Who are the people to watch out for in the workplace, or even to stay away from? These are the types of people you need to be on the lookout for
Enemies are always more “loyal” than friends, who are grateful for a momentary favor, but enemies harbor long-lasting resentment. — The Evolution of Rights
The workplace is an arena of power, following the law of survival of the fittest, the so-called friends may become enemies due to the conflict of interests, the higher you go, the more obvious, do not deny the existence of mutual support, mutual achievement, but it is rare, especially when it comes to their interests.
Therefore, “knowing people” is one of the necessary skills for people in the workplace, whether they are in a high position or at the bottom of the staff, to distinguish clearly which people can be in deep friendship, and which people need to be guarded against.
You may only sometimes meet the people you want to make friends with, but the people you need to watch out for can be found everywhere. The following types of people need to pay attention to the best as soon as possible to prevent.
01. People who have nothing to do, but want to do something
I once had a colleague who seemed to thrive on creating unnecessary drama in the workplace. Always meddling in other people’s affairs and stirring up trouble, their actions created a toxic environment. To maintain a positive work atmosphere, I had to keep my distance from this individual, as their constant involvement in trivial matters was disruptive and unproductive.
Some people have nothing to do, have to find something, they not only move right and wrong, they also have a lot of right and wrong, with this kind of people must keep a distance, they are like a pile of dog shit, not only their odor but also will attract the annoying flies.
These kinds of people are generally small-minded and have a very double standard, a little thing will let them remember to hate for a long time, what they do seems to justify, their misbehavior, but they also like to blame others.
For this kind of people as soon as possible, if you are strong enough, let them get as far as possible to get away.
Today, their parents are in the east, tomorrow they are in the west, and the day after tomorrow they don’t know what’s going on. Obviously, their own lives are a mess, but they also point their fingers at other people’s lives, and when other people don’t want to care about them, they are still not happy.
To make right and wrong to them is a routine, do not know when they will be offended by such people, to avoid consuming themselves, avoiding a little must be right.
02. In front of the leader to tear down the person
In a previous job, there was a co-worker who consistently tried to undermine colleagues in front of our superiors. This person would take credit for others’ ideas and subtly criticize team members to make themselves look better. It taught me to be cautious of those who prioritize personal gain over teamwork, as their actions can erode trust and damage the overall work dynamic.
It’s okay to like to perform in front of the leader, but it’s not a prerequisite to step on others to elevate yourself. Some people are not very capable, but they want to perform in front of their leaders, so they are used to tearing down their leaders.
When you are upset, and will apologize to you, saying that they do not mean it, but only the attitude of seriousness and responsibility for the work, the truth, and hope to get your forgiveness.
If you pursue, that is, you are small-minded, and calculating, if you do not pursue, next time there will be an opportunity for you to tear down the stage, this kind of person either be directly “knocked to death”, or as early as possible to guard against, if there is that heart, but also to give them planing pits, so that they jumped into.
This kind of people need to be on guard, but not necessarily far away, precisely because there is the existence of such people, but also a reminder to themselves, so that the work to reduce the leakage, the significance of the existence of this kind of people, perhaps in this.
This kind of people must be guarded against as soon as possible, otherwise they will become more serious, stomping on the face, the more you do not care, the more they are reckless.
03. People who deliberately weaken key information
I’ve encountered individuals who, during project discussions, downplayed the importance of certain tasks intentionally. Later, when mistakes occurred, they would shift blame onto others, claiming the information was clear. This experience emphasized the need to carefully assess communication dynamics, ensuring that key information isn’t deliberately weakened to manipulate perceptions and responsibilities.
Communication between people is not the only key information, and because of this, some people often deliberately weaken the key information, resulting in errors in your judgment, although for their reasons, but the depth of the other side of the heart, you have to be prepared.
For example, the leader arranged three things, the first of which is very important, but he just skimmed over it, emphasizing the second and third things, when you make a mistake, after the mistake, he will come to comfort you and say to you: “I thought you knew the first thing is important, do not need to remind you, I did not think, you are still not clear.
Objectively speaking, things have their problems, and the other party said so, you can not compare. If you do, the other party will have something to say, “Who am I? Who am I that you listen to me so much? You don’t have any judgment, and you’re blaming it on me, so it’s not a good thing to do.”
Deliberately weakening the key information to guide you to focus on other things, the unit of this kind of people are not in the minority, because we have different positions, there is competition, hiding information is not as good as weakening the information to play a better effect.
Many things can not be hidden, but the weakening of key information, and preconceived ideas, will allow people to enter the blind spot of thinking, leading to errors in judgment, and then make some seemingly stupid behavior.
04. All right to brotherhood and brotherhood, something can not find people
I’ve had colleagues who were quick to establish a camaraderie when everything was smooth sailing but conveniently disappeared when challenges arose. It made me realize the importance of identifying genuine allies in the workplace — those who contribute value and support not just during good times but also when faced with difficulties.
You must have such a person around you when it’s all right, brotherhood, brotherhood, but when it comes to something, not to push the three is to block the four, either not coincidentally, or “not in the line”. This kind of person also has a characteristic, that often appears when there is nothing wrong, when there is something disappeared faster than anyone else.
Workplace people do not necessarily have sincerity, but there must be value exchange, since something can not help, why hard to together? Seemingly with utilitarian interaction, but who is not in the workplace?
This kind of person is not in the minority, perhaps not they really cannot help you, likely, your heart weight is not enough.
Mutual support should also be, mutual achievement also, everyone’s time and energy are limited, there is no need to waste time in the body of unworthy people, and their relationship with them is better than reading a few books more useful.
It’s a pity that many people can’t see the status quo, and need to find a sense of existence in these people, which is a waste of life and time.
05. People who tie you up with morals and feelings
There have been instances where colleagues tried to leverage emotions and moral obligations to obtain favors. They would cite the “good relationship” as a reason for assistance. This taught me the importance of distinguishing between genuine requests based on mutual benefit and manipulative attempts to exploit emotions for personal gain. Building a professional network involves reciprocal value exchange rather than emotional manipulation.
In the workplace, most of the time we interact with each other in the exchange of values, there is also the case of resource replacement. But some people always take the morality, emotion as a front to try to whore.
They don’t want to give anything but still want to get benefits from you. “We have such a good relationship, this help you must help me.” It seems to be saying that if you don’t help me, our relationship will be over.
A true friend will put themselves in your shoes, like, “This is a tough one, I can do 1, 2, 3, do you think you can help me on that basis?”
Many people think that friends should help each other, but more often than not, it’s the exchange of values and resources that takes precedence. Even if you can’t achieve it, because of the existence of feelings, you need to say what you can give, and then make a request.
Feelings are just a bridge for value exchange, they cannot replace the chips in your hand. Feelings can accelerate value exchange, but they cannot replace the value itself.
For those who always take the feelings of people to say, try to stay vigilant, it is easy because he does not have chips, and blame the responsibility on your head.
To put it another way, in addition to the next of kin, no one will carry you all the way, walking ninety-nine steps, the last step of the need for others to pull a hand, tug a bit, rather than under the guise of feelings, trying to get others to carry you all the way.
Knowing people is one of the essential skills in the workplace. If you can’t recognize people, you will easily be dragged down by these types of people. Some people are worth making friends with, while others are willing to try their best, and even have to be prepared for them as soon as possible. Stay away from these people, and you’ll find that your life will be clearer and brighter.
