Who is more reliable in his old age, his daughter-in-law or his daughter?
Raising children to provide for old age is a common idea among the older generation. They believe that only by raising their children can they provide for themselves in old age.
And now some young people also want to support their parents by their abilities.
It is believed that when an old man is in his old age, neither his son nor daughter can be relied upon, and only his daughter-in-law is the most reliable.
So in old age, who is more reliable, daughter-in-law or daughter?
The three old men told the truth and it was very realistic.
1. Grandma Wandy: you can’t rely on anyone, you still have to rely on yourself
Grandma Wandy is over 70 years old this year. She has two sons and a daughter.
Among them, the eldest daughter-in-law was very unkind to her. She often looked down on Grandma Wang and always disliked her smelly body.
At first, Grandma Wandy thought her eldest daughter-in-law was acting like this because of her poor health, so she didn’t care. But after a long time, she realized that she was wrong.
Grandma Wandy usually doesn’t like to eat with her eldest daughter-in-law. She always eats vegetarian food and does not eat meat, and every time she eats at the dinner table, she only has some vegetables.
Later, Grandma Wandy said to her eldest daughter-in-law: “Don’t be a vegetarian anymore. Living conditions are so good now. You can’t just be a vegetarian to save money. You have to learn to enjoy life.”
From then on, the eldest daughter-in-law was never looked down upon her again.
2. Uncle Peter, your daughter is trustworthy. After all, she is your biological child.
Uncle Peter said that he was very filial to his parents when he was young.
Because life was relatively difficult at that time, his parents had little time to take care of him, and he had no complaints and would send money to his parents every month.
However, as he grew older, Uncle Peter also developed some physical problems and could no longer do heavy work. By that time, his wife was no longer able to care for him.
Although his daughter was his biological child, after she got married, Uncle Peter discovered that his daughter already had a family of her own and her life was very stressful.
So my daughter also needs to go to work to earn money to support herself and her family.
Uncle Peter said: “If I could have had more children when I was young, I wouldn’t be so lonely in my old age.
But now that I am old, I may not be able to afford another child. “
Therefore, Uncle Peter believes that his daughter is trustworthy, as she is his biological child after all.
But the daughter-in-law is different. After all, she is someone who is not related to her by blood.
3. Uncle Leo, your daughter-in-law is reliable. After all, they live close to each other.
Uncle Leo is 68 years old this year. When he was young, he was a businessman. He made a lot of money and lived a relatively prosperous life.
So after his son got married, he took him to live in the city.
But Uncle Leo was not used to life in the city and felt that it was no different from his hometown, so he decided to return to the countryside for retirement.
Uncle Leo said: “My daughter-in-law is reliable. After all, we live close to each other and my son often visits me.”
Old-age care does not depend on sons and daughters but requires the joint efforts of two people.
In daily life, both daughters-in-law and daughters must respect their parents.
As an elder, you must understand that when you are old, you need the company and care of your children, rather than pinning all your hopes on your sons.
If you only want to rely on your son to support you in old age, then when your son has a family, he will not be willing to go home to visit the elderly frequently.
Therefore, both sons and daughters are an indispensable part of the elderly’s life in their later years.
Young people can visit their parents more often if financial conditions permit, or hire nannies for the elderly to take care of their daily life.
This can not only reduce the burden on the elderly but also provide them with more spiritual companionship in their later years.
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