I have heard of a law that no matter what you do, as long as you care about it and have a strong desire, it will usually fail. The most typical case is that in a relationship, the party you care about most often suffers the most harm.
The same is true in the workplace. The stronger the desire, the easier it is to lose to the word “care”. The heart is extremely demanding and will be affected by any disturbance to affect one’s fragile nerves. In the end, the problem of worrying about gains and losses will lead to the loss of one’s structure and vision. All their thoughts and energy are infected by this incident, and in the end, they are helpless and panicked. Generally, there will be no good results.
A former colleague, Old A, was just such a person. His desire for a position exceeded that of anyone I knew. His mind was filled with the idea of promotion. He only wanted to become a manager and get an annual salary. He wanted to be the best in everything. Fighting for first place, I joked every time, “Old A, I feel like your eyes are glowing red.”
Lao A’s family conditions are not good, and he has been looked down upon since he was a child. When he was in school, he was bullied by students from good families, which caused a serious psychological shadow. In his world, he was extremely eager to be looked down upon and used. Success comes to prove himself, to prove his strength to those who look down on him.
My favorite movie to watch is “The Wolf of Wall Street”. I agree with the classic quotes in it. I give my best at work. Because I am not married, I often sleep in the company. I am a truly wolf-like employee, and my performance has always been among the best in the team.
However, the promotion that Old A longed for has never fallen to him. The company has been doing Tai Chi and drawing pie, making Old A always think that he is not good enough and constantly put pressure on himself. In fact, the real reason is that Lao A’s character and idea are the best candidates to be employees, which can ensure the team’s combat effectiveness and can even force other employees to grow through involution. This is the company’s idea of employing people.
But Old A’s promotion is opposed by all the middle-level managers. The most important thing is that they are afraid that Old A will threaten their status. Almost everyone knows this internal reason, but Old A doesn’t want to believe it.
Therefore, although Old A works hard and has excellent performance, he will never be promoted. He is just the catfish among the sardines, always acting as a propellant.
Those of us who work hard in the workplace must avoid becoming this kind of person, where efforts are not proportional to rewards.
1. Don’t expose your desires
In the workplace, especially in the marketing industry, it is very dangerous to expose your desires too much. If you keep talking about your ambition and loyalty to your colleagues and leaders, if it exceeds a certain level, people will think that you are ambitious. If it is too big, your colleagues will think you are difficult to get along with, and your boss will think you are difficult to control.
Once you are labeled like this, unless you have an excellent background, you will definitely have no chance of promotion, because no vested interest group will let a person who is difficult to control occupy a certain position.
Therefore, in the workplace, be a low-key person, don’t tell anyone your thoughts, work hard in secret, and use all resources to fight for opportunities, but don’t say anything.
2. Pretending to be stupid is necessary
Remember, the first rule of the workplace is that those who treat others as fools are themselves the biggest fools. Everyone who works in the workplace is not stupid. Why do you think he is stupid? Because that is his purpose. , he just wants you to think he is stupid.
Pretending to be stupid is a great way to solve many problems in the workplace, and it can also greatly eliminate other people’s hostility. When everyone feels that you are not a threat, that’s when you can make a fortune in silence. Too many distractions will slow down your work while acting naive can effectively provide you with a space for development and growth.
By using the time when no one is bothering you or targeting you, you can delve into your work and improve your business capabilities; you can also develop your own side business and find a way out for yourself .
3. Find a line
As the saying goes, “ lower your head when pulling a cart, and raise your head to look at the road.” No matter how well you do your job, that is, how well you pull the cart, if you want to reach a certain platform, you can’t do it without looking up at the road. I once identified a People who have maintained their relationship behind their backs. After that person got up, I got up too.
As an ordinary person, without a strong background, how to look at the road is to find someone who you think has a lot of room for growth, secretly maintain the relationship with him, do not make any announcement or publicity, and before he has grown up, Make the relationship strong. Don’t wait until the other person has grown up before you start a relationship. That kind of relationship will not be stable.
Don’t just show your kindness to a leader when you see him. It’s more important to catch one useful person than to show your kindness to ten big leaders. This is what is often said, “the county official is not as good as the current manager .” You must understand this truth before you can watch. Don’t do useless work on the road.
If you want to be successful in the workplace, you must remember that “caring too much” is often the most fundamental reason for failure. You must hide your desires in your heart and take action in your hands. Only in this way can you seize opportunities and fly away.
You won’t lose the battle because you “care” too much.
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