1. Reasonable, but not loud
My friend once shared one thing with me.
In a cafe, a male customer suddenly stood up and shouted：
“ Waiter, come to me！ This cup of black tea must have expired, this has agglomerated you and sold it, is it wrong? ”
The waiter quickly walked over, looked at the cup, and said with a smile：
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“ Sorry sir, I will give you a new cup immediately. ”
Soon, a cup of black tea came over, just like the previous cup, next to fresh lemon and milk.
The waiter said in detail：
“Mr., can you give you a suggestion？If lemon is placed in black tea, stop adding milk. Because citric acid can cause milk to clump, it looks like it has expired. ”
After speaking, the waiter left.
The male customer was flushed after listening to this, and after only a few sips, he hurried away.
The waiter’s colleagues saw this scene, which was very puzzling: “Clearly he was wrong, he still has ⁇, why don’t you refute him? ”
The waiter said: “ Because he is rude, we have to be polite. Otherwise, will it not be noisy？ And what you understand as soon as you say it, why refute it loudly? ”
Yeah, the voice is high and does not make sense for one person.
In many cases, the more unreasonable people like to raise the volume to frighten people; and reasonable people often answer each other with warm whispers.
Remember the real story, Leo often broke through and caused a mess to clean up his parents.
When his mother knew it, she often ran out of fire and picked up the chicken hair ⁇ and reprimanded the child in the house.
However, Leo was still dissatisfied with his mother during the rebellious period. Many times, he locked himself in the room and went on a hunger strike.
Mom had to be so angry that she scolded him loudly across the door.
At this time, Dad walked over, knocked on the door softly, and gently asked Leo to open the door for him to come in and talk.
After that, sitting by his bed, his dad told Leo carefully.
After some conversation, Leo also deeply reflected on his mistakes, and finally reconciled with his mother, and the family also restored the atmosphere of fun and harmony.
The volume increases, and it is easy to ignite the anger in each other’s hearts, causing the contradiction to become less and less controlled.
Smart people often know how to control their volume, maintain a calm voice, and eliminate the bad emotions generated by each other.
It is said reasonable, but not loud.
Warm words and warm words often have more power than words.
2. The volume of speaking, hides the inner cultivation of a person
It is said: “ It is instinct to speak loudly; whispering is civilization. ”
The volume of a person speaking hides his inner cultivation.
Once back home, I met two girls on the high-speed rail. They were dressed as dignified and beautiful, which was very attractive.
But their behavior makes people feel very uncomfortable.
Soon after the train started, they turned on their phones to play funny videos and laughed while watching, regardless of the feelings of the passengers next to them.
At this time, an uncle walked over, patted their shoulders gently, and asked them to lower the volume slightly.
Unwanted, one of the girls raised her volume and said：
“ When we buy a ticket, we have the right to do what we like in our seats. Whoever cares about others, should I let everyone comment?
If you feel too noisy, take your headphones and chant！ Anyway, it is not our fault. ”
Hearing this, the uncle shook his head helplessly and walked away silently.
The people next to it also lamented: “Such a beautiful girl, but so uncultivated. What a pity. ”
It is said that cultivation is hidden in details.
Even if a person looks good again, is talented, and has a real thing, if there is no internal cultivation, everything is an empty shell.
I have heard a very interesting sentence: “Solid ink silent empty ink ringing, full bottle without half a bottle shaking. ”
The big intention is that bottles filled with ink have no loud noise, and those bottles that are not filled with ink can easily make a loud noise；
It is difficult to shake the bottle filled with ink, and there is no bottle filled with ink. As long as it shakes gently, it shakes very badly.
The volume of a person speaking, and so on.
The greater the volume of speaking, the more background it does not mean, the more convincing it can be said.
People who can control the volume are often gentle and understand that they can tune people, rather than express their abilities by sound pressure.
“ It is more respectable than those who try to suppress the world with their big throats and make the world quiet and listen to your whisper. ”
The more cultivated people, the more they know how to control their volume.
3. Your volume exposes your level
it is said that people are silent and the water is deep and silent
The volume is high and low, and sometimes it is not just etiquette, but also a human level and an embodiment of human character.
Once, the company organized to go to the movies. When the movie ticket was issued, a little episode occurred.
A colleague angrily found the staff who issued the movie ticket and questioned him: “Why are other people’s seats so good, my seat bias is the last row, and it is still the position of the side! ”
The colleague’s voice was so loud that everyone present turned his head and looked at him.
The staff member felt extremely embarrassed, so he responded loudly: “The location is arranged according to the regulations, how can it be your turn to change? ”
So, the two of you quarreled with me.
At this time, the person in charge of the cinema came over and asked what was going on.
After knowing the ins and outs of things, the person in charge did not send out his colleagues at will, but approached the other’s ears and said a few whispers.
The colleague’s face gradually turned cloudy and finally happily returned to the arranged seat.
Afterward, I met the person in charge and couldn’t help asking him: “ What did you say to him？ Why did his anger disappear all at once? ”
The person in charge said：
“I explained the process of issuing movie tickets, just because the way I spoke to him was that he lost his breath.
When the other party’s speaking volume is too high, as a party to reply, I should not be able to compete with the volume. The best way is to use Jockang. ”
“ It is best to consciously reduce the volume when speaking, not just because it is too loud to quarrel with others, but because if a person does not control his volume well, it will make it difficult for others to trust your other abilities. ”
The lower the level, the more you like to scold loudly; the higher the level, the more you understand and treat people gently.
People are always mutual. How do you treat people, how do others treat you?
If you want others to respect you, learn to respect others first；
If you want the other party to talk to you well, you know how to talk to others.
For the rest of your life, may you be a gentle and kind person, say like a spring rain, with a warm and hearty power.
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