Women with bad character like to compare themselves to four things.
I am a somewhat “lazy” person, at least in my thinking. I am often lazy. I am unwilling to think about people and things too complicatedly, and I am unwilling to think about everything in a bad direction.
In the past, my best friend described me as “a person who can’t even bear to lie to liars .” I think it’s good to be silly. Stupid people are blessed with stupid things.
I don’t know if it’s because of same-sex repulsion, but there are always some women around me who annoy me, and I hate how they do one thing in front of me and do another thing behind their backs. They greet each other with a smile on the surface, but secretly they are sharpening their knives. Maybe they will stab each other and then run away.
After communicating with several female friends with whom I have good relationships, I found that the women we both hate have the same characteristics, so I summarized them and shared them with you:
1. Compare husbands
I don’t know if it’s my misunderstanding, but I always think that women who have nothing better than their husbands are mostly unhappy.
They can describe their husbands as beautiful as flowers and as beautiful as heaven and earth, but no one knows whether he is as “perfect” as she said.
I feel that a truly happy woman does not need to show off her happiness to anyone. While showing off, you will attract envy, jealousy, and hatred to yourself, and it may even give people with ulterior motives an opportunity to take advantage of you. Why bother?
Whether a woman is living well or not, the smile on her face cannot deceive others.
It’s not often that there are similar headlines on the Internet, “That wife-loving maniac in the circle of friends cheated on me. ” Don’t get to know a person, her family, and partner from the circle of friends. If the circle of friends is all real, the mask on everyone’s face will be meaningless.
2. Compare the children
I don’t know since when children have become a tool for women to compare themselves to.
“My child is learning the piano”, “My child is learning the violin”… the comparisons, apart from satisfying women’s self-righteous self-esteem and vanity, what else can they do?
Even if I get admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, does it mean I will have a worry-free life? Nowadays, parents are indeed dazzled by the various interest classes for their children, but this should not become a subject of comparison among women.
I have a friend whose son started taking Lego classes when he was three years old, and then gradually added English classes, Go classes, chess classes, and football classes.
Her son is eight years old this year. Every weekend is when she is the most tired. I asked her why she enrolled her child in so many classes.
She said, “I can’t help it. My son likes it. As long as he likes it, I will support him.” She is never ostentatious or showy. She just thinks that her child likes it and never forces him to learn anything. Her husband’s annual salary is eight figures, but she mostly takes the subway when traveling. I admire him.
3. Compare money
As for money, when you think you have reached your peak, others may have more than you when they are born.
When you bring your LV, you just don’t know Hermès when someone else orders a customized version of Hermès. No one would mind having too much money but don’t think about how much you have. Perhaps to others, your money is just a drop in their bucket.
You can have fun secretly, hide under the covers, and laugh out loud. There is no need to compete with anyone.
There is a saying that goes well, the greatest pain for people comes from comparison.
What does it matter if you have more money or less? Do you particularly enjoy the days when you lie in money and cry? If not, put away your sense of superiority in front of anyone.
So what if you are as rich as the country? When others parallel you, your money is just numbers and symbols. In the eyes of contented people, you are a joke.
4. Compare lover
One day, I ate with a classmate I had not seen for several years. From then on, I decided not to eat with her anymore.
She also found another female friend that day. She thought it would be good for the three women to have a show and chat, but who knew that halfway through the meal, the two of them competed with their lovers.
Take turns in the video to see whose lover is fresher. While we were drinking and drinking, several people were chatting animatedly. I had a feeling that my role should be that of a waiter, refilling the glasses for them at any time.
When the temperature dropped a little, she said to me, “My dear, haven’t you found a lover?” I smiled and said, “I’m looking, but I haven’t found the right one yet.”
She said, “I have a few good ones that I can introduce to you.”
I replied, “Goodbye. I have good teeth and I like older people.”
I was very tired after that meal. I was bored and could only drink by myself. I drank seven or eight bottles of beer without feeling drunk at all. I am grateful to myself for not losing my taste in wine and my character.
I don’t like people who have lovers, men and women alike.
However, if my male friends have lovers, I will tell them to remember to go home after playing.
If my female friends have lovers, I would tell them to protect themselves. However, I have no interest in the role of the lover at all, and it feels very boring.
There are times when you have a few ambiguous words, and you hide when your lover is around. When your partner’s cell phone rings in the middle of the night, you worry about whether your scandal has been exposed. If you have some free time, wouldn’t it be nice to have dinner by yourself? Aren’t you moved by watching the movie yourself? Wouldn’t it be nice to travel by yourself?
Finding a lover can indeed bring some passion and freshness, but after that, forget it, men take advantage, women take advantage, and everyone is satisfied.
A few years ago, there was a female colleague in my company who was born in the 1990s and had an unpleasant experience. She told me, “You don’t know, he is so handsome. If I don’t sleep with him, he will feel that he has suffered a big loss.” At that moment, I couldn’t laugh or cry.
Well, I respect everyone’s choice, but I will never agree with it, let alone follow it.
I am not very noble or pure, I just think that a woman should have her own principles and bottom line. Living your life well is better than anything else.
A woman who is better than her husband, is he nice to you? Are you happier than a woman with children? Women than money, what do you get? Women who are better than lovers, isn’t the reason why you are looking for a lover because you are lonely and cold?
From time to time, when alone, my heart feels cold. When you have time, fill yourself with a hot water bottle and warm your heart.
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