but are very enthusiastic about it.
In order to get the information they want, they will pretend to be very approachable in order to get closer to each other.
When the other party believes their lies and mistakenly thinks that they are kind people, they will easily give up their trust.
Humans are such animals. Once they let down their guard, they will soon reveal the truth to the other person and tell their past.
Goethe once said: “The senses do not deceive people, it is the judgment that deceives people.”
When the deceitful party obtains this information, they often do not keep it secret but regard it as a resource.
Or you may embellish your chat with other people, turning it into an after-dinner conversation, making yourself suspicious and misunderstood by others.
Or they may reveal their hypocrisy, use this information as a threat, and force themselves to do something against their will.
This kind of people always seem to be kind and enthusiastic at first glance, but when things come to light, they finally understand their sinister nature.
If your own private affairs become other people’s gossip, it will only add unnecessary trouble to yourself, so you must be extremely careful.
02. To ask what you think of someone, to sow discord behind someone’s back
I once saw such a post on Baidu Tieba:
The poster has worked in his company for many years and has always been diligent and never dared to offend his boss or colleagues.
One day, the company’s personnel came to talk to me. At first, he was talking about work, but after a few words, he turned to his colleagues in the same group.
The personnel asked her some indirect questions, asked her what she thought of this colleague, and asked her to talk about some of the other person’s strengths and weaknesses.
Originally she didn’t want to talk about these contents, but under the encouragement of the other party’s words, she still expressed some of her subjective opinions.
Not long after, the colleague got the news out of nowhere, blocking her contact information and having a conflict with her in person.
Obviously, someone in charge must have instigated this matter, which led to misunderstandings and conflicts between her and her colleagues.
Things like this are not uncommon in reality. After all, it is easy to form antagonistic relationships between people.
A word or an action can cause a quarrel between each other, not to mention talking about other people’s rights and wrongs behind their backs.
If someone maliciously provokes them, it will make each other’s problems even more irreconcilable. This is not uncommon in society.
As everyone knows: “Disease enters through the mouth, and disaster comes out of the mouth.”
Perhaps one of your unintentional words will become a falsehood in the ears of others, and after some processing with ulterior motives, it will provoke unwarranted conflicts.
Therefore, it is better not to open your mouth when you don’t care about your own affairs, shake your head when you ask a question, and say only a few words when you meet someone, but don’t give up everything.
03. Ask about your connections and resources, and take advantage of the opportunity to request them
As everyone grows up, they will form a network of interpersonal relationships centered on themselves, which is an extremely important resource.
As long as people are in this network, they can be called and controlled by themselves, and using these network resources can easily bring many conveniences.
As the saying goes: “Asking for someone is like swallowing a three-foot sword, relying on someone is like going to the ninth heaven.”
At a time of crisis, if such resources happen to be lacking, no one will be willing to help even if you run around to tell others.
Because of this, many people will think of expanding their network through others to obtain better resources.
They are so courteous in front of you, not because they respect themselves so much, but because they want to use themselves as a stepping stone.
Once they achieve their goals and gain a higher status than themselves, they will soon abandon themselves like nothing.
When interacting with such people, you must be cautious and avoid exposing your interpersonal network during conversations, which may cause harm to them.
Once you find that the other party has crossed the line, you must stop the loss in time and not let it continue to cause more harm to you.
“A gentleman keeps a distance from villains and is not evil but strict.”
A gentleman should avoid short-sighted people. There is no need to have any emotions, but he should pay attention to tactics.
People will always meet all kinds of people in this life, and they will also experience bitterness and bitterness among them, so they must know how to recognize people.
When getting along with others, be sure to keep your eyes open to distinguish whether the other person is sincere or fake.
If you are not sure, then a casual conversation and a casual acquaintance will be enough.
Only by staying calm and alert at all times can we walk more steadily and firmly on the journey of life.
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