1. A secret hobby that you don’t want others to share
If one day he forgets to close the drawer that he has always locked, and you open it out of curiosity,
I found many children’s comic books, kite cats, and snoopy dogs hidden inside.
Be sure not to ask him, because he doesn’t want others to know, even those closest to him.
He is afraid of being laughed at, and when he tells you that he wants to be alone for a while,
When reading his comics or playing with something children like, you have to give him plenty of free space.
When a man acts coquettishly in front of you, you should be happy because he treats you as one of his own and shows you his most hidden side.
Maybe a woman will never understand, but she must accept this reality,
It is because of their particular tastes that men become who they are and no one else.
☛Analysis:
A man is also very fragile at heart. He has a child complex, and his inner yearning for purity can be said to be an instinctive return.
Occasionally, he is willing to find a little shadow of his innocence in this reserved world. Such a man is more worthy of feeling sorry for.
2. Pursue the past love in memories
He also had a photo of the girl he had a crush on when he was eighteen, a letter from his first girlfriend, and a tie given by his ex-wife.
Occasionally, he secretly looks at photos and love letters, smiling silly by himself,
No matter whether you are so jealous that you gnash your teeth in your heart, you must smile when facing him.
☛Analysis:
Everyone has memories of beautiful love. It’s not that a man can’t pick it up and can’t let it go, he’s just nostalgic for his beautiful youth.
Remember, he has his reasons for choosing you now. He loves you and wants to live with you.
Maybe after a while, he will tell you everything about himself.
If he thinks you don’t need to know this, trust him to handle it well and give him space to reminisce.
3. The emperor in the virtual world
Almost all men like video games, but they are an accessory of youth. After a certain age, not many grown men will stick to it.
If a man who looks very mature is still crazy about video games, it means that his psychological adolescence has not been completed.
But there are still a large number of men who forget the existence of the world when they sit in front of the computer, play in the dark, and don’t want anyone to disturb them.
☛Analysis:
The synthesis of men’s heroism complex and idealism complex.
Men have a latent restlessness factor and like fighting and violence, and virtual worlds such as games just satisfy his inner needs.
He can play a tyrannical emperor, a passionate prodigal, or a prince in trouble.
These role changes are also a psychological need for men.
In this space where outsiders cannot interfere, he got many things he wanted and got pleasure.
4. Healing when injured
For a certain time, no one could be found, the phone was set to leave a message, the phone was turned off, and he lost contact with the outside world.
When I get home, I don’t want to say a word. I just want to stay in the bathroom or study and smoke a little.
Or in a daze, and solemnly declare that he does not want to be disturbed.
☛Analysis:
Men are like little beasts, running around all day, and there will always be times when they get injured.
When they are hurt or failed, what they long for is to be alone for a while,
Carefully summarize your mistakes and heal.
They don’t want others to see such a frustrated side of themselves, and would rather give people an energetic and energetic look.
Because in the eyes of men, he is a big man, so he can solve any difficulties alone
Talk about it. In his opinion, that might be something only women do.
So it’s best not to disturb him first. When he thinks clearly, he will tell you his story calmly.
5. The silence after love
Many women complain that men always fall asleep after sex or pay little attention to them, and are not gentle at all.
Many men like to stay alone for a while after this.
☛Analysis:
After being extremely excited and tired, the delicate and sensitive man truly understood what “color is emptiness”.
At this moment, you will feel that everything in the world is just like this, and suddenly feel boring, lost and sentimental.
This is a mentality unique to some men, and it has nothing to do with whether they love you or not.
When he came to his senses, the person he loved most was still the person beside him.
But you have to forgive him for a moment of dissociation and silence.
6. Face challenges and plan alone
☛Phenomena:
Men like challenges. When they encounter any problems at work, they are willing to stay alone for a while.
So the secretary must not knock on his door at this time, or even bring him coffee, or he will be scolded.
☛Analysis:
A man likes to fight a sure battle, and he doesn’t want to tell others until things are successful.
“Meditation behind closed doors” is a man making plans for his career and planning for the future.
Men’s world is full of challenges and pressures. When they face a major turning point in their lives,
I am always used to making decisions alone and then telling women the results.
“Resigning”, “taking out a loan to buy a house”, “lending money to others” and other decisions that women think are earth-shattering, they don’t tell women in advance.
From a woman’s point of view, this behavior of a man is incomprehensible.
She would think: “Why don’t you discuss such a big matter with me? Am I so insignificant in his eyes?”
The man doesn’t want to hide anything, he just doesn’t want his loved ones to bear the pressure and troubles that should be borne by the man.
Therefore, as a partner, in addition to silent support, don’t look for trouble.
7. Wandering alone in a different place
Many times, men like to go to other places, change their appearance, and show another side of themselves.
For example, one day, you find a former colleague on vacation in a street in Paris.
He used to be a very quiet and calm person, but now you see him singing loudly with the street performers and having a great time.
Please don’t be surprised, and don’t ask, because he doesn’t want acquaintances to see him like this.
☛Analysis:
Men face a lot of pressure in society, and they need to vent and release stress.
So many times men like to go to a strange city to stay for a while while enjoying the beautiful scenery,
They will remove all defenses and pressures and release men’s nature,
Spend this time happily and relaxedly to recharge for your future work life.
Maybe a person who was originally very noisy will stay quietly in the countryside for a few days.
A person who was originally very quiet will be crazy like never before. It is just a channel for them to vent.
Because they don’t need to disguise or cover up in unfamiliar environments and people, so please let them go on the road alone.
The need for “private territory” is mainly the display of a man’s versatility in the transformation of his multiple roles.
The social side can be seen, but the personal side is something that no one wants to know. Only in this way can men fully release themselves.
There are potential psychological factors unique to men in these, so you must understand them and please do not attempt to expand your territory.
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