When a man treats you like this, no matter how much he gives, it’s all “fake love”
Jack London said: “Love stays on the top of the mountain, above the valley of reason. Love is the sublimation of life and the pinnacle of life. It rarely appears.”
Good feelings are like a piece of honey, which makes you sweat from your mouth to your heart.
Loving the wrong person is like chewing a piece of bitter melon and only feeling the pain.
If a man gives you true love or falsehood, you will understand if you ask yourself.
When a man treats you like this, no matter how much he gives, it is all fake love.
1. Put financial pressure on you
I watched a video that said:
The husband lost money in business, so he asked his wife to go back to her parent’s house to borrow money, while he only drank to get drunk.
The children need to pay school fees and the family of three needs to eat. But the men were idle, either playing cards or sleeping, leaving the women to carry their children and set up stalls, selling steamed buns to support the family.
A woman sheds endless tears every day, and a man always coaxes her with sweet words. He said that he had made friends with a big boss and was talking about a new business. Sooner or later, he would be able to become a successful person and lead his family to a prosperous life…
However, the woman felt her heart getting tired from his sweet words.
A woman, like a man, makes you bear more financial pressure, works hard every day, always makes you pay, and leads a very difficult life. No matter how much he says he loves you, it’s all false.
“Sir, you are just infatuated, not in love. Infatuation starts from the self and is possession; love is comparing one’s heart to another’s, which is giving.”
People who truly love you will have the courage to take responsibility, actively struggle, and shoulder financial pressure.
Women, at any time, should not listen to what a man says, but see whether he can take on responsibilities and whether he is willing to take care of the home.
If a man is not motivated, does not work down to earth, and still expects you to support him, then he does not love you at all.
2. When encountering ups and downs, choose to escape
Many men seem to love you very much, but in fact, they give only trivial things.
For example, if he buys you small, worthless gifts, greets you, helps you with housework and errands, and buys you some roses to coax you, these things can be done by another person.
This does not represent true love.
People who truly love you will still stand in front of you when you encounter a major crisis, even if they sacrifice everything they have.
People who don’t love you will hide behind you or stay away from you when something happens, leaving you to face it on your own.
3. Control you so that you don’t have your own life
“People who truly appreciate you appreciate your pride, not your pretending to be humble or pretending to be lovable.”
There is a kind of man who, in the name of love, does things that his lover cannot accept.
For example, they hold a negative attitude towards women’s life plans and point fingers unscrupulously.
He always wants to control a woman’s life, giving her too many constraints and depriving her of her freedom.
I don’t want a woman to work and let her stay at home to care for her husband and raise children. I don’t want her to make friends randomly, I want her to stay at home peacefully.
Such a man has too much control and possessiveness that makes a woman unable to breathe.
They talk about love, but all men do is control you, make you live a depressed life, lower your level, consume you, and gradually make you lose yourself, live without a fighting spirit, and never see your best self...
This kind of love is destructive.
Very controlling men are selfish at heart. He only cares about his own needs, making women’s lives more and more aggrieved, and they live in a repressive atmosphere with no way out.
If a man doesn’t love you, you can feel it.
He does not love you and will not share your joys and sorrows. He will throw all the problems at you and force you to solve them.
Especially when disaster strikes, he will use you as a “shield” and subconsciously protect himself.
In life, he may also suppress and belittle you. Even if you keep giving, you will still be useless in his mouth, making you feel inferior and dare not resist him.
When a woman manages relationships, no matter how much she loves someone, she must maintain an independent personality and have the ability to distinguish right from wrong.
Leaving as soon as possible is the right choice for someone who doesn't love you.
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