“Things determine the way out, attitude determines the height, and pattern determines the outcome.”
A person’s pattern means a broad vision and profound thinking. It allows us to transcend the current difficulties and see broader possibilities.
The bigger the vision, the better the life.
Truly capable people have a peaceful heart and an extraordinary pattern.
They are humble in life and do not try to show off their talents by being clever. Instead, they know how to draw inward and constantly improve themselves.
And those who don’t have much ability, most of them like to do these things, and I hope you don’t occupy any of them.
Exaggeration
A netizen asked:
“What are the characteristics of unreliable people?”
One of the upvotes replied:
“He likes to talk big and talk big. He often gives people a very powerful feeling, as if there is nothing he doesn’t know and can’t do, but in the end, he always exaggerates.”
There are many such people in life.
At first glance, people think that they have extraordinary abilities, but the deeper the contact, the more they find that this is not the case.
Psychologically, it is believed that:
The more a person lacks something, the more he needs to show off to the outside world.
The more incompetent a person is, the more arrogant he is, thinking that he knows everything and can do everything.
The more you are inside, the more you like to express yourself through external things.
Such people often lack a clear understanding of themselves and think they are superior to others. They have no ability, but they still think they are right.
They have a strong vanity and desire to be admired and praised by others to satisfy their fragile self-esteem.
But because his ability is all about his words and he does not have the strength to compete with others, he often uses some dirty tricks. The more incompetent he is, the more he will become crazily jealous of others.
There is a saying that goes well:
“The ripe wheat will bend.”
A truly capable person knows how to restrain his sharpness and be open-minded, and will not deliberately show off or brag about himself everywhere.
They tend to be calm beings, good at listening and thinking, do not express opinions at will, and do not easily deny others.
Such people are strong and peaceful inside and do not need to show off to gain recognition from the outside world.
They know how big the world is and are in awe of everything in the world.
Never be arrogant or complacent in life, but maintain a down-to-earth attitude, neither arrogant nor impetuous, and prove yourself with strength and actions.
Shirking responsibility and lack of responsibility
Wilde said:
“Once you find yourself one wrong excuse, it won’t be long before you find yourself a hundred more.”
In life, it is not difficult to find that some people tend to cover up the truth once they encounter difficulties.
Once the problem is exposed, instead of taking responsibility bravely, they make excuses for the failure or pass the blame on to others.
Incompetent people often lack a sense of responsibility. Once something is not done well, they are eager to pass the blame. They know that the problem lies with themselves, but attribute the cause to other places.
Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford University, proposed that human thinking is divided into two types:
Fixed mindset, and growth mindset.
The former tend to blame failures on uncontrollable factors and shirk responsibility.
The latter are more inclined to self-reflection, positive adjustments, and learning from failures.
The latter are more inclined to self-reflection, positive adjustments, and learning from failures.
Flunkies are right, but gentlemen always pass.
Those who are incompetent are always busy shirking responsibility and avoiding problems.
They are afraid to face up to their shortcomings and are unwilling to face mistakes and failures, so they always look for excuses and blame others or circumstances.
This mentality not only makes it difficult for them to grow but also to gain from past experiences.
This is not the case for capable people. They understand the importance of self-improvement.
When facing problems, they will first reflect on themselves, explore the reasons from themselves, and make continuous progress through continuous reflection and correction.
They understand that only by having the courage to face problems can we truly overcome difficulties and continue to grow amidst challenges.
People who are accustomed to shirking responsibility are undoubtedly the weak in life. Their existence will only make the problem more difficult and the situation more complicated.
The truly strong people will regard problems as opportunities for self-cultivation. They can actively respond to challenges and successfully resolve difficulties at all levels with their wisdom.
Resting on one’s laurels and refusing to learn
Sunny came to prominence at a young age and became famous early with a little cleverness.
However, this also made him complacent, indulging in his interactions with his friends, and gradually neglecting his studies.
Time flies by, and while his former classmates have put their names on the gold medallist, he can only stand still and eventually becomes the laughingstock of others.
Incompetent people often have low cognition, just like looking at the sky from a well, and can only glimpse the small sky above their heads.
They are impatient and their temper is not proportional to their abilities.
Neither willing to broaden their horizons nor delve deeper, they are content with their past achievements and are willing to spend the rest of their lives at the bottom of a well.
A person’s vision and mind often predict his future height.
Just as it is difficult for a small flowerpot to grow a towering tree, it is difficult for a narrow mind to produce many achievements.
If a person wants to achieve extraordinary things, he needs to be in a broader world and look at the world from a higher level.
In this way, we can continuously expand our abilities and realm, realize higher ambitions, and create a brilliant life.
“One of the weaknesses of human nature is that our eyes are accustomed to looking to the outside world, but we rarely check ourselves.
So look at the world with one eye and leave the other eye to look at yourself. “
In life, we are often confused by the prosperity of the outside world and are busy pursuing fame, wealth, and status, but ignore the inner voice.
Those who are incompetent are essentially afraid of facing their true selves.
They are afraid of accepting their imperfections and admitting their insignificance, vulnerability, and incompetence, so they always avoid reality and use various excuses to cover up their shortcomings.
However, this kind of avoidance will only make them fall into a deeper quagmire, because if they are unwilling to face their problems, they will not be able to find the direction of growth and achieve true transformation.
As the saying goes:
“Without profound self-reflection, there is no amazing self-transcendence.”
True growth comes from a deep understanding of oneself.
When we dare to look at ourselves and face our shortcomings and deficiencies, we can explore the path to progress and achieve true self-transcendence.
Looking within yourself when encountering difficulties is the starting point for a strong person.
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